173 – Depressed in Motel Rooms, Animals, and MORE

Hey there! It’s Dr. Dave the “V”. That stands for David the vegan. Welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. I am still in Breckenridge, Colorado recording this live for you. It’s going to be a great show today. Remember this is the show where I help YOU live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier.

I’ve got a great one and the reason it’s a great one is because we’re going to be doing another 3 questions. This is when I go on Facebook and say I am going to take the first 3 questions and I will answer them no matter what they are. It’s going to be a little bit different because I have 4. #3 and #4 came in so close so to be fair I will answer 4 today. So let’s get going. This is going to be a packed show. You’re going to love it!

1. How do you deal with violence against animals on a personal level? – Blooms Day

That’s a great question! Number 1 , I’d say the biggest thing that I do is that I don’t consume animals. I do not participate in animal agriculture, I do not consume animals, I do not wear animals, and I do not go and see animals for my entertainment.

And by the way, I am so glad that Ringling Brothers, Barnum, & Bailey Circus is just giving up. They couldn’t make it because there’s just too much awareness and activism and people are seeing how these animals are being terribly terribly abused and suffering. And they called it quits. And I know a lot of people messaged me on Facebook and said “but Dave don’t you care about all the people there that are losing their jobs? Of course I do! I am a humanitarian. I love people. But guess what? These people can find other jobs. These people will find other jobs. They are talented people. The animals had no voice. They had no say! It was a no brainer. It had to end. And I am so glad that the circus is ending.

That’s probably the primary way that I deal with violence against animals. I am vegan and I do not use animals for food, clothing, or entertainment.

About 16 or 17 years ago, I rescued 3 cats that were outside in the cold. I brought them in and gave them a wonderful home and they’re still our cats. Their names are Phil, Ackley, and Jade. I think animal rescue is a really great thing. I did it. And there are only so many animals that we can take care of at one time. So I’ve got 3 that I rescued and saved their lives.

I give money to animal charities. I also try to educate others. I don’t force my being vegan down other people’s throats. I am not the kind of person that says you better be vegan or I am not going to like you or respect you. I don’t do that. I lead by example. People see that I am approaching 62 years old and I am pretty damn healthy looking. And that’s because I don’t eat animals. I just kinda throw little hints out there that it’s the best way to live. And a lot of people follow me. To this day, I think I am responsible for turning on about 110-120 people to become vegan.

So Bloom’s, great question! And I hope I answered that really thoroughly for you.

2. What attracted you to Breckenridge? – Jason Powell

For those of you that don’t know, I love Breckenridge, Colorado. I come out here at least twice per year with my wife Yoko. We’re here right now. We spend a good month plus here in the winter and a good couple weeks (at least) in the summer. What attracted me to this area was originally skiing. I love skiing and I want to come out here more to get better and better. Probably about 8 years ago, I was a decent intermediate skier. And I just felt like the only way that I was going to get better was to come out here and ski for a month straight every winter. And I did! And I got better at the blacks and the double blacks and the expert slopes. I’m still not the best person on the mountain, trust me. But I can hold my own. I’m decent. So I love the skiing out here.

But, what I have found when I am in Breckenridge, is that being outdoors in the mountains we don’t drive a lot here. Everything is within walking distance. I get exercise every day. Whether it’s walking to the chair lift, walking through town. The other day for the very first time in my life, I actually cross country skied and snowshoed in the same day. And we like to hike. And in the summer, Yoko and I like to do a lot of hiking and we do a race or two every season here. By the way, a half marathon in the mountains is very very difficult. And we like to hike up 14’ers. A 14’er is a mountain whose altitude is 14,000 feet plus. Let me tell you something. Try hiking up a 14’er at some point. It is not easy. The air is thin. It’s usually pretty steep, and rocky, and slippery. But you should try it! There is no such thing as an easy 14’er. It just doesn’t exist. There is no such thing as easy when hiking up a 14’er. But I think a good beginner’s 14’er would be Mt. Quandary just outside of Breckenridge. Very easy access to get there from Breckenridge. I wouldn’t do it in the winter. I would do it in the summer months only. During the summer you really should pay attention and be off of the exposed area of the mountain by noon. Because if you are on the peak at the summit when lightning strikes, you’ve got some problems. Time it so that you can start early in the morning and you are off the peak noon.

So when I come out here, I just find that I eat healthier, I lose weight, it’s kind of like a cleanse. I think toxins build up when I am living on the East coast. They just do. But when I am out in Breckenridge, I am able to catch up with better eating and exercising everyday. Losing a little bit of weight that I may have put on while on the East coast.

That’s why we love it here! The sheer beauty of what’s going on here.

So Jason, I hope that answered your question. Thanks for asking that.

3. Amalgam or composite? – Jarrod Thomas

As most of you know, I am a dentist by profession. I don’t practice dentistry anymore but I am trained as a dentist. I am licensed as a dentist. And I am also a dental motivational speaker in addition to what I am doing here with The David Madow Lifestyle Show. So I think this question came from a dentist 😉

Amalgam are the old time silver mercury fillings that we used to put in people’s teeth. They look dark and grey and are made of metal. Composite is a tooth colored plastic resin filling that is bonded to the tooth instead of being shoved into the tooth like an amalgam.

This is not a dental podcast but since he asked this, it’s very interesting. To this day, there’s a lot of controversy out there. There are dentists that believe that every person should have all amalgam taken out of their mouth because it’s toxic and it’s dangerous. And even if the amalgam (mercury/silver) was placed in your mouth 20 years, some people are saying that you’ve got to get it out because it’s leeching mercury vapor and is possibly causing all kinds of possible medical issues, disease, etc.

Now, I don’t have the answer to that. If I were a practicing dentist today, I would absolutely not be doing any mercury fillings for sure. But would I be taking them out of everybody’s mouth that has them if they’ve been there for 20 years and look fantastic? I’m not so sure. There are two camps. Some docs say you’ve got to get them all out and others say no if they’re not causing any problems and there no leaking and there’s no decay around them, leave them.

So I am not sure. I don’t have the answer. Some of the smartest people on both sides make excellent arguments. So I just don’t know. In my mouth, I think I have one tiny amalgam filling. Am I going to get that ripped out and have it replaced? I don’t know. I haven’t done it yet. We’ll see.

There’s some compelling stories though from people that say they had all kinds of problems and once they replaced them with composite fillings, they say their problems all went away. So I don’t know. Who am I to say? But thanks so much for that question Jerrod!

4. How long did it take to rebuild your life when when you were going through the worst of times in a motel room? – Mallory Henderson

Many of you know, if you’re regular listeners, back in 2000 or 2001 I left a marriage that was a 23 year marriage. It wasn’t working for me. I’m not here to bad mouth anybody. That’s not what I do. But let’s just say, it was bad for me and there were some serious issues. If I stayed in that marriage, I don’t know what would have happened to me. I might have died one day soon prematurely because it wasn’t working for my health, for my body, for my psychological make-up. There were some bad things going on. I will say that.

So I left the situation. As Mallory indicated, I was kind of homeless because I didn’t have a place to go. So I found a motel room several miles from where we lived and I just checked in and lived there. I can’t really remember how long but fortunately a lot of that part of my life is just blacked out. And that’s maybe a good thing.

Suffice it to say, I was miserable. I lived in this motel room. I had a car a remember that it was winter so it was cold and snowy and sleeting outside. I would drive to work from this motel room to my office every day. I was depressed and it was just horrible.

There came a point where I knew I couldn’t stay in the motel room any longer. That just wasn’t working at all. So I found a townhouse that I rented. I think I signed a 1 year lease. And I moved in. It was fully furnished but to me the furnishings were to me really depressing and ugly. It wasn’t a super clean place. But at least it wasn’t a motel room.

But I was just depressed there. I felt bad. A lot of the people that I thought would support me when I was in my marriage, turned out to be fake friends. They weren’t really true friends. My true friends stuck with me through bad times as well as of course the good times. You think they are really your friends but when times get tough you find out they are not.

So I was in this depressing townhouse. My phone wasn’t really ringing a lot. I wasn’t talking to a lot of people. It was very tough for me. But I started going out a bit and seeing some people and getting involved with some things. There was never really a distinct date on the calendar. Over time, the feeling of being alone and being depressed and feeling worthless eventually went away. Just trying to be social and have some fun, my life started to get better and better and better. One of the most important things is that I found that it’s not about other people. I found out that I really didn’t love myself.

I had a lot of time to sit alone in that depressing townhouse and contemplate, meditate, think and learn how to truly feel comfortable within. I learned to like and love myself. And that took a lot. That was difficult! Because in the past I would always go with the program, go with the flow. I wasn’t really mindful of my whole life. I was going with the flow in my marriage. I knew in my heart it wasn’t right but I didn’t know what to do. So I just kept doing it. I got out of it but it took a lot of rebuilding time.

Probably after about a year of being in this townhouse, I was riding my bike one day about 4 miles away in a really cool rural area. And I found this house that said “open house”. So I parked my bike down  on the driveway and walked into the house and I said to myself “this is my house. I want to buy this house. This house is going to make me feel good.” Well, a house can’t make you feel good because you still have to feel good within. You have to love yourself. I can’t stress that enough. That is the most important thing. You have to love yourself. But when you come home everyday to a house that’s yours, and clean, furnished the way you like, and has your own music through a system that you installed, and you can do things like cook your own food, you start to feel a lot better.

So Mallory, I love that question and appreciate it. I could talk forever on this. But since that you asked that question, I sense that you might be going through something yourself. Some advice is to realize that it doesn’t happen overnight but you will get better. The situation will improve. You will meet better people. You will feel better about yourself. I guarantee that! I have been through all of this. I have been through hell where I thought wow, if my life continues like this I know my health would have went downhill. It would have been a disaster. So I made the change not knowing what’s going to be on the other side. People stay in the same relationship or they stay in the same job even though they don’t like it but it’s at least comfortable. It’s a known entity and they are not sure what’s on the other side. But let me tell you something. The other side is usually a lot better. If you are in a situation that you know in your heart is not right and you feel it in your gut every day. I promise you the other side will be better. Will it happen right away, no probably not. Will it take a little bit of time? Absolutely!

I can speak to this because I have been through all this. It’s been a good 16+ years now since I left a 23 year marriage and I wouldn’t want it any other way right now. There’s just no way. If somebody said to me, “Dave I will pay you 5 million dollars to go back into that situation.” I would say “screw you![Dave laughs] There’s no flipping way. There’s not enough money in the world. So I hope that illustrates how important it is to make that decision in a situation that’s really bad. I am not a proponent of divorce. I don’t tell people to go out and get divorced. Divorce is tough. It’s difficult. It’s not fun. There’s some people that might stop liking you. There’s still one family out there. I am not mentioning any names but they still despise me because this family felt that I should have remained in the marriage my entire life no matter what. They hate me. [Dave laughs]

Does it sound like a care? My life is great! I found a wonderful woman who respects me and who understands me. And who understands my family. So no, there’s not enough money in the entire world to make me go back into a toxic situation. So I beg you. You know in your heart the right thing to do.

Mallory, great question. And I really hope it not only helped you but that it helped a lot of people out there.

Hey guys, I’ll see you next week! I’m Dr. Dave and I will see you next I promise. You take care!

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172 – Tips From Breck

Hey there! It’s Dr. Dave and welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. It’s the show where I help you live stronger, longer, thinner, healthier, and happier!

If I sound like I’m a little out of breath, I’m really not. This is our first episode this season from Breckenridge, Colorado. Beautiful Breckenridge! Where there are mountains and snow and skiers and snowboarders and people and outdoors activities and fun. For the town itself, the elevation is 9600 feet. So even in the town just sleeping, you’re at almost 2 miles of elevation. And then once you get up on the mountain to ski, all bets are off. They have a chair lift here that brings you to just a tad under 13,000 feet in elevation. So do the math on that. The oxygen is very thin. The air is very thin here.

So I am walking outside. You might be able to hear the snow crunching under my feet. I love it here. I am here with my wife, Yoko. We come every season. We come in the winter and we come in the summer. We would like to live here and we will eventually.

What we love about it is that we don’t have to drive anywhere. Once we’re here, we pretty much walk wherever we want to go. What happens is you start to feel better. It’s almost like a forced exercise. A forced healthy lifestyle. We ski during the day. I do work and my writing. I have my laptop here and get on conference calls. I do all these things. But a lot of times during the day we are out skiing on the mountain or walking through town.

So anyway, we’re here for a while and I’ll probably be doing the next few episodes from beautiful Breckenridge, Colorado. If you’re in the area, send me an email or a message and come through and visit. I would love to have you and hang out with you. I would love to get a cup of coffee or tea with you so let me know if you’re around.

The first thing I want to share with you is actually pretty interesting. The first day I went out on the mountain. It had not snowed for a while so there was not a whole bunch of powder. So you are kinda skiing on “groomed” packed snow if that makes any sense to you. As I was skiing down the mountain, I remembered that in that kind of snow my skis didn’t really perform that well. I was kind of slipping and sliding all over the place, whereas other people seemed to be doing fine. I just felt like I was sliding too much. My skis do really well through powder and at the top of the mountain and things like that. But for a normal type of skiing, I just felt that they could do better.

So I went to a local ski shop here and I demoed a pair of skis. I wanted skis that would allow me to pretty much ski all over the mountain. So I started doing a lot of reading. It said that I should try much shorter skis. Much shorter than most of the people in the stores would recommend.

So I went into a ski shop and the first lady said, “oh no you shouldn’t do that. That’s not going to be good.” And I pretty much thought to myself that my gut was telling me that I wanted some shorter skis.

So I went into another place and I worked with a guy for about 45 minutes and he showed me skis. He was a really nice guy named Matt. And he totally got it! He totally understood that you can do pretty well on short skis. Let’s give it a shot!

So I took these out on the mountain the next day. And let me tell you something. It was like night and day between what I had been skiing on and these new skis that I was demoing. It was like night and day. I felt like I could ski on anything. In the past I was slipping and sliding, but now I felt so comfortable. It was like starting a new skiing career over. I am thinking to myself these things are awesome. I demoed them for another day and I ended up buying them.

Yes, I know I am a minimalist. I don’t get a lot of stuff. This is just one thing. I ski so much and just wanted to have the right equipment. And I wanted to have something that was right for me.

