154 – This is Not My Beautiful Life with Victoria Fedden

Hello! Welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. This is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. I’ve got a great show for you today. I know I pretty much always say that or almost always say that. I think every show is great. I really do! I wouldn’t publish it or broadcast it if I didn’t think it was great. This show is going to be incredibly great. Make sure you are in a quiet place and listen to this from start to finish. I promise you, this is going to be a life changer!

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Let me explain what the show is going to be about today. Those of you that listened to me last week, I talked a little bit about this last week. It’s about a book I read a short time ago. It changed my life. The book is called “This Is Not My Beautiful Life”. I’ve got the author of the book on the show today as my guest. Her name is Victoria Fedden.

Dr. Dave: “There’s no time like now to bring her in. Victoria are you there and how are you doing?”

Victoria: “I’m here and I’m doing great! Thank you! How are you?”

Dr. Dave: “Victoria, I’m doing great! I’m up in the Maryland area. And I know you’re in Florida but let me tell you we’ve been having this summer that’s a killer. It’s been super hot and humid here every day so I feel like I need an ocean here next to me. It’s just crazy