So I started thinking. What else is in our lives that we kind of are putting up with but might not be the best for us? We know in our heart that it’s not right, but we’re too reluctant to change. It could be anything. Think along with me. What could it be? Maybe you’ve been sleeping on a mattress and the mattress is old and is causing lower back pain. And it’s not helping your back. It’s not helping your sleep and you’re getting a horrible night’s sleep. Maybe if you did a little research and bought a new mattress, you will say “I cannot believe I have been sleeping on that other mattress for 5 years!” Because that’s basically what I had been saying about these skis. Because the newer ones are so much better.

Think about anything you might have that for some reason you feel is not working out for you very well and if you only changed it there would be a big difference in the way that product or item works. Maybe it could change your life depending on what it is. Just think about it.

For 3 years I thought that slipping and sliding was the way it was supposed to be but I knew it was not. Because as I saw everybody else around me they didn’t seem to be slipping and sliding like I was.

So I bought these skis. But I want to share something with you about when I bought these skis. I recently went to a seminar. There was a guy on the stage and he was explaining to the audience how to really connect with people. And how to pretty much get something that you want. Not by taking advantage of anyone of doing any harm but how to have an advantage if you’re in a business negotiation or something like that. What he explained was something called C.I.A. “C” stands for compliment, the “I” stands for introduce, and the “A” stands for ask. So this guy said that whenever you are in a situation such as a business situation or you’re meeting someone new or people you don’t know and you don’t know how to really start a conversation, the first thing you do is to go up to a person or a group of people and throw a compliment out there.

So for example, you are at the ski lodge and you’re by yourself. You don’t know anyone around but maybe you want to meet some people. You see a group of people sitting there having lunch. So you look at them and the first thing you say to them is “Hey, you guys look like a fun group here.” Now that sounds a little forced. But imagine going up to a group of people and saying “Hey it looks like you guys are having fun.” Nobody would ever question that. People love to hear that said about themselves or a group.

The next thing you do is to introduce yourself. And then quickly ask a question. “Hey do you guys know where’s the best place on the mountain to ski some powder?” And all of a sudden you are accepted into this group and 30 seconds ago you didn’t even know them. Remember C.I.A.

So say you are a single guy looking for a single woman and you walk into a bar. You could do the same thing. It’s a good way to meet people and it doesn’t look like it’s forced or look phony. Nobody minds being complimented.

The reason I am bringing this up is that I wanted to share an example with you. I used this technique when I bought my pair of skis. You see I just saw this guy on stage a little while ago and I’m also reading one of his books. And I said I’m gonna try this out. What I wanted to do was to see if I could get the best possible deal on the skis. Again nothing unethical or illegal but I wanted to get the best possible deal.

So when I went into the store after I demoed the skis there was another guy, not the guy I dealt with already. So I thought I am going to try it out on this guy. He asked if he could help me and I said “No, I’m waiting for Matt. Matt’s been helping me.” So after a little while and a little small talk, I figured I was going to try it. So I said “It looks like you love working here. This looks like so much fun! Am I right?” And he looked at me and said, “Yeah I’m having too much fun! This is great, right?!”  And then I took my hand out and shook his hand and said, “Hi, my name is Dave.”

I was going to take it to the next level and ask him for help with my skis to really swing a deal but this guy didn’t look like the right kind of guy to be honest. To be honest with you the guy looked stoned. He looked a little out of it and I didn’t want to start up a financial conversation about my skis. It’s legal to buy weed and smoke weed in Colorado so this guy wasn’t doing anything illegal. But it’s probably not the coolest thing to be stoned at work. I don’t think the boss would have liked that too much. I just didn’t think this was the guy. But I was all ready to try that – C.I.A. Compliment, introduce, and ask a question. My question would have been “I’m interested in the skis. I am a regular here and refer lots of customers. What’s the best price you can get me?” But I didn’t ask the stoned guy.

Here’s what I did. When my guy Matt was ready (he was working with another customer), we started talking. He already knew me so I didn’t have to introduce. I think I did throw him a compliment. I thanked him very much and told him that he had been so helpful and that I appreciated him taking the time to work with me. And then I went right into my little spiel. I said, “Hey, let’s price this out. I want to let you know that I am a local who is here all winter and I have referred a lot of people and bought a lot of stuff here. So what’s the best price you can do?” He looked at me and thought for a second and said “Hmmm, don’t tell anybody this because I really shouldn’t be doing this but I am going to give you 20% off.” I look at him and said “20% off of everything? The skis, the bindings, everything?” And he said “Yeah, I’ll give you 20% off everything.” So I look at him and said “I think that’s really fair. Thank you very much!”

So there are a few lessons here. C.I.A. You can meet somebody new, you can negotiate. In business transactions I am very fair, but I also think it’s fair to ask for the best price. Don’t necessarily pay retail. I’ve found that at almost every place that you buy something you can make a deal with them. People think that you can only deal with car dealers and no one else negotiates. You can negotiate almost everywhere. You don’t have to be obnoxious. You don’t have to be a jerk about it. You can just say something kind of like I said in the ski shop. Nothing I said was untrue. I don’t want you to think you should lie or deceive somebody when trying to strike a deal. But there’s nothing wrong with letting somebody know how many people you’ve referred. And that you kind of expect a little deal in return. There’s nothing wrong with that. You’d be surprised how many people come back and say “we just had a sale two weeks ago, let me give you that price.”

Here’s another example. Yoko and I went into a running store called Vertical Runner which, by the way, is North America’s highest running store at an elevation of 9600 feet. Yoko was going to buy 2 pairs of running shoes. So we went in there and Yoko was trying on some trail shoes. And the trail shoes were on sale at a great price. And when something is on sale for a great price, you don’t have to necessarily have to try to get it lower and lower. But the running shoes were fairly expensive. and I even said “Wow that’s a lot of money.” And so immediately the woman who worked there, her name was Molly, she said “let me tell you something, we just had women’s night and I think we gave everyone 20% off so I am going to give you 20% off.” That was just by asking. There’s nothing wrong with it. Don’t be afraid. Don’t be ashamed. The best business people negotiate and get the absolute best prices.

So I think that’s kind of it. I am excited to be here. I am excited to take some of the pounds off that I gained on the East coast because my leg is hurting a little bit. No it’s not the same leg, it’s a different leg. I was playing catch with my son in law about a month ago and took a fall. My leg has been hurting since so I am trying to nurse that a little bit. So when I was back in Maryland, I wasn’t able to do my running and walking as much as I should have and I put on a few pounds. I am not proud of that at all.

But here I am eating healthier. I always eat vegan. I never make exceptions. But there was some processed junk I started throwing in the mix back in Maryland. I shouldn’t have but I did. But here, I’m healthier, I’m moving my body a lot more, skiing on the mountain, walking pretty much every day. On the second full day here, I already noticed. I got on the scale and I’ve already noticed the pounds coming off. Because it is a healthy lifestyle here! You can live a healthy lifestyle wherever you are. Sometimes when you get an injury, it’s tough. My spirits are high. My attitude is great! And I’m going to do the best I can. You know why? Because I’m Dr. Dave and I’ll see you next week!

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171 – Travelling and Not Quitting

Hey there it’s Dr. D the “V!” What’s going on? Welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show! I’m Dr. Dave. And I welcome you. Thanks so much for being here.

Right now I am recording from my outdoor studio right smack in the middle of Manhattan. That’s right New York City. I’m actually right in the middle of a lot of action. You’re gonna hear cars, you’re gonna hear trucks, you’re gonna hear buses, you’re gonna hear horns, you’re gonna hear loud people, but this is where the action is and I love it. And sometimes I like to be totally in solitude like on a 7 day backpack trip where no other human beings are around.

Figure this out. So what is it that I like. Do I like solitude? Do I like a busy city? I normally don’t like cities all that much except there are a few favorite ones that I just love traveling to. I happened to be here for a meeting yesterday and New York happens to be one of my favorites in the world. So when I get a chance to come here, I try to stay an extra day or so and combine it with some pleasure. I would recommend it. If you are listening to me from anywhere on this planet, if you have not visited Manhattan ever in your life or its been a long time, I recommend that you come take a look. There’s so much going on. So many cool people.

But there’s anything you want. And as you know I am trying to minimalize my life. I don’t go shopping anymore. You could come here and spend a fortune on shopping and get some great deals. But the only thing I have bought here over the last 2 1/2 days is food. No clothes, no electronic gadgets, no shoes, nothing. Nothing except food.

I am able to save extra money like that. When you don’t have that lifestyle where you’re always worried about buying something such as a new car or jewelry. I do make an exception for jewelry but the only jewelry that I wear are my beads from Desmond. I wear 3 beads that are full of energy – 3 beaded bracelets. And those are the only jewelry that I wear. I have no gold on, no expensive watch. Oh I have a Fitbit watch. So the only jewelry that I ever wear are my beaded bracelets on my right wrist and my beaded bracelets on my left wrist.

How’s your year coming so far? Can you believe that it’s already the middle of January. Things are going to go fast. I’m warning ya. So if there’s something that you want to do. Including visiting Manhattan. If there’s something that you want to do, whatever it might be; taking a trip, starting a new hobby, writing a book, writing a blog, whatever it might be. I’m going to give you some advice. Don’t hesitate! Don’t procrastinate! Just do it! Nike made millions with that slogan and I hope it’s ok that I stole it but just do it! Don’t worry about making mistakes. You will make some mistakes! Maybe if you’re starting something at the beginning, whatever it might be. Be really bad it. I was bad at so many things. I’m bad at things now as well. But the difference is I just did things.

I want to share a little story with you. I don’t think I’ve spoken about this on a previous episode. But sometimes they just run together and I forget what I talked about a few months ago. Not that I forget the podcasts but I forget if I’ve said something. So I don’t think I’ve said this before.

So here’s what I did. This goes back to the mid to late 1980’s. So a long time ago. I was a practicing dentist and I had an idea that I wanted to do something else. I wasn’t really sure what but I wanted to start another business and I truly had no idea what it was going to be.

Back in those days you had to go to the printer if you wanted to get cards or other stationary made up. These days anybody with a computer or online access can have business cards made up or letterhead or whatever with a logo. But back in those days you had to go to the printer.

So I went to the printer and I had a 1000 business cards made up with a totally made up business name. I still remember what it was to this day. I called myself DMM Management Consultants. It stood for David Michael Madow. I had my address and phone number on them. Back then there were really no fax machines yet or email, so I just had DMM Management Consultants, my name, my address, and my phone number.

Now if you were to ask me what the heck DMM Management Consultants did, I had no idea. But this is really weird. I started handing my card out to people. I didn’t even know what I wanted to do but I knew it was something. So management consultants is kind of a vague enough term. You can do a lot of different things. You could just be a consultant and help people with a lot of things. And remember I was a practicing dentist and I was pretty good with business as well.

So I started handing my card out, and as I started handing my card out and people asked me what I did, I started coming up with different things that I could do in this DMM Management Consultant business. As it turned out I had an idea a few months later to start selling a business form which I did and I started selling them by direct mail. That was like the first thing that DMM Management Consultants did. It worked. It’s the most bizarre thing because like I said when I first started I had no idea what I was going to do. This led to more things and different businesses. And that was kind of the start to my entrepreneurial career. Learning that if you want to do something, don’t flippin’ procrastinate. And don’t worry about if you’re good at it or not.

Back when I was younger, I tried my best to play the guitar. I just sucked, I was horrible. The biggest problem was that if someone said to me “Dave, you’re not good” or something like that, I took it very personally and I put the guitar down. And same thing with singing.

I think I told you this story before but I remember one time somebody told me that my singing always sounded too high. And I didn’t like that so I stopped singing. This is when I was a little kid. I picked up the guitar here and there a little bit and tried to take some lessons but I always kinda sucked and I never did much with the guitar. And I never really did much with singing until I became much older.

I tried it again when I was with my brother Rich. At first I totally sucked. I am sure I sounded horrible. To this day I have sung on stage solo, or with Rich, or with people in front of tens of thousands of people. Some small audiences and some audiences with as many as 5000 people.

The point is, I tried this. I tried it and I was not worried about how much I sucked. And now I do it for a living partly. When I speak at seminars and conferences with my brother Rich, I am on stage playing guitar and singing. And when I do my “10 Ways to Supercharge Your Life” at vegan conferences and veg fests, I oftentimes play my song that I wrote called Vegan on A Jet Plane and I play the guitar. And no I am not fantastic, and no I’m not a great singer, but I get standing ovations for this thing. So my point is not to talk about me and my guitar and my singing.

And by the way, when I first became a public speaker, I was horrible. I had no confidence. I was reading from slides. I was reading from cue cards and notes and it was horrible. I am surprised audiences didn’t get up and walk out. I’m really surprised. But they were courteous and they gave me extra energy to get better and better and better.

So what is it that you want to do? You know in your heart. What do you want to try? Whatever it is. A business, a hobby, a writer, a speaker like me teaching others, whatever it is; please just do it. Please don’t hesitate.

But this isn’t what I was going to talk to you about today. Since I am in New York, I was going to talk to you about traveling, how easy it is, and how you can do it for cheap.

So let me just share with you a few things that I always bring with me when I travel. First of all, when I travel generally it’s to someplace like New York. I will go on some place like hotels.com and find myself a good deal. Like I said during my Hippie Road Trip, you can go to hotels.com or use the app called Hotel Tonight. You can find some really good deals. I am not saying its 100%. Where I am staying in the middle of Manhattan, I got a room for $67 per night. You heard that right. I know there’s a lot of noise in the background here so you may have thought I misspoke. But no, you heard that right. And it was a nice room. Was it a 5 star hotel? Absolutely not! But was it clean and nice and in a good location? Yes!  You can do this. You can’t do it all the time. Sometimes the city is sold out and it’s more difficult. But you can do it.

I carry a lot of my own food. Granted when I am here in New York, I love to go to the vegan restaurants and check them out. Which I’ve done so far here. But I also save a lot of money on food because when I first get to a city, I find a good natural grocery store. Here’s what I do for breakfast. I’ll get some strawberries and carry them back to my room. I wash them off and cut up the strawberries. I will then get my shaker bottle. I usually carry packets of organic instant oatmeal with no sugar added. I’ll open up a packet or a packet and a half and put it in the shaker bottle. I’ll then add a little protein powder. If you’ve been listening to me for a long time, you’ll know I love MRM Protein Powder. I’ll add that to the mix. Just a couple of tablespoons. I’ll add some chia seed, flax seed, or hemp seed. And I’ll top it off with a nice portion of almond milk. About 8 to 10 ounces. I shake that all up and let it sit for about 10 minutes. The almond milk will soak into the oatmeal really well. You don’t have to cook oatmeal. I never knew this. But you can have oatmeal totally raw and it’s fine. So I let it sit for about 5 or 10 minutes. Then you’ve got yourself a nice breakfast. And it’s really inexpensive. And it’s healthier than anything you’re going to get at a diner. I promise you. I promise! It’s great!

And I bring rice crackers and almond butter. But there is something that I always carry with me that is indispensable. I am going to urge you to get this. You can get this on Amazon or at a local Asian market. Locally, in the Maryland area, check out HMart. Look for a Korean spoon. Korean spoons are longer than the typical spoons we are used to [in the U.S.]. They come in either metal or wood. I prefer wood just because it feels really good in my hand. And I carry this Korean spoon so that I can scoop out a big thing of almond butter and put it on a cracker or I can eat anything with it. I actually just used it for my breakfast that I just described to you because as it gets down low sometimes you have to use a longer spoon sometimes. It’s an instrument that I use all the time when I travel, even something that you normally need a fork for. You can use this as a fork. I love it! Go on Amazon or if you’re fortunate enough to have a really nice Asian market, especially a Korean market. 

Something else that I love is that I will go to a Wegman’s or someplace like that and get these chickpea snacks. They are dried chickpeas that are seasoned. They come in bag. And I know in the past I have said to beware of anything that comes in a bag because chances are it’s processed. I guess you could probably call this processed. But they are whole organic chickpeas, they’re just dried and spiced up a little bit. Picture that as a snack you put your hands into, it is wonderful! I carry these wherever I go. I carry almonds. You can also carry break if you like. I’m kinda on a gluten free kick. And I’ll explain why in a future episode. I’m not a 100% gluten free but I’m eliminating wheat and things like. I’m going to see if it makes a differences guys and I will report back to you. I’ve got a couple things that I want to see improved so that’s why I am kinda eliminating the bread, the wheat, and the gluten for now. I’ll get back to you and let you know how it goes.

I used to carry like a whole briefcase that had my connections, and little gadgets, and wires but now I carry one REI backpack. I’ve used a lot of backpacks for travel and this is the best one I’ve ever had. I’m thinking it was probably in the $80 to $90 range. It holds a really nice container of water. It has 3 sections. One I use for food, and I use for electronic type gadgets like this portable microphone and recorder I am recording on now. I always have it with me in my backpack. Always. And another thing I always carry with me is…? You know! What am I going to say? It’s my book of goals. It’s always with me in my backpack or my back pocket. It’s in a small pocket sized notebook. I have my book of goals and I read them every single day.

As I started off the show, I said if there’s something you want to do in your life don’t procrastinate. Put it down on your list of goals and read it every single day. I’m sure it’s going to make it easier for you to get it going.

Those are some of the things that I carry when I travel and I really am able to save a lot of money. Because again I eat a lot of food and snacks in the hotel room or when I’m walking around. But I do like to go to dinner if I’m in a different area and sample vegan restaurants. But I do not go to very expensive ones either. I just don’t feel the need to have to spend a lot of money. Last evening, I was down in Chinatown in a place called Buddha Bodai for dinner. I was by myself. I ordered a main course and it came with tea and the whole thing cost me like $9.95. I also left a tip so it came to a few bucks more than that. You can eat healthy and not have to spend a lot of money for it. You can do it. I am doing it. I’m saving the difference. I’m putting it away. I’m investing it.

And I think we’re due pretty soon for a financial show especially since we are at the beginning of the year. I want to share some things and reinforce some things about money and finances. Because again it’s all about the lifestyle. And if you’re not stressed financially, you’re healthier generally. And your marriage is better generally if you’re not stressed financially. You’ll be setting yourself up for a better life as things come up so I want to help you with that as well. I don’t want to see any of you stressed over finances. And I see a very very high percentage of people in first world countries that are stressed over financial concerns. And it’s funny how I said that – first world countries. But we’ve got our own set of problems. We have a lot of wonderful things here. Think of all the convenient things we have in all these first world countries. But somebody in a third world country is most likely not stressed out over paying off a credit card bill or how they’re going to pay their mortgage or their cable. They’re stressed out over other things like where am I going to get clean water but they’re not stressed out over going bankrupt.

Isn’t it strange? Isn’t kinda weird the way things work? Isn’t it kinda crazy? But I am going to say it’s good. Know what else I am going to say? I am going to say…see you next week! I’m Dr. Dave, Dr. D the “V” with The David Madow Lifestyle Show. I really appreciate you!

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170 – My Three Questions

Hello there! It’s Dr. D the “V”, David Madow. Welcome back to another episode of The David Madow Lifestyle Show. I’m so happy to be back with you for another incredible episode. Today we are going to be doing a show called “My Three Questions.” On Facebook I said that the first three people to ask me questions, whatever they are, I will answer them. And I did that a few weeks ago and it turned out great! I got a bunch of messages from people saying that they really liked the episode and that it was really cool.

So about a week ago, I did another one. And I think you’re really going to enjoy it. I’ve got three really really good ones.

First thing I want to do before we get into them is that I want to welcome new listeners, old listeners, whoever you may be. I really appreciate you! I think over the past few episodes I have neglected to say it to you. If you need me for anything, you can always reach me. My email address is simply dave@davidmadow.com. I always say that if you know my name, which I think you do now, you can find me online anywhere – Facebook, Twitter, Periscope, Instagram, wherever I may be hanging. So I really appreciate you and let’s get right into this episode.

My Three Questions

Question: How do you maintain a positive attitude when everything around you is falling apart? Terri – Maryland

Answer: Terri, first I want to start off my answer by saying, Terri I am so sorry you feel that everything is falling apart. But I am going to disagree with you. Everything is not falling apart. You know how I know that Terri? Because you were able to type this on a computer and transmit is all over the internet. I know you’ve got a computer, you have internet which you are most likely paying for, you likely have a home that is heated, and you’re putting food on the table I’m guessing.

Here’s the thing, a lot of times we feel like we are falling apart and I have felt like this too so I can speak from experience. We go through a bad phase of life; whether it’s a divorce or whether it’s the loss of a job or a health problem, or anything like that. And your mind makes it feel like everything is falling apart. But then you take a stop back and it’s really not. Terri you’re living, you’re breathing, you’re eating, you’re sleeping, you’re doing all the things that human beings do and I just don’t think that we should be in the mindset that everything is falling apart. Do you have struggles? Do you have challenges? Ok, sure! Terri, I do too and probably every single person listening to this episode today has some type of struggles. Some are worse than others. Some are bad and some are not so bad. And maybe you’re going through a really tough time now. If you are Terri, I’m really sorry, I feel bad. But let’s see if we can straighten you out today.

So let’s say that you lost a job (I’m just making this up right now, for all I now that’s not your problem). And it seems that you have little money coming in if any and you have bills to pay. And you’re struggling with that and it’s hard to find a new job because things are tough out there. Let’s just say that’s the case. Maybe it’s getting you down and you feel depressed. I’ve talked about this in the past and on fairly recent episodes. We ALL tend to feel down sometimes. We all tend to feel sad or depressed. Especially this time of year when the days are short and it’s cold out. It’s gloomy and the sun is not as bright as it usually is in the spring and summer. I gave some tips on this in Episode #167 and I hope you go back and listen to them. I wouldn’t give these tips if I didn’t think they work. I know they work.

Not that long ago I was going through a little bit of a tough time myself. I was kind of sad at some points. And I realized, what am I doing differently? For some reason, I got out of the habit of meditating every day like I’ve been doing for a couple years now. Somehow it just slipped away and I got into other things. As soon as I got back and started meditating, almost immediately, I started feeling better. I started to feel more upbeat. And not only that when I meditate I have all kinds of ideas that come into my mind. First of all there’s not way it can hurt you. I’ve never heard of anybody that’s been hurt while meditating. So Terri, I recommend every day or even a couple time a day, sitting down in a comfortable position and putting on relaxing music for 15 minutes at a time. Just concentrate on your breathing – in, out, in, out. You’ll be surprised that when you start doing this every day you’ll feel more at peace with yourself and you’ll start getting ideas. Things are going to come to your mind that are maybe going to help your situation that you’re in right now.

Another thing I would do is to move your body as much as you possibly can right now. I don’t know how you can move your body or what kind of situation you are in but anything you can do to move your body somewhat is better than nothing.

And if you haven’t done this yet, I would cut out animal products from your diet. I know I have said this before and some people don’t believe me but I swear to you that this is true. When you’re consuming animals, you are consuming suffering and sadness. And you’re eating those cells and they are being incorporated into your bodily cells. Again, you are not going to lose anything by trying this. I’ve been through this, I’ve done this, it works!!

So try these things Terri and if you need me for anything feel free to write back and I can help you some more. But I feel that you’re going to turn around. Just remember your whole world is not falling apart. Yeah you’re going through a struggle now. We all have done that. We all have felt that before. And some of us are going through it right now. But I promise you Terri, your world is not falling apart. You have people that love you. You know that. Am I right about that? Plenty of people on this planet love you! So hold your head high and keep your chin up in the air. You’re going to be ok, Terri. I promise!

Question: You mentioned in a Facebook comment not too long ago that you had to beg, borrow, and steal to start your dental practice. What did you steal? Steve – Oklahoma

Answer: [Dave laughs] That is a great question Steve! Um, what did I steal? Well, actually it’s an expression. I did beg a lot and I borrowed a LOT but I don’t think I stole anything. As a matter of fact, I am pretty sure I didn’t steal anything because I believe in living my life the right way and part of that is thou shall not steal. And I really don’t steal. I try to be as ethical as possible. I would never even get into a business venture with anybody I felt wasn’t doing them any good. I would never do something for money if I thought the other person wasn’t getting a really good product or a deal or something. First of all, when you do that, it’s basically stealing from somebody. Somebody’s hard earned money that they are paying you and they trust you to do something for them and you’re taking their money and they are not getting what they thought they would be getting.

So Steve that was a great question! I don’t steal but I want to tell you an interesting story. This goes back to my youth, probably about age 18. I had a car and this car was an AMC Hornet. I loved this thing! It was kind of a cheap piece of junk but I loved it! It was mine and I took good care of it. Not only that I learned how to tune it up and change the oil. Because back then these cars were not run by computers. Anybody could lift the hood up and could basically change their own oil and set the timing. I actually loved tinkering with this thing.

One day I needed some type of part for under the hood. So I went to the local Ames which was kind of like an early version of Target and Kmart. They had like everything there. So I am roaming around the store and I found the part that I needed. It was a tiny little part probably less than $5. I remember I picked this thing up off the shelf and I kinda looked around. And I thought to myself, I’m just going to steal this thing. I don’t want to buy it, I am just going to steal it. I don’t know why I thought that. It wasn’t the money. I had the $5 on me. But I think it was more that I was a young kid and it was a thrill since I had never done it before. I probably just wanted to see if I could get away with it. I don’t know. I don’t understand why I did that. So I looked around the store. And when I was in an aisle that didn’t look like anybody I put the thing in my pocket. And I walked around a little bit more. When it looked like no one was following me, I left the store. And I stole this little part. Again, I don’t know why I did it. But I didn’t feel good about it.

But here’s the thing. It’s the only thing I have ever stolen in my life to my recollection. I don’t think I have ever done that since. I don’t think I have ever ripped anybody off. To this day, about 40 years later, I still remember this and it’s never gonna leave me. It will be with me until the day I die. I won’t forget it. I can’t forget it. And I don’t feel good. Imagine if I did something worse than that. Imagine if I had committed some serious crime or injured or killed somebody.

And I realized maybe it was a lesson. Maybe God, or whomever you believe, was trying to tell me thou shall not steal because if you do it’s going to haunt you for the rest of your life. I can’t say it’s something I think about every single day but Steve when you wrote that question I started thinking about stealing and I did. I remember and I will never do that again. I didn’t get caught. I didn’t get in trouble. But I ripped somebody off. I did something illegal and stole from somebody. That person did not deserve to be stolen from. And here I am remembering it for the rest of my life.

Steve, great question! But yeah opening up my dental practice was kind of a tough time in my life. I did have to borrow from a lot of people and beg a lot of people. We got through it though it though. And things are ok now. Thanks for the question Steve.

Question: How do you decide to go to either go to the ends of the earth again to forgive and forget and move on from a close family member who has been very toxic in your life or that it’s best to let them fade into the sunset and end the relationship permanently? This is heavy on my heart with this being Christmas. Lori – Pennsylvania

Answer: Sorry about the timing but she wrote this around Christmas time and so it’s been a couple weeks. Lori, I am sorry that you’ve got this person that’s been weighing on you. It’s obviously causing a lot of concern, and grief, and bad feelings and you’re wondering what to do. I am not sure what this person did and I am not sure how close or not close you are with this person. But what I’ve been preaching for quite some time on my show, or on Facebook, or wherever I may be talking about this. If somebody crosses you the wrong way, if they do something wrong to you, or they’re not nice to you; then holding a grudge is not a good option.

The reason it’s not a good option is because think about what it’s doing. It’s only hurting the person that’s holding the grudge. It’s only hurting the person that’s hating. It’s only hurting the person that’s holding it into their body because the other person couldn’t care less. They might be a jerk and they don’t really care. They’re going around doing their jerky stuff and they really don’t care. So when you hold a grudge or hold hatred it’s only hurting you. It’s not hurting the other person. So people say “yeah but I can’t let this go. That person did so many bad things to me that I can’t let it go. Well, what are your options? Your options are either hold it in and have it become toxic inside of your body or let it go! Those are the options. And when those two options are available to me guess what I do. I let it go! Now that does not mean that this person has to be your best friend. It does not mean you have to hang out with this person. It does not mean that you have to invite this person over to your house.

I’ve done episode of letting go of the mf’s. You know what that stands for. Let them go! Let them go. Don’t hold any hatred or anger or bad feelings towards them but let go of all the mf’s.

So in your case Lori it sounds like to me there was someone in your family that you were contemplating getting together during Christmas or during holidays and you don’t have a good feeling when you’re with them. They’ve done some bad things or said some bad things to you. And you’re trying to figure out whether you should totally get then out of your life once and for all or have them in your life. Look, there are people in my family that I don’t feel like I am vibrating with on the same level or on the same frequency as they are. I am not saying they are bad people but when I see them I don’t have a warm fuzzy feeling. I’m cordial. I’m nice but I don’t go out of my way to make plans. And I don’t invite them over to my house. And I think that’s they way you should do it. If you’re invited to a party and that person or those people are going to be there, then it’s up to you whether you go or not. And if you go, you can be cordial. They don’t have to be your best friend. But I think as far as holding in anger or hatred, that’s where we have to let go.

So I hope that helped you Lori. The bottom line is to get rid of any anger and get rid of any hatred. Forgive! Forgive what they did to you. But they don’t have to be your best friend and you don’t have to have them over to your house. And you do not have to participate in parties or functions or whatever. If they work with you, then you’ll have to figure that out. Either get rid of them or you leave. But it didn’t sound like a work situation to me. But again my rules apply to whoever they are. If it’s your spouse, that’s a serious problem. You have to work that out or leave. And hopefully working it out is better. Even if it’s a parent. If they’re toxic, you gotta love them, but just don’t go out of your way to get together with them. I hate to say it like that but if it’s going to ruin your day every time you see them, that’s not a good thing either. I hope that helped.

Let’s do another episode like this really soon. How it works is that you can’t write in. I will put in on Facebook and say hey the first three questions, I’ll answer on my next episode. And that’s what I’ll do. I like it! And I like you!

I’ve gotta go now. So until next week. You know who I am, it’s Dr. Dave. Thank you for being a part of this show. See you next time!

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169 – The New Year

It’s Dr. D the “V” and welcome back! Let me be the first one to wish you a Happy New Year! Well ok, maybe I’m not the first one because if I’m right I believe this show comes out the day after the new year. So I might not be the first one to wish you a Happy New Year but I want to wish you a very very Happy New Year whether I am the first one or not. Let’s make 2017 the best year of our lives! The best year that we possibly can.

I am going to do a great show for you today. And by the way several of you wrote in on my Facebook with questions. I said that I would take the first 3 questions and what I am going to do is to do that episode next week. That will be the second episode of 2017 because I’ve got something really special for you that I really want to do since it’s the first one of 2017.

I want to talk to you about lifestyle, about your lifestyle, and about The David Madow Lifestyle and how I think that if you just do some of the things that I do, then your life is going to be so much better. I want to talk to you about some of these.

Is my life perfect? No! Have I learned? Have I figured it out? Yes! Do I do everything right? No! Do I do everything right every day? No! Do I do everything I talk about every single day? No! But I do it a lot and I try to do it every day. And I am going to talk to you about some of the most important things in my life now. Some of the things I have learned over the past year or the past several years. I am always learning. So some of these things I am teaching you I have been doing for a long time such running and walking. I’m going on 40 years as a runner. But some of the other things are a little bit newer. Like eating plant based. It’s only been about 3 years for me. So I am just always learning, always changing, and always evolving.

Let’s talk about some of the things that I do. Pick the ones that you really like. You don’t have to do every single thing that I do. You can do some things differently. It doesn’t matter. I’m here to coach you, to motivate you, and to inspire you. I really want to help you live the best life that you can possibly can. So gather around the speaker wherever you may be and let’s talk about some of these things.

These are not in any order, they are all really important. Number 1 is what you’re putting into your mouth, your nutrition. Your food, your liquids, whatever it may be. I have an analogy for you. You want to make sure that you take really good care of your car so of course you put good fuel in it. You’re not going to put junk in your car. So why would I ever put something in my mouth that going to go into my stomach which ultimately will be absorbed through my entire body. Why would I ever put junk, chemicals, and poison in my mouth? Why would I ever do that? I don’t eat animals any more. They’re just not healthy. And not only that there are so many other reasons. I don’t have to go into them all right now, you know the reasons. I eat whole food plant based. If it’s processed I try my best not to eat it. Am I 100% perfect with that? No! I’d be lying if I said I was perfect but it’s close to it. I try my absolute best. Things that come in a package, a box, a can, a jar, chances are it’s processed. Not always but there’s a good chance. That’s kind of a guideline. If you take something out of a box or a bag there’s a very good chance it’s processed. Be careful and read the ingredients. The more whole foods (something that came from the ground) you put in your body, the better it is. And I take it one step further, I try my best to eat all organic. So every single morning Yoko and I always have a good amount of fruit. Typically strawberries, raspberries, blackberries, blueberries. We love that kind of stuff. In addition to that, we will have some kiwi and mango; whatever is available. I cut it up every morning. It’s kind of my job in the house. It’s part of my morning routine. We will usually have it with vegan cereal, hot oatmeal, nuts, flax seed, chia seed, hemp seed, and almond milk. It’s a delicious breakfast. We don’t overdo it. We don’t eat too much.

Before breakfast I will generally have a banana or two as well. So I eat a lot of raw in the morning.

By the way, I eat one brazil nut every day which gives a really good amount of selenium into your diet which is wonderful stuff.

The point is put whole food, organic, no meat, no eggs, no animal products, no fish, no dairy, please start start your resolution now if you haven’t done this. If you haven’t done it yet, make 2017 the year! Please do that!

Speaking of my morning routine, so I get up early. Early is relative so I don’t have to give a time. As long as I try to get at least 7 hours of sleep. I try to get 7 1/2 to 8 hours of sleep but 7 is my minimum. I get up early every morning and the first thing I do is to check my Facebook and my emails just to make sure nothing came in overnight that’s super important. Then I’ll feed the cats unless Yoko has already fed them. But then I’ll go into a 15 minute meditation where I’m basically just sitting on the sofa in a very quiet room with very good posture sitting up straight I found a 15 minute meditative song that I love. The song is called Tibetan Curing Vibe by TCO. A lot of times I’ll use my iPhone earbuds which goes right into my brain. It just works! So I’ll do a 15 minute meditation, I’ll wash and cut fruit, and put breakfast on the table. I’ll take a bath and do my “Magic 4”. I do a lot in not a lot of time. I wake up early enough so that I have a couple of hours to do all of that stuff. It makes for a great routine in the morning. I suggest that whatever you do, make it a routine.

Too many people just get up quickly, they down some coffee and an egg or something like that, then they run off to whatever they’re doing whether they’re working or whether they have to be somewhere. Ease yourself into the morning by doing a morning routine. Meditation is really really powerful. Or if you have a chance to do some Yoga that’s great too. Meditation and yoga are very powerful things and are part of The David Madow Lifestyle.

Along with moving your body. Getting out and doing the “Magic 4”. If you’re brand new to me, the “Magic 4” means getting outside and walking 4 miles. It works wonders for your body. You can run. I’m a runner but I still love walking. Walking is the best exercise. In my home gym, if you want to call it that, I do pull ups, push ups, squats, lunges, crunches, curls, shoulder presses, all kinds of things. I’ve got a pull up bar in my closet door. It’s one of those things I got for like $20 at the pharmacy. Pull ups are great exercises. And when you do pull ups make sure you are doing them with you hands facing out. It’s part of my routine and part of The David Madow Lifestyle.

What else? I did mention yoga briefly but Yoko and I have been doing yoga for about 7 years now. We do a class with our friend Sandy, which you probably know if you’ve been listening for quite some time. Sandy was a guest on the show (Episode #15)  along time ago. She’s really cool person. She’s a great friend and a really good yoga instructor. She comes over and gives a private yoga class every monday evening. We’ve been doing this for 7 years now. Yoga is a game changer. It is! Don’t expect results overnight. The same thing with meditation. You just have to do it.

Let’s back up and talk about meditation just a bit. I had a time about 3-4 weeks ago, and I’m human just like you are, where I went through a weird things with business and with family and I was going through a kind of weird time. I’m not sure what started it maybe because it was winter or something but I went through a weird time. I was feeling a little bit “not right”. I didn’t feel like David Madow. I didn’t feel 100% mentally. And coincidentally I let my meditation drop off a bit and I wasn’t really doing it like I should have been. Like I have been telling you to do it. And it really made a difference. I started feeling weirder. Weird is good because I’m weird but you know what I mean. So I said to myself, “hey Dave, you know what the problem is. For some reason you took a break from meditating and it’s catching up to you.” Sure enough, that morning I got on my sofa and it made a difference right away.

So again, it’s not like a miracle cure where you meditate and all of a sudden you are on top of the world but I started doing it again every single morning for 15 minutes. And sure enough within a few days to a week, I really noticed a difference. It’s not like you feel high or anything but it made me feel like David Madow again. I don’t have that weird kind of strange feeling to me anymore. Meditation really really works.

A lot of you folks have been writing to me. And I’m sorry if I can’t get to every single email or Facebook message. I apologize but I’ve been getting so many.

So meditation is definitely a game changer. And I realized it when I stopped doing it. It really helps.

So let’s see what else can I talk to you about on The David Madow Lifestyle? Forgiveness! It’s a big one. As a matter of fact, I am going to be talking about that next episode because one of the three questions I got. I don’t have this in front of me because we’re going to do it next week but it came from a listener named Lori. She has a family member that’s rubbing her the wrong way and she wants to know what should she do? I’m going to tell you something, I learned to forgive people and not hold grudges and not hold bad feelings toward anybody, that’s part of The David Madow Lifestyle for sure. It has helped me so much.

I was one that used to have weird feelings towards people that maybe were not nice to me or did me wrong. I held bad feelings. Get rid of the bad feelings. As a matter of fact, when I was doing Periscope broadcasts every single day, I would look at the hearts going on the screen. And if you’re not into Periscope or don’t know what I’m talking about, imagine a screen with a bunch of hearts all over it moving around the screen. Just picture that. What I told people was that if you’ve got somebody that you’re related to or somebody that you know and for some reason they’ve done you wrong, think of that screen. If you’re at a place where you can close your eyes, close your eyes and visualize a screen filled with hearts and they’re all different colors and they’re all moving around. That’s your love for that person. Because the other way around is hatred and hatred doesn’t work. I’ve tried it both ways. Trust me! Trust me hatred does not work. It only destroys your body and your cells. It doesn’t do anything to the other person. It doesn’t hurt the other person at all. It only hurts you. So let’s stop hating. Let’s start forgiving. Let’s stop holding grudges. So forgiveness is a really really big thing.

Next is happiness. If you’re in a relationship or you’re in a job that you just don’t like look into changing something. Because going on and on and on for years in something that is not working for you, whatever it is, it’s not an option. You are going to wake up one day, 10 years are going to go by and you’re going to be in the same “whatever”. You can fill in the blank. Make changes. Try to make it better if you can. If you cannot make it better, get out and find something better. Trust me! It’s The David Madow Lifestyle.

Another thing I want to share with you about The David Madow Lifestyle is something I do. I’ve been doing this for quite some time but I’ve actually been stepping it up lately because I have found that it is so powerful. It’s giving. I find giving one of the most fulfilling things. I talk about a lot of thing but giving is incredibly powerful. Give. Give to somebody that needs something more than you do. Give to somebody that needs your help. Give to animals, an animal charity, or something but give on a regular basis.

Christians give tithing. If you’re Christian you know what I’m talking about. Tithing is when a Christian person gives 10% (generally) of their income to the church. Something like that. I’m not Christian but I still believe in giving and helping others in a big way.

One of the things that I do is this podcast. I help others in so many ways that don’t have anything to do with money. I don’t make any money from this podcast at all. Last time I checked, nobody’s really sent me a check for this podcast. Nobody has deposited money in my bank account for this podcast. I do it because I love teaching. I am passionate about changing lives. And that’s why I take all this time to not only record the podcast but it takes a lot of preparation and it takes a lot of equipment. I’ve got a studio in my home that I don’t use that much anymore but I have it available. If I have a guest on, I am using my studio. Now I am walking around outside with a hand held recorder which cost me some money. I put money into this. I pay somebody every week. I pay an assistant to help me put up show notes. I pay someone to help put the audio up online and edit the audio. I pay out for this and so that’s giving. I don’t get anything in return except when I get a thank you from you, or an email, or a message saying that I changed your life. That’s all I need. I don’t need anything more than that. And I know I’ve changed and touched a lot of lives. But I also give money. I give money to many different charities.

Guys, I think that’s it. I am running out of time. There are many more things that I do with The David Madow Lifestyle, many more things. But I can’t touch on every single one of them and that doesn’t mean that it’s not important. We live our lives with purpose.

One more thing just came to my mind. I want to do this because it’s very very important. I want to talk about financial for a second. I’m just going to sum it up really really quickly – spend less money than you make. Don’t worry about what anybody else appears to have or what anybody else is doing. Spend less money than you make. Invest the difference. Save for retirement. And get out of debt. I really simplified that. It’s much more complex. But if you just live by those principles, you’ll be way ahead of most people. Way ahead.

Make sure you catch next week’s episode because I will be answering the 3 questions that came to me on Facebook. They are really really good questions.

And one last thing I’m going to leave you with before I end this episode. I was in a mastermind meeting a few weeks ago. We all give tips. We go around the room and we have hot seats and give tips and we build lives. It’s incredible! But one of my buddies in the mastermind said I am going to give you a tip. This is what he said. He said he reads from the book of proverbs every day. And I believe there are 31 verses in the book of proverbs. So what he does is that at the beginning of the month he starts with verse number 1 and reads all of it. And on day 2 he reads the second verse and on and on and on. Of course some of it refers to God and Jesus and if you’re not Christian that’s ok. But what I’m trying to say is that the book of Proverbs is actually really powerful. It’s like reading some incredibly powerful fortune cookies every single day. Some really good life lessons are in the book of Proverbs. Whatever religion you are, I suggest taking a look. Take a look at the book. It’s very interesting.

So I am going to leave you with that. Again, I don’t profess any religion on the show. I don’t talk about politics or anything like that because everybody is different and everybody has different beliefs. I want you to be a good person. I want you to take care of your body. I want you to take care of other people. I want you to teach. I want you to give. I want you to do the right thing. You know what the right thing is. Do the right thing!

I’m Dr. Dave. I’ll see you next week!

Happy New Year!

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168 – Year in Review

Welcome to The David Madow Lifestyle Show! I’m Dr. D the “V”. And this is actually the last episode of 2016. It’s amazing how quickly the time goes. Again, I’ve been podcasting for close to 3 1/2 years now and it’s like you blink your eyes and the time is gone. It’s unbelievable!

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It’s the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier! And I am so glad to be here on the last show of the year. And if you’re brand new to me, I welcome you. We’ve got a lot of great things ahead in 2017 and beyond. If you’ve been with me from the beginning, or somewhere in between, thanks so much. I really appreciate you. I hope I have inspired you in some way, even if it’s in some little way, to live your life purposely and much better than you have before.

I’m going to recap and share with you some really cool things that I’ve learned and I do and I continue to do. Things I have learned in 2016 and will continue to do in 2017 and hopefully beyond. When I look back at the year, one of the coolest things I started doing these Hippie Road trips (kind of on a whim and not planned out). I actually did 3 of them in 2016. The way I started doing these was that I actually travel all over North America to speak and in the past I would always fly everywhere I went. And it was pretty cool to do that but airports get old. They’re crowded, they’re horrible. I just don’t like them anymore. They’re kind of a necessary evil. If I’m traveling from the East coast to let’s say Denver, San Francisco or Florida, you pretty much have to jump on a plane. It’s not really simple to get in a car and drive to that type of city from the East coast.

But I had a speaking gig sometime in the spring in Phoenix, Arizona. And 5 or 6 days later I had a speaking gig in Little Rock, Arkansas. I had this crazy idea that I was going to spend the days in between these speaking gigs instead of getting on a plane, I was going to drive from Phoenix, AZ to Little Rock, AK. And I did. And it was one of the coolest things I have ever done in my life. I was alone and the first day I remember that I drove to the Grand Canyon and did a nice day hike in the Grand Canyon. It was wild. I slept in Flagstaff, AZ that evening. The next day I drove to New Mexico and spent some time there. Then after New Mexico, I went to Texas. Through Oklahoma City and ultimately into Little Rock. I don’t know if I skipped any places or not but it was a blast.

What can you learn from a road trip?  I learned a lot! First of all, I learned that most people are really good people and in the past I always that that truckers were a group of people that were racing to get from one location to another and were inconsiderate. But I learned learned a lot about truckers on this trip and let me tell you something, truckers are some pretty cool people. They are working hard making a living out there. They’ve got to get from one location to the next but from what I saw they do it with a with a really good sincere, considerate attitude.

I learned a lot. I stopped at truck stops and at different types of restaurants and I learned that wherever you go almost any restaurant will cater to someone who eats plant based vegan. I stopped at some good Mexican places. It’s easy to find. It’s easy to also shop when you’re on the road and keep stuff in the back of your car and eat on the road. I ate healthy food the whole way. I stopped when I could.

I was in Oklahoma somewhere and got a speeding ticket. I paid it. It’s ok. The policeman was out there doing his job. He was extremely polite. I was speeding. I was breaking the law and I paid the ticket with gratitude actually. I did.

I learned something else on the trip. I had a lot of time to think. That was back in the time that I was doing a lot of Periscope broadcasting while I was driving. Which I’ve learned is really not a good idea because when I’m driving I’ve got to be paying attention to the road. I don’t want to jeopardize my life or anyone’s life on the road. So I actually stopped doing that live stream video and you can understand why. It’s just not a good idea.

I also learned another thing on the Hippie Road Trip. I published this and I talked about it in a previous podcast episode. I learned to kind of get the “mother fuckers” out my life. And as horrible as that sounds, I don’t mean that in a bad way. I don’t mean it in a negative way towards anyone. I just mean that life is short. And there’s only so much time we have so why spend it with people that you don’t feel that you are vibrating on the same frequency with. That doesn’t mean that they are bad people. You know exactly what I’m talking about. There are people like that in your life, I guarantee it. You don’t have anything against them but you but you don’t feel the love, feel the vibration, you don’t feel the connection. Why waste your time with these people when there are probably plenty of people in your life that you feel a serious connection with. Stick with those people!

I’m not saying you shouldn’t meet new people along the way, you should. But let’s face it! You don’t have a whole lot of time when you really look at it and there’s only so many people you can spend your time with and I choose to spend my time with the people that I am connected with. The people that I feel love for. The special people in my life. That’s who I choose to hang with. And when I learned to get the “mf’s” out of my life, it freed up a tremendous amount of time. I don’t spend time with them in real life anymore. I don’t spend time with them on social media. It just frees up a lot of time. Even if it means sitting down and reading a book. Writing something or working on some goals.

I took 2 subsequent hippie road trips after that. They actually led me up to the Northern part of the U.S. and into Canada. I had 2 speaking gigs. One of them was in Toronto, Ontario and the other was in London, Ontario. When you actually get in your car and drive you get to see what’s going on around you. You can look at the rivers and the mountains. It opened up a whole new world for me. It really did! I guess I am going to say to you is that if you have the chance to do something like a hippie road trip, I would get in the car and try it.

Some of you have asked me if I have any hippie road trips planned for 2017 and I think I do. It’s not definite. I am speaking in Memphis, Tennessee in the beginning of March. It’s a good 9-10 drive from where I live in Maryland so what I think I am going to do is take 2 or 3 days to drive to Memphis. So I will take my time on the way. I might head into Asheville, North Carolina since I’ve never been there. People have told me that it’s a great place especially if you’re vegan. Then after I finish speaking I would just jump on a plane and come back. It’ll be a hippie road trip but kind of like half a hippie road trip.

So that’s what I have planned. I have some other speaking gigs during the year and we’ll see if we can make them into hippie road trips. I have one right afterwards in South Florida but don’t think I want to drive that far. It’s too far for me to drive there then turn around and come back. South Florida is pretty far from where I live so I may not do that one. But we’ll see. We’re looking at the calendar and some maps and we’ll have more hippie road trips in 2017 for sure.

Something I look forward to at the end of this year, and I’ll probably be doing it right around the time you’ll be hearing this, is my wife Yoko and I for the past many years have had a little ritual. I am really going to recommend you do this whether you have a spouse or not, it doesn’t really matter. This is something cool to do around the new year. We do it typically around New Year’s Eve. We work on our goals for the following year. We sit down and write what we want to accomplish for the next year (and really beyond). And the interesting thing is we always go over the goals that we had for the previous year. So in other words, sometime around New Year’s Eve this year we will sit down and work on not only our 2017 goals but we will look to see how we did in 2016. Interestingly enough I just found my book of goals that we had and started back in around 2010. I’ve had goals for myself for the past 25 years by myself but we started having joint goals for both of us. Out of curiosity I pulled out the book that we started in 2010 and began looking at all the goals we wrote down that year. It’s really pretty cool but just about everything that we wrote has become reality. A lot of them were financial goals like becoming debt free and paying off our house. And a lot of the others were travel goals and physical fitness goals such as doing certain races and certain backpack trips. The interesting thing is that just about all of them came true and not only that did not become reality were just things that we put down that we didn’t push for. For example, we listed a lot of places that we wanted to travel to over the next couple years or so like Vietnam and Thailand and we just didn’t get there. But truth be told we didn’t push for those because as you know I do a lot of traveling for work and outside of work and we did some trips to Japan since Yoko is from there, we did a couple trips to Hawaii and did some marathons there. So we did what we wanted to do but we didn’t get everything done. It just would have been a physical and financial impossibility. But it was really pretty cool reading through these goals starting from 2010 because I look back to see where we were then and how far we’ve come and how far we’ve progressed and what we’ve accomplished. And it was really great because we accomplished so many things because we wrote them down and read them on a regular basis.

Now, I’ve got my own list of goals. I started out doing goals about 20 to 25 years ago and I have my own list of goals for me personally that I keep with me wherever I am. They are either in my back pocket or my backpack in small little notebook and I read those every day. The goals that Yoko and I write up around New Year’s Eve we write them down and read them periodically but not every single day. They sit on a bookshelf in a main room sort of in our office. Our house is kind of like one big room on the first floor. The one big room is made of a kitchen, living area, and office. It’s kind of an open floor plan. So I keep the list of goals right there where we can see it anytime and either one of us can pull it off the bookshelf and read it. Periodically throughout the year we will review them and check them off as they become reality. They just about always do unless we just don’t push hard enough.

So I am going to highly recommend that if you haven’t started yet and there’s something you want to do, that you write it down. It could be anything. It could be weight loss. It could be a particular person you want to meet or someplace you want to travel to. New Year’s Eve or right around the beginning of the year is a great time to know that every single year at that time you are going to not only review your goals from the previous year but come up with new ones. It works so well for me and Yoko that I am going to highly recommend it.

What else have I gotten out of 2016? [Dave laughs] Well, I had a bad injury. You remember that one? I took a bad fall in Japan while skiing. It took a good part of the year to heal up. Sometimes I still feel it although it’s been almost a year now. So I learned that I am 61 years old now and I don’t heal as fast as when I was 11 years old. I need to be careful. I can’t take as many crazy chances as I used to. So I keep that in mind. That doesn’t mean that I don’t do things when we go skiing. Surely, we go to Breckenridge, Colorado every winter. We’ll be there in January and February. I am going to ski some hard stuff but I still have to be a little bit more careful than I was when I was much younger. If I take a fall and it’s a bad fall, it could hurt for a long time. And quite honestly I don’t want that. I had a tough time sleeping and getting around. Even on hippie road trip #1 and that was in the spring. I remember it was hurting! It was tough. So one of my goals is to be a little more careful in 2017. Just be careful. You can still have fun but don’t take crazy chances. And I don’t think I took a crazy chance when I fell in Japan. It was the first day though and I was on rental skis and we were skiing through some deep powder that I wasn’t really familiar with. We were skiing in and out of some trees a little bit and I just took a fall. I heard a snap and them felt the wham! I was like crying. So one of my goals is – don’t take chances like that. Just be careful.

So what are some of your goals? What are you going to do in 2017 to make it your best year ever? Have you thought about it? Think about it. We have the potential. We have a new president and whether you voted for him or not things are going to be changing. And hopefully it’s for the better. I really really hope our country and our world is going to change for the better. I have no idea. But I am going into this with a positive attitude. There have been so many people that are pissed off and angry and screaming but I am going into this with a positive attitude.

I am going to make 2017 the best year of my life so far. I am going to spend more time with my parents who are getting older. They are both in their 80s and I don’t know how much longer they’re going to be around. I want to spend some time with them. I want to spend some time with the people I am close with. I want to spend more time with Yoko. I want to spend more time with my 3 cats at home. I just want to be with people that I love. I want to spend more time with the people that mean so much to me. I want to get down to Florida more and spend time with my 2 grandsons and my daughter and my son in law. And get over to the West coast and see my son and daughter in law there. These are the most important things in life. And when we’re old and at the end of our lives, I don’t think anybody who’s on their deathbed has ever said “I wish I would have worked at the office a little bit more.” I don’t think anybody has ever said that. But one of the most common regrets is that somebody approaches the end of their life and they did not spend enough time with the people that were most important to them. I just don’t want to have that kind of regret. We’ll leave it at that.

I want to suggest one more thing to you and then I’ll wish you a very very Happy New Year because this will be the last time I will be talking to you in 2017. If you have not gone vegan yet, if you have not eliminated animals from your diet, and from your life, maybe 2017 is the year. It’s the best thing I have ever done in my life. I feel healthier, more vibrant, younger, I feel like I’ve got more passion. I am doing the right thing because I am not contributing to any animal suffering on my watch. And did I tell you that I’m healthier? I am! At least I think so. I am pretty sure 😉

Listen, I want to wish you not only a Merry Christmas (which has already passed) but a Happy New Year! If you’re Jewish, Happy Hanukkah! If you’re any other religion, whatever you celebrate or not celebrate. Whatever you are and whatever you’re not, it doesn’t matter. I love you! I want to wish you the best year ever in 2017. I’m Dr. Dave and I love ya!

See you next year!

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167 – Sadness

Welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. I’m Dr. Dave and this is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. I’m going to give you a tip right at the start. We’re going to get right into this thing. I’ve got a lot of stuff for you today we’re going to try to cram in here.

Smile

My first tip to you is…can you tell that I’m smiling? You can probably tell that I’ve got a big smile on my face. You can’t see me but just from my voice. My tip to you is that whenever you are talking to somebody on the phone, smile. If you have a big smile on your face, it’s going to come through. As often as you can, just smile. You know it take fewer muscles to smile as it does to frown. It’s much better for you.

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I truly believe that smiling extends our life. I really do believe that. You can tell I’m smiling now because I am talking to you and I love you.

It’s a great day! I am walking in my outdoor studio. There’s actually snow on the ground here in Reisterstown, Maryland. It’s both snowy and icy. So I put these Yaktrax on my shoes. It’s these little cleats that you buy and you strap them over your shoes so you won’t slip. I use these for hiking all the time in Breckenridge, Colorado. Because you know when you’re hiking in the winter and there’s snow on the trail, one little slip and you’re in trouble. I bought these last year in Breckenridge and they’re really cool. You can strap them over any kind of shoe or boot.

Goals Course Questions & Feedback

I’ve got a bunch of stuff to talk to you about today so let’s get right into it guys and gals. I’m getting a lot of great feedback from my goals course that I had online. I’ve taken it down for a short time. I’m regrouping and after the 1st of the year, it’s probably going to come back up. But a lot of you are really getting into it and formulating your goals for the year. And seeing really positive changes already. But I’ve gotten a few messages from some of you that I just want to address. It seems like some people are getting a little bit stressed out because they are not seeing immediate gratification. They’re not sure if they’re goals are going to be working. Well, I’ve got some tips for you so that you can move forward with your goals and your dreams so that you realize that these things are going to work. But I have a couple of suggestions for you.

Number 1 when you’re formulating your goals, try your best to make your goals realistic. Let me back up for a second. You know I am one that believes in shooting for the stars and really reaching high and going for it. But I am asking you to make your goals somewhat realistic. I truly believe in reaching for the stars. But if your goals aren’t realistic or attainable, all it’s going to do is frustrate you and you’re going to stop.

I carry my book of goals with me every single day. Now I’ve kind of downsized my book and I carry a little pocket sized book with me everywhere I go. It’s in my back pocket or my backpack all the time with me. But I will talk more about reading your goals in a minute.

So for example, if one of my goals was to be a starting quarterback in the NFL. And I wrote that down and read it everyday. No matter how many times I read that, it ain’t happenin’! I am 61 1/2 years old. I’d like to think I am in really good shape and pretty strong but guess what? The NFL does not want me no matter what I do. No matter how much I work out, no matter how much I practice, the NFL does not want me. So my point is to make sure your goals are at least some attainable or possible. If not you’re going to get stressed out. They’re not going to work. You’re not going to see them become reality and you’re going to give up.

Secondly, some of you are telling me well, I know my instruction is to ready my goals once a day but if I read them 20 times a day they are going to happen faster. That’s not true. in fact, the more you read them every single day and they more you seem to be obsessed with them, it’s actually going to have a negative effect. We don’t want to obsess over our goals. We want to read them maybe twice a day at the most. And then let the universe do its work. The universe will figure out a way to make your goals become reality. But if it becomes the type of thing that is always on your mind, you’re reading them many times a day, you’re stressing out, and you’re obsessing; then that’s not what we want and they are not going to work. The universe will become confused and it’s not going going to give you what you want.

Like I said in my original instructions. Think about your goals, write them down, read them once per day. Don’t obsess over how they’re going to come true. Just read them. Through quantum physics, the universe, you’ll see them start to become reality. These things don’t happen overnight so I don’t want you to give up. I never want you to give up. You can edit, you can change, rearrange, things like that. I’m always changing, thinking, editing. But I don’t want you to give up. Don’t give up please.

So I hope that helps out. I just wanted to clear the air a little bit before I got into the main topic. Goals are really powerful. Goals are actually the way that I learned to live my life the way I am right now. My goal setting started probably about 25 years ago. And I never stop. They are really powerful. I am working on some goals right now.

One of my goals is Yoko and I moving to Colorado. I’ve got something written down about that. I read it every single day. It’s going to happen. I’m sure it’s going to happen. Our goal right now is to have it happen within the next 2-3 years. I’ll keep you informed and abreast of that as that’s unfolding. It’s kinda weird because as I have said as much as I love it here I’ve lived in Maryland all of my life. And I just think it’s time for a change. As much as I would probably hate to leave here it’s going to kinda open up a new chapter in my life. A new chapter, a good chapter, a chapter in the mountains. We’re just really excited about that. But part of me is going to miss this beautiful area that I live in right now. Let’s face it. I’ve lived here my whole life. I’ve got friends, family, connections, and all kinds of things. It’s going to be a little bit strange but we have decided that we do want to do this. Like I say to my Dad all the time, if not now, when? Sometimes you just have to go for something. Sometimes you just have to do it.

Winter Blues

So I’ve been getting a lot of messaging from from a lot of folks and I am also seeing posts on Facebook and things like that and a lot of chatter online about many of you being sad, depressed, and blue. It seems like this time of year when the days are shorter, it’s cold, there’s not as much sun, that when we are in this season and this type of weather it’s very common to see many of you just feel a little bit down. A little bit sad. A little bit depressed. And if you’re one of them I am going to help you. And even if you’re not and you feel great every single day. Which I don’t think anybody feels great every single day! If you’re feeling sad, down, depressed, or even if you’re not, I’d like you to listen to this because I think some of the words I am going to give you might help you either way. They’re good for anybody really. Especially those of you that really feel like it’s not your time of year. There’s stress and there’s sadness and all kinds of things. I’m going to help you with a few little tips that are going to help you get through not only the holidays but they’re going to get you through the winter and into the spring when the grass gets green again. The flowers are blooming, it’s warm, and the birds are chirping. Everybody loves that time of the year, don’t they?! It’s a cool time of the year.

But I try to really love every part of the year, every day, every time. Whether the days are short, whether it’s long. Admittedly over the past few weeks, I’ve had some things. Work sometimes becomes stressful for me or there’s certain things going on. And here’s what I’ve learned to do to really help make my days and make my feelings really good.

Number 1, as you probably know I am a firm believer in eating a plant based diet. I have really seen an incredible change in my life since going vegan. I’ve been plant based for just about 3 years and what I’d say to people is that there is no turning back. There is no way. I’ve been on both sides of this. And there is no way I would ever go back to eating animal products ever again because it just doesn’t work for me. It worked for me for 50-some years or at least I thought it did. But when I go back and look at how my life was when I was eating animals and animal products, basically cut up carcasses on my plate. What I am eating now as far as fresh whole foods, organic foods from the earth. I think a lot of this has to do with when you are eating meat and animal products, you’re ingesting fear. Let’s face it!

If you are still eating animals, I still love you. I don’t have a list of friends that I like better because they’re eating vegan. If you’re listening to me and you’re looking to make your life better, trust me I love you! Whatever you’re doing, I love you. Let’s try to make your life as best as it possibly can be and if you take all my advice, that’s great; and if you take some of my advice, that’s fine. Do what you’re comfortable with. But I will tell you when there’s an animal that’s been suffering probably it’s entire life and then it goes off to slaughter and then you consume those cells. You’re consuming fright, fear, suffering, sadness. I truly believe that. I really really do. If you haven’t tried going totally vegan, totally plant based, I urge you to give it a try and see and feel the difference in your body. The way you look at every single day. Your emotions. I beg you to try and see the difference. Because there is a difference. And it’s not just me. Anybody that’s gone vegan or taken animal products out of their diet, out of their lives, and have learned to love the animals, they all say the same thing, they just feel better. So number 1 that is what I am going to recommend you try especially if you’re feeling a little bit down, sad, and blue this time of the year. I urge you to try it. There’s nothing you can lose. I think Donald Trump said something like this when he was campaigning, “things have been going on the same way this whole time. Vote for me. There’s nothing to lose at this point.” He was kind of right. [Dave laughs] We won’t get political. But it made sense. There’s nothing to lose.

That was not a political statement at all. Trust me it was not. When you are taking animal products out of your diet, there’s nothing to lose as far as trying it goes. It’s going to make you feel better. I promise you that.

Number 2, I am going to ask you to do what I am doing right now and I do it practically every single day. And that’s get out and experience the outdoors. Be one with nature. Put your feet firmly on this planet. Feel the difference. If you can do that “Magic 4” every day that’s really a plus. If you’re new to me the “Magic 4” means walking 4 miles every day on your feet on the earth. I really prefer to do it outside as opposed to a treadmill because there’s something about being outside in nature that is so different then being in a gym or in your home on a treadmill, or on a stair stepper, or on an elliptical or something like that. I’ve done it both ways. And the only time I really ever use my treadmill is if it’s really really inclement weather, like if it’s snowing, sleeting, and just freezing cold. That’s not fun for me. I would go on my treadmill instead or maybe I would take the day off. Right now I am outside. It’s cold, there’s snow, there’s ice on the ground. But let me tell you what I’m wearing because I truly believe being outside is better. I’ve got multiple layers on. I’ve got a pair of thermal underwear on that cover my legs. I’ve got a pair of heavy pants over that. I’ve got 2 t shirts and a shirt that goes over that and then a quilted flannel. So I’ve got multiple layers. And then I’ve got my jacket that I ski in. The more you layer the better it is. I’ve got a pair of gloves on, I’ve got a hat, and I’ve did I mention my socks, my shoes, and my cleats? So I am totally prepared for the weather. When you go out in weather like this and you’re in a short t-shirt, you’re gonna freeze. You not going to be comfortable. It’s not going to be fun! But quite honestly right now, even though it’s cold, icy, and snowy I could be out here for hours and not even feel like the weather is bothering me because I am dressed properly for the weather.

I’ve learned a lot of this from backpacking and from camping and quite honestly skiing and backpacking in Colorado. You learn what works and what doesn’t work. Sometimes it’s a little bit of trial and error but when you’re not prepared for bad weather, it’s going to kill ya. It’s going to be so uncomfortable. It’s just not going to be good.

So the third thing I am going to recommend that is going to help you with your life. It’s going to help you with your sadness or depression. Even if you’re not. I practice these things anyway. It’s meditation. As you know I am a firm believer in meditation. I meditate practically every single day. If I ever said I do something every day I would be lying because I am a human being like anybody else. And there are some days that I just miss. And that goes with the “Magic 4”. That goes with anything. It doesn’t go with eating. I never will eat meat. I never will eat animal products. So I never make an exception there. But if there’s a day that I just don’t feel like going out and doing the “Magic 4”, you know something? I don’t do it. I don’t stress myself over this. If there’s a day that I just, for some reason don’t want to meditate, I just don’t do it. And again, the day is going to be fine. But it seems like over the past couple months I’ve slipped out of the meditation habit. I wasn’t meditating nearly as much as I had been the past couple years. And I’ve gotta tell you something. I didn’t really think about it much but I started to feel a difference. I didn’t realize what it was and I started feeling a little anxious sometimes, I just didn’t feel right all the time. I thought about this and said you know, I can’t really change because I have not been meditating like I used to. So about a week ago, I made it a point to say that I was going to meditate for sure every single day without an exception. I am going to do at least 15 minutes. And what I have been doing in the past week or so as it turns out is that I have been meditating twice a day. In the morning for 15 minutes and sometime in the afternoon or evening for 15 minutes. And I swear to you I have noticed a huge difference in the way I feel every day. There really is a difference. Is it a scientific study? Could I swear it’s because of meditation? No! It’s not scientific, it’s more anecdotal. But it’s really coincidental isn’t it? As soon as I put meditation back into my routine, I started feeling not a little bit better but much better every day.

So I am going to highly recommend that you do the three things I just talked to you about. And meditation is truly truly a game changer.

Before I leave you today, I am just going to tell you how I do it. I sit down in a comfortable position. I turn on some meditative music. I close my eyes. Lately I have not been setting my timer because I actually play a song that is exactly 15 minutes. So when it’s over I know it’s over. I just sit there and listen to my music. I breathe in and I breathe out. And I try to concentrate on my music and my breathing. It really really works. And I am going to highly suggest that you have not been in the habit of meditating, I am going to ask that you give it a try. It is a game changer.

I think this went really well today. I apologize if you heard me crunching around the entire episode. I am crunching on hard packed snow and ice. And it’s a beautiful thing out here. I love it! I love nature! I love the outdoors!

I’m Dr. Dave and I will see you next week! Be good.

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166 – Fear, Goals and More

Hey there it’s Dr. Dave and welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. This is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. And a lot more than that.

I am in my outdoor studio and about 5 minutes ago I put a post up in one of my Facebook groups, The Supercharge Hangout (click the link to join). It’s a really cool group of about a few hundred people who are like minded and we just help each other live our best lives ever!

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So the message I wrote in this group was, “I’m recording a show in 5 minutes, I will take the first 3 questions whatever they are. I’m not going to edit anything out, I’m not going skip anything, whatever the 3 questions are I am going to answer them.” And right away within several minutes, I got 3 questions right away. And I am planning to answer those right away on this show. I had another topic I was going to discuss but it hit me. I want to hear what your questions are and I would like to answer them.

I have not prepared answers but I am going to do my best to answer them. I’m going to answer these totally off the cuff. Whatever comes to my mind first. I’m going to be thinking as I am doing the show with you.

The first one is from Chris in Maryland and Chris asks me what is your biggest fear? That’s a really good question. I have to think about that for a second. This may not be my biggest fear but one of my fears is actually heights. I’ve kind of overcome that.

I am a backpacker and a mountain climber. I’ve been to some crazy heights doing some weird things on ledges and cliffs where there’s basically a thousand foot drop. I remember we were hiking in Grand Canyon and there’s a side canyon there. It’s really unbelievable. Until you actually backpack or hike all the way down into the canyon you see it’s not just one canyon. There are all these big side canyons that in themselves are tremendous attractions.

I remember backpacking through Grapevine Canyon. I remember there was a part of the trail that was kind of a downward sloping hill. And just to your right there is about a 2000′ sheer cliff drop off. So if you slip, it’s wet, someone pushes you, or something like that, you are basically falling to your death 2000′. And I remember it was kinda scary. Not kinda, it was scary!

I was hiking with Yoko, Landy, Lou, and I think just 3 other people. And Landy was trying to talk to me when we were walking through this little area. And I said “Landy please do not talk, I need to concentrate. I am really scared.” [Dave laughs] But that’s not my greatest fear. But I’ve overcome that. I do these things to help me overcome my fear of heights. But there’s something about looking down a cliff that your standing on the edge of that’s like 2000’+. I am scared of that. I am scared. It’s ok.

But I think my biggest fear is probably dying. And it’s not really the fear of dying itself. I believe the act of dying is not really that fearful to me. It’s kind of like whatever would lead up to it. For example, if I get shot. I mean God forbid that I would get shot. But it’s kind of like whatever would lead up to it. You know what I mean. But in other words, if I am in horrible pain, if I’m drowning and can’t breathe, if I’m choking, something like that. Something like that leading to death is really really scary to me.

So I think that’s what I would probably say is my biggest fear. And I believe some of this may come from a past life I got into a crazy drowning accident or maybe fell off a cliff 2000′.

I’m really not afraid of many things. I am afraid of my health going downhill. I do everything I can to stay healthy. I am not afraid of being homeless or losing friends or anything like that. If things happen to me in my life I am pretty confident that I can take care of them. Being in serious end of life pain or health issues leading to death is probably my greatest fear. Maybe I should try to overcome that too. We all have to die, I know that! But it’s what would lead up to the act of dying and not really dying itself. I think once you die you’re probably extremely comfortable wherever you may be. I’ve read a lot of books on near death experiences and by all accounts it sounds like people are in a beautiful place once they die and come out of their bodies. So that’s not scary to me at all.

So, Chris I hope answered that question ok. Again, I didn’t rehearse. I didn’t think about this at all before. I am just reading the question and answering it totally off the cuff.

That was a good one! Thanks so much for that Chris!

The next question, Eric from South Carolina asks, “what is one life lesson you would tell your 30 year old self?” One life lesson I would tell my 30 year old self. That’s a great one Eric! Let me think about that one for a second too.

Number one, I think there are a lot of them. There are a lot! I wish I would have known the powers of being vegan and not eating animals when I was 30. I wish I would that powerful thing. That’s definitely one.

This is a great question. And maybe I’ll do a whole episode on this one. This is going to sound like it doesn’t really fit. It should be something like “do everything in your power to be happy” or “love mankind, love people, love trees, love animals.” But the one that really comes to my mind is the one life lesson I would have taught my 30 year old self (or earlier), it would be financial actually. I know Eric, that this will really resonate with you and I know it will resonate with a lot of people. The lesson would be something like “stay the course, don’t deviate from the course when saving and investing money.” Spend much less than you make, invest the difference in safe investments. Don’t think you can get tips from your friends and invest in the stock market. Safe mutual fund investments.

Stay the course. Don’t be tempted to pull your money out when things are going bad in the economy and then think you’re going to jump back in when things are going better. Just stay the course. Stay even and keep investing every single month. Pay yourself first meaning that the first thing you do with your money is that you invest the amount that you are going to put aside every single month. And you keep doing it. No matter what the political climate is, no matter what the economic climate is, no matter what, you just keep putting that money in your investments every single month. including your retirement funds every month.

Let me tell you something. If you do that and you don’t get emotional about it, and you don’t listen to what other people are doing and all that craziness, you will be a millionaire+ by the time you are ready to retire. Or probably a multi millionaire. But you have to do that.

I wish somebody would have told me that. I wish somebody would have spanked my butt every time I made one of these stupid mistakes like when the economic climate starts going down and the stock market starts going down I would stop sending money in. That’s ridiculous! That’s the time to send money in. When things are going down and everybody is worried and going crazy you send more money in. Because guess what?! It’s always going to come back up. As long as we have always had the DOW and the NASDAQ, it’s always been on an upward trend. Does it go down sometimes? Of course it does! Did it go down like crazy in 2009? And on paper people lost half of their assets? Yes! But guess what? As I am recording this we’re on the cusp of the DOW hitting 20,000 for the first time ever in history! We just passed 19,000 for the first time in history a few days ago.

So that’s my lesson that I would teach my 30 year old self. And any other 30 year old or similar ages out there that’s a great great question. God do I wish I would have done that.

I’ve got some stories! I had this hot shot financial planner who, when things were going really well back in 1999 and I was making all kinds of money and I had all kinds of money to invest, this guy had me invest in like 3 or 4 private placements. And I sent a lot of money over to him. And then of course we had the crash around 2000 and then 9/11 in 2001. Things came tumbling down. The amount of money that I lost would floor you. I can’t even tell you how much. But that’s another story for a different episode.

Great question Eric! I really appreciate that!

As I sip my coffee out here it’s a cold afternoon. It feels beautiful! I love the be in my outdoor studio. I always preach that you should be one with nature and I love to have my feet planted on the soil. It just feels so good. I get invigorated when I’m outside recording as opposed to sitting at a desk inside with my beautiful mixer and microphone. I think I am more creative and more vocal outside. It just does something to my body and that’s why I urge you to go outside when you’re doing your “Magic 4” or when you’re running or when you’re doing anything. I urge you to get outside no matter what the temperature is. You can bundle up. It feel great out here! Another lesson from Dave 😉

Tom from Tennessee writes, “what is a goal that you have not achieved yet that you are pretty sure you’ll accomplish?” A goal that I haven’t yet achieved. Tom must know that I am a big goals guy. I’ve lived by goals for at least the past 25 years for sure. When you write them down and when you read them every single day, they have a way of coming true.

So what’s a goal that I haven’t reached yet that I am pretty certain I will? Great question! Let’s see. That’s an easy one Tom. Yoko and I know that the goal we’re going to reach is that we will have a primary home in Colorado in the Rocky Mountains most likely in Breckenridge. That is a goal that we both have written down on our goal sheets and our book of goals. We read them everyday. I know it’s going to happen but it hasn’t happened yet. A few things have to fall into place which I know they will.

I always pay cash for everything. I do not take out loans. I do not take out mortgages. I pay cash. Every single thing I have is paid for. I’m standing outside and looking at my house right now, it’s paid for. I’m looking at my cars, they’re paid for. Everything! So I am not going to move out there and borrow money to buy a house. I’m not going to do that. So the only thing that’s really stopping me now, other than a few minor things, is that I need to wait and save up a little bit more money for a house. Because when I sell this house here, it’s a nice house, but it’s not going to bring me enough money to buy what we want out in Colorado. It’s not that we’re looking for a mansion. Trust me we’re really not. We’re minimalists. We’re looking for something actually fairly small but I also want it to be the right place in the right area so it’s going to cost a little bit more money than the house is going to bring us here for the sale of it.

The biggest problem of all; and it’s not really a problem, I know I’ve shared this with you before, but about 1 1/2 years ago I wrote a large check to my ex-wife to finalize a financial obligation that I had from a divorce that took place about 16 years ago. The state of Maryland has something called permanent alimony. It’s absolutely ridiculous. Basically for the rest of my life, I was supposed to be writing her this huge check every month. And nothing bad about her. It was all legal and that’s pretty much what the deal was. And I am not bad mouthing anybody. And I tell you something else, she’s a wonderful person! But I still had this obligation to her. I did.

I did not want to have this obligation for the rest of my life. I don’t know what’s going to be happening. I don’t know how long I want to work. I want to work forever but I don’t know how long I want to be pressured into making a certain amount of money so I could pay a very large amount of money every month for permanent alimony. So I wanted to work out a deal to get out of that. And in order to work out a deal like that it took a huge check that I had to write which depleted a large portion of my assets to be very honest with you.

Don’t worry about me. I’m ok! I still have some money. But it’s nothing like I had before I had to write this check. So I need to working on building up a little bit more. That might be too much information but it’s ok. The reason I do this show is because I am totally transparent. I don’t hold back. I want to share my life with you so that you can learn from me and learn from the good things I do and learn from the mistakes. If I held stuff back and didn’t share with you and made it seem like everything’s perfect in my life, then I wouldn’t be doing you a good service. It wouldn’t be right. Because as good as my life is I’ve got crazy things that have happened to me in the past and will probably happen in the future because we’re all human beings and crazy things do happen. So I want to share that with you. It was a tremendous struggle that I had for many many years. I had this really difficult financial obligation every single month whether money was coming in or not. This huge financial obligation was basically never ending and I had to put an end to it. And it took a huge amount of money to end it. But I’m good. I feel like this tremendous weight was lifted off my shoulder. I’m rebuilding and that’s fine.

So Tom I answered that in a very long way. But that’s my goal that I know is going to happen and it’s going to happen most likely within 2-3 years. That’s what we’re planning. 2-3 years give or take.

I’m excited whenever Yoko and I are out west in Breckenridge, Colorado. Tom, you know this too! I know Tom personally.

I appreciate all of you writing in these questions, Chris, Eric, and Tom. I happen to know all of you fairly well. So I appreciate that a lot.

But there are also other goals that I read every day on my goal sheet. But that is the main one that I think. Tom was looking for that answer right there.

Wow! Ok, I’m out of breath. I think I like this idea. I think I like putting this up on Facebook and answering the first 3 questions I get asked. So I think I am going to do this again. And when I do it I promise that whatever the question is, even if I don’t really like the question, I’ll answer it in some way so that it will make it fair so that you know if you write a question and you’re the first 3, you know it’s going to get answered. I kind of like that.

I hope you liked the show! I hope you did! Feel free to send me an email and let me know if you like the concept. I’d like to do a live call-in show. I did that once or twice but it was difficult because I need certain equipment. It was not easy to do. Technically it’s not a simple thing to do. But I tried it early on when I first started my podcast. I think what is was is that I recorded some questions and played them on the show. That’s what it was. But let’s see if this thing works. Let me know! Send me an email to dave@davidmadow.com. Send me an email and let me know what you think. Hang out with us on Facebook. We’re there! I’d love to have you with us! Until next time…

I am Dr. Dave. I’ll see you next week! Have a great one!

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165 – The End of the Trail

Hey welcome back it’s Dr. Dave! Great to have you. This is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. It’s The David Madow Lifestyle Show. And I appreciate YOU!

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I’m in my outdoor studio again because I am doing my “Magic 4” today. By the way, in case you’re new to me, the “Magic 4” is walking 4 miles straight. And if you do it everyday, it’s a game changer. And I want to stress that when I do my “Magic 4” it’s not necessarily just walking. There are a lot of other things you can do during the “Magic 4”. And I’ll just give you a few examples. Oftentimes if I stop to take a break, I do some squats. You know what squats are. Basically, from a standing position you bend your knees and you go down as far as you can and then stand back up.

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So imagine during your walk, during your “Magic 4”, Imagine stopping and doing 10 free squats. And then continue on your walk. And then maybe a short time later doing 10 more. By the time you finish, during your breaks you can do a decent number of squats. And let me tell you something, you’ll feel a difference in your body when you start incorporating squats into your routine. You don’t need to be at a gym. You can do this during your “Magic 4” or when you’re brushing your teeth as my wife Yoko does. [Dave giggles] Or any room or outside. You don’t have to be doing this in a gym.

Where I walk is kind of rural as you probably know if you’ve been following me for quite some time. Especially my Periscope broadcasts. You see the streets that I walk on and the area that I’m in. And by the way, if you come to W.T.A. (Weekend to Awesome) on April 22nd & 23rd, you will walk the same streets we walk here. You will basically immerse yourself in our lifestyle. And at the end of the weekend my goal is to have you saying that it was the best weekend you ever spent in your life. So I hope you’re in. I’m only taking 10. I’m being really strict because I want 10 like minded people.

So there are all kinds of horse fences and trees around here. I will stop at a fence or a tree or anything and do some stretching. Some very simple stretching exercises during my “Magic 4”. And if I really feel motivated, I’ll get down on the ground and do some sets of push ups. You can do these all during a “Magic 4”. I’d like to know what you do. If you’ve come up with any good ideas. Let me know.

There are tons of things you can do. You can strike some Yoga poses and crunches. There are tons of things you can do during your “Magic 4”.

Then again you don’t to do anything. You can just do a straight 4 and that’s fine. That’s totally fine because it’s all about getting out there every day and covering 4 miles on your feet. NOT on a treadmill please! Keep your feet on the Earth. Be one with nature, it makes a tremendous difference.

Again, I’ve got a treadmill in my home. Do I used it a lot? No ! Do I use it for training sometimes? Yes! Do I use it when it’s -10 degrees out and icy and snowy? Yes! But I usually don’t use it. I’m usually outside walking, running, hiking, skiing, the list goes on and on. So, I love the outdoors and I think that’s one of my secrets to life.

“Be one with nature.”

A short time ago, again you probably know this if you’re a frequent listener, you know that a few weeks ago I spent some time in Zion National Park .

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There was a trail called Hidden Canyon Trail. I’m not sure if I spoke about this trail in detail but I want to share something with you about the trail. It was not an easy trail. It was actually fairly difficult. The trail consisted of a lot of uphill switchbacks which go up the bottom of the canyon to the rim of the canyon. So it consisted of a lot of uphill. Basically all uphill which can be really intimidating to someone who’s not really used to a lot of uphill climbing  or who aren’t in very good physical condition it can be very difficult. There’s not a lot of resting. You can take time, move to the side, and get a little rest. Which I believe in but the whole first half of the hike is uphill.

Not only was it difficult that way but we got to a point where there were chains that you had to hold onto. So imagine your going along walking uphill, and all of a sudden there are chains that you have to hold on to. It’s not like you don’t have to grab onto the chains. If you don’t grab onto them and look off to your right, there’s a nice little cliff right there.  If you happen to let go of that chain and slip and fall off the cliff, well you will fall about 1000 feet down to your death. I don’t want to paint that difficult of a picture because people do this trail every day and I think it’s extremely rare that somebody will actually fall. But it can be very intimidating and very dangerous especially if you have a fear of heights. And then we get to a point after the chains where it’s more climbing up up up. And there’s a sign that says…

You’ve reached the end of the trail

But after that it look like there was more trail. So we kept going. Yeah we had to jump over some boulders. We had to get around trees and branches and obstacles for sure. But we finally made it to the part in the trail that I think truly was the end…I think. It was a natural arch that was just beautiful and nobody else was there. And we just sat down and enjoyed some snacks and lunch. We enjoyed the incredible beauty that this trail offered us at the top of Hidden Canyon.

I’ve got a few take home points I want to share with you about this hike and about this trail and about this life. We’re going to wrap everything together into life because it’s all about life. First of all, the trail…yes it was intimidating. And somebody who would’ve look at a map or seen a video or heard a description of this trail, many people would have said “no, there’s no way. I’m not doing that. I can’t do that. There’s a lot of uphill and a lot of obstacles. There’s chains you have to grab onto. There’s parts that if you fall off you’re going to die. It’s scary. I’m not doing that!” I think that would be a very common response to somebody that we would ask “do you want to do this trail with us?” But what I learned was if you look at the whole picture of something it could be very intimidating. But when you take a step back and think of it as one little piece of the puzzle at a time you can conquer it. Yeah sure there was a lot of uphill. But if you just take your time and don’t go too fast and take some breaks, you’ll be able to get past the uphill part. Coming back the second half was amazing. Coming downhill was like a present from somebody to us. You can get through it if you take it one step at a time. Going downhill is not that tough.

So you can get through it if you just take a little bit at a time. You get to the part there are chains and it’s very intimidating. You say I’m not doing that it’s crazy. Stop. Take a deep breath. Realize that hikers do this everyday. And yes it’s dangerous but nobody’s falling if you’re careful. Just put one foot in front of the other. You’re gonna get to the point where after probably less than 5 minutes you’re passed that really difficult part. And you can say WOW I did that! I got passed that! And then you get to an area that says this is the end of the maintained trail. And you can say look I don’t want to go any further. Yeah there are areas where you have to climb over some boulders but you do it a little bit at a time. Get over the next obstacle. And when you get to the next obstacle, conquer that one. It’s almost like checking that one off. And when you get to the next obstacle, it might be difficult but you get around that or over that whatever you have to do. And if you get to the end you will be truly rewarded by this beauty that very few people get to achieve, very few people get to accomplish getting to these arches. Because of the obstacles involved, because of a sign that says “end of trail”, and because of the fright of doing it. Again if you look at it as all one big obstacle course, then year people aren’t going to do it. But that’s why I like to break things down and take them one little piece at a time.

I remember when I was a practicing dentist. I had this patient come in and his name was Rick. He was a young guy. Back then he was probably 19,20, or 21. He was a heck of a guy. but every time he came in he had more trouble. I tell you this guy must of drank coke all day long. Because every time he came in there was more decay. His mouth was a mess. It was really a complex case. And I felt that I was up against a lot of obstacles and I didn’t even know what to do with this guy. And it was really frustrating. As nice as a guy as he was, his mouth was a total disaster. I just felt that this was so complex that it made me anxious. I didn’t know what to do.

So I still remember this like it was the other day. I was skiing with a friend of mine. His name is Stan. This was back in the 80’s. And I we were on the chair life and I was explaining to Stan. I said “Rick is a nice guy but I’m just really intimidated by his case. It’s so complex and I don’t know what to do. Every time he comes back in there’s more decay. It’s just a total total mess!” And Stan looked at me as we’re riding on this chair life and he said “Dave, why are you so intimidated about this?” And I said “There’s just so much going on here. I can’t comprehend it. It’s just too much for me.” And Stan looked at me and said “Dave just do one tooth at a time. Take care of one tooth at a time. It might take a long time but you’ll finally be there. You’ll do it!” And I’ll never forget that example because how many time do you get intimidated by something. You look at the big picture and it’s intimidating. It’s a mess. Whatever that may be.

Maybe you want to lose a lot of weight. Maybe you know you’ve got a lot of weight to lose. Maybe there’s something in life that you want to accomplish but it seems so crazy it’s too much for you. I’ve learned to just do a little but at a time. Get over one little obstacle and then move to the next one. And then over a period of time, you’ll be there. You have conquered the trail and passed the sign that says “end of the trail”. And there might be extreme beauty there.

Once you pass the “end of the trail” so many people look forward to retiring. And they don’t have any real plans after retirement. They work all their lives. Maybe they’re in their 60’s and say “ok, I want to retire”. And then they don’t really have anything going. They slowly fade away because there’s nothing going on passed that “end of trail” sign. Personally, I am never going to retire. I might stop working at what I am doing now. Meaning that me speaking all over North America to dental groups and all of that. It’s a lot of work. And I might now do that forever. I love it but I might want to move into something else. But I would never say that I am just going to get to the end of the trail, and see that sign, and just stop. What would I do? What would I do every single day? I love helping you! I could never see the day come when I want to just stop this show. I can’t see that happening. I love what I’m doing. Do I want to make some changes along the way? Absolutely! But when I see that “end of trail” sign? I am going to ignore that sign and keep going. When we reached the second sign that said “stop now”. We didn’t go further because it looked like that sign was there for a reason and it may have been dangerous. It looked like Zion National Park was telling us not to go anymore. Sometime you have to be smart. Sometimes you have to say “look we’ve done everything we can, we’re going to listen and not go any further.”

In life, I am always going to be on the trail. There are going to be obstacles. There are going to be chains. There are going to be cliff that sometimes you will get close to falling over, or get close to failing, or dying. There are going to be all kinds of challenges in life. I know I have talked to you about this several times.

About 6 months ago or so, I was in Yosemite National Park. And I talked about being on the right trail or being on the wrong trail (Episode #138). Sometimes not even understand what trail you should be on. But you can be at the bottom of a mountain and look up and almost visualize the trail that you should be on. You can see in advance almost what trail you should be on. Yeah, I am an outdoors guy. I love hiking, I love backpacking, I love being on trails. And I definitely use that as a metaphor for life.

This past trip that we did to Zion, it was not an easy trail but it wasn’t the most difficult thing in the world either. If you’re ever at Zion, I am going to recommend you go up Hidden Canyon Trail. You’ll be fine. You’ll do it!! I know you can. Be prepared for a lot of uphill at first. Be prepared to hang onto some chains that are firmly attached to the canyon. You have to trust that they are. You are pretty much putting faith in those chains that they will save your life. You’ll get past the chains. You’ll get past the first sign that says “end of trail”. You’ll get past that! You’ll get past the obstacles after that and your reward will be that beautiful natural arch. And when you have gotten there, I really want to say thanks Dr. Dave.

Not only on the trail but the trail of life. We’re doing this together guys! And I am not just talking about the male gender. I am talking about ALL of you. Every single one of you. You’re my friends. My goal in life is to help you live your best life EVER! I’ve been through some crazy times in my life. You know that. If you’ve been a long time listener or friend, you know what I went through. I could have thrown my hands in the air and said “that’s it, I’m done!” But I did not do that. I figured out ways to make it good. Make it better. And now I truly am blessed. I really am. I travel the world but mostly North America. I see the beauty and I am able to do my work from wherever I am. And I really love what I do. I hope it comes across in my words. But not only in my words but in my emotion that you can sense from listening to my words here. I truly love what I do. I love helping you! I am going to end this today just by thanking you.

Thanking you not only for being a listener or a follower, you’re a lot more than that to me. A lot more than that. You are a true friend. I’m Dr. Dave or whatever you call me. Dr. D the “V” or just Dave.

I will see you next week!

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164 – No Assumptions

Hey welcome back! It’s Dr. D the “V”! How are you doing today? Welcome guys and gals!!! How are you all? I am so glad that you are with me today!

I’ve got something very very interesting for you. It’s actually a question from a listener that I think is going to be applicable to you. It’s really a good one!

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But before I get into it, here’s what I’m doing. I’m outside right now as usual. I’m actually walking back from taking my car in to be serviced and having a dermatological appointment. Nothing’s wrong with me, my skin is good. But I go once a year for a skin check just to make sure everything’s ok. And I’m going to highly recommend that you do this. Because you know something? You never know! I recommend annual physicals as well. But going once a year and seeing a dermatologist to have a complete skin check from head to toe, scalp to the bottom of your feet, is really important.

About 2 years ago she found a little discoloration on my chest that she said looks suspicious so she wanted to biopsy it. She did. She took it out and it was a very small little thing. Almost like a little mole but as it turns out it’s good that she caught it. She said that it was pre-cancerous. Pre-cancerous just means that the likelihood is there. It most likely wasn’t cancer but the possibility is there that if left alone it could turn into skin cancer. So I got it cut out and it’s gone. And that’s why I recommend going once a year and getting checked out. You never know what’s there. Something that you think might be ok, may not be ok.

As I am walking back, I passed a house I used to live in years ago. I’d say 15 to 16 years ago. And it brought back a memory because my next door neighbor assumed something about me. This came out years later. After I actually moved she told me this. And it was really bizarre. The moral of the story is, and I learned this a long time ago, never assume anything. You might think you’re right. You might think that what you’re assuming is definitely correct.

Here’s the thing this family made this assumption that I was some weirdo. Well maybe they’re right there 😉 [Dave laughs] But they thought that I was some weirdo living in a dark basement in this house. And the reason they thought that was because of my crazy travel schedule. You know me. A lot of times I am out of town for days or maybe even a couple weeks at a time. So this was before Yoko. It was B.Y. (before Yoko). I lived there alone. And I had my 3 cats. And what I would do is always keep this little light on in the basement where their food was and their litter box. And I had cat sitters that would come in and feed them. So there would always a little light shining in the basement 24/7. Just so they would have some light when they went downstairs. I know cats can probably see in the dark much better than we can but it was one of those things that I had a little light on.

So picture this, I am out of town for like a week at a time and the whole house is totally dark except for the light burning in the basement. So my neighbors formed this opinion, an assumption, that neighbor guy was a weirdo. All he does is sit in his basement and who knows what he’s doing down there. But he’s some weirdo and we’ve got to stay away from him.

It was so funny when that came out. I think it was when I was selling the house actually. They came over and we talked. I explained to them no that’s not what it really was. I am out of town a lot. And it was a light for my cats. And they said oh you’re not the weirdo that we thought you were. We thought you were some crazy guy.

So never assume! I’ve learned this and I used to assume things all the time. And I always thought that when I assumed something I was right. I was definitely right. But I’ll tell you something. It was 90% of the time when you’re assuming something about somebody else or something that happened. I’d say 90% of the time you’re not right. But you build this up in your mind. And you think, oh no it’s definitely right. It’s definitely true. But it’s not.

So if I could help you with that. Let’s start today. Never assume anything. Anything. Never assume. Don’t let the assumption worry you. Don’t let it ruin your life. Because it does. It will. Don’t assume.

So I got this question on Facebook from a really good guy named Eric. I don’t have it in front of me so I am going to try to recreate the question as best as I can. Actually I am just going to grab it because I don’t think I can do it any justice by trying to recreate it here. He asked it so beautifully and eloquently. Erik Ko, the guy that asked this question, is a vegan and long distance runner. He is a young guy who really really pays a lot of attention to his life and his finances. But he is extremely responsible. One of the most responsible people young men that I know I think. And he asks very very good questions. Eric’s question is…

“I’ve been wondering this and thought it might be a good topic for an upcoming podcast. What are your thoughts on buying a new car versus driving an old car into the ground? To give some specifics, I am very down to earth and typically get a safe reliable commuter car like a Civic, Elantra, or Tacoma. And in the past I’ve driven them an average of 9 years, well past the warranty. I currently have a 2012 Hyundai Elantra with 92,000 miles on it and the engine warranty is up at 100,000 miles. I’m torn because I like the peace of mind of a reliable car without having to worry about major repairs to which I cannot even do minor ones. So what should I do? Should I ditch that one and get another car? Should I keep it going?”

Oh my God! This is a total no brainer. What’s my advice guys? What do you think? What am I going to say to Eric?

Ok so number one, I know Eric and I know the guy. I am going to go out on a limb and assume (even though I shouldn’t assume), but I am going to assume that he takes good care of his things. I am sure that he maintains them. I will bet you that if you saw this Elantra, I am going to bet it’s in really good shape.

My advice to you Eric is to keep that car going. Do not sell it. Do not get a new car. And by the way, my feeling these days is to never buy a new car. Never, never, never buy a new car. Always buy a car that is probably in the 2 to 3 year old range with low mileage on it. You can go to cars.com and find almost anything. They’ve got pictures. They’ve got the condition. You can find cars that are only a couple of years old that look like they are brand freaking new. So that’s what I would do if I was buying a new car.

Eric, I would not worry about that warranty. That warranty is going to be up in 8,000 miles. But it does not make financial sense to go out and buy a new car just because it’s under warranty. It doesn’t make sense. Do the math on that. When you buy a warranty they are money makers for the dealer or car company so don’t worry about the warranty. When you’re maintaining a car, yeah it’s going to cost you every year but it’s generally not going to be all that much. It’s not going to be nearly the cost of ditching a car that’s almost out of warranty.

And buy the way people, always pay cash for your car. Another Dave secret. Always pay cash because if you cannot afford to pay cash for a car and want to finance it for 3, 5, or 7 years, you can’t afford it. I don’t care if it’s 0% interest. I don’t care. Pay cash for your car! No exceptions and never lease a car! Never! Leasing is the biggest rip off as far as financing your car goes. When you lease a car and drive it away, the dealers and the salespeople are laughing as you drive away. It is a total rip off. Do not ever lease a car again if you’re thinking about it.

Buy a car for cash. You might be saying well, I’ve only got $3,000 in cash. Then guess what? You’re buying a $3000 car until you can afford something better. And you drive that car and you take good care of it, and you work, and make money to invest. And when you can afford something better, you buy something better it you want to. Do NOT finance a car!

You might be asking why is Dr. Dave, Dr. D the “V”, talking about financial stuff on his lifestyle show. Well let me tell you something. It’s about lifestyle. If you’re financially strapped or stressed, or in debt, do you think your lifestyle is good? Do you think you are in good health? Do you think your stress is helping your health? I’ve learned some things during my life to be financially responsible. It is a game changer when you’re not stressed at all. When you put your head on your pillow at night, and you’re debt free, and you’re spending less money than you make, there’s a sense of peace that envelops your entire body. When you put your head on your pillow and you know that bill collectors are not coming after you even if you lose your job because you don’t have any debt. And when you don’t have any debt, you’re paying for food, you’re paying for your heat and air conditioning, you’re paying for fuel for your car, you’re paying for insurance, but when you don’t have any debt, you’re not in danger of losing things like your house. If you lose a job, it is a total game changer.

Now let me share with you about my cars because I think it’s going to help you. I have 3 cars between Yoko and I. I’ll tell you exactly what they are. I won’t hold anything back. Full disclosure here. I’ve got a 2005 Volvo XC90 which is about 12 years old and it has 108,000 miles on it. How do I know it has 108,000 miles on it? I just dropped it off for servicing because I take it for regular service. If you saw this car, you would think it’s maybe a couple of years old. You would think it almost came off the showroom floor. It doesn’t have crap all over the seats. The outside of it looks good. It doesn’t have any dings in it.

One of my secrets is that I park very far away when I go shopping. Grocery store, appointment, office, wherever it may be. Wherever I’m going. I park far away. Not near any other cars because everybody likes to park so damn close. And guess what? I walk to the door. I get my steps in and my car is in great shape. Like I said, if you saw my car it looks pretty good. And totally paid for.

Yoko’s car is a 2012 Jeep Compass. It’s a fairly modest Jeep. She hardly ever drives. She sees clients at home so she is mostly home all day. I think it only has 14,000 or 15,000 miles on it. I don’t have to even tell you that she takes great care of it. It looks like it is brand spanking new. She could sell this car for new. It has less than 15,000 miles on it! It looks great! And by the way, we don’t owe a dime for it. It was paid for in cash. It was bought used by the way. I think we bought it in 2013 so we bought it when it was like a year old. We got a great deal and paid cash.

And for my third car, what do I tell you about this one? When I was approaching my 60th birthday there was something that I wanted. These days I wouldn’t do it. But when I was approaching my 60th birthday I wanted a Porsche. So I went out and bought a Porsche. It’s a Porsche Cayman. It’s a cute little thing. I paid cash for it guys. It was used. Give me a break 😉 I know I don’t need it. It’s a 2007 and it looks brand spanking new. If you come to the Weekend to Awesome, I’ll show it to you. Maybe I’ll take you for a ride. It looks like it just came off the dealer’s showroom floor. It’s got something like 20,000 miles on it and I’ve had it for 2 years. Do I need it? No! Am I proud that I bought it? Eh it’s ok. Am I trying to become more of a minimalist? Yes! Will I probably sell it sometime in the very near future? Yes. But let me tell you something. While I have it this thing is sweet! It is so much fun to drive. It’s a 5 speed. It hugs the road and goes fast. It’s so much fun! But having said all that, I am going to be talking to you more about becoming more of a minimalist.

This Porsche is a cool car but it still requires insurance, maintenance, washing it, fuel and everything. It costs money. If something breaks down it’s a hassle. Do I need it? No, I don’t need it and I’m really trying to get rid of stuff. The time will come, probably sometime soon, where I say hey look it’s time to sell it.

And I tell you something, everytime I get rid of something or things, I really feel a big difference. It makes my life that much more simple. And by the way I hope you get this in time. We are going to be playing the minimalist game in my Facebook group, Supercharge Hangout. My buddy Jason Schramm and I will be playing this game all through the month of December. I’ll put a video up to explain exactly how it works. It will change your life, I promise you. I will be participating as well. I have found truly that when you start getting rid of stuff your life starts to open up. There’s a sense a peace that you wouldn’t believe. So I’m really trying to do more of this. I’ve been doing it for about a year but now I’m putting it into high gear. This game is going to be fun! I hope you join us. I’d like to see you there. It’s going to be a great month!

I’m going to leave you on that note folks! I hope I helped you! Financial stuff some people don’t really want to get involved with. They want to forget about it. But it’s so important to be financially responsible. I’m not a financial planner at all but I know enough to be dangerous. I know enough to do the right things in my life. It really helped me become financially independent, stress free, debt free, oh this stuff works! It works! We’ll talk about it soon.

Until next time guys and gals! I love ya!

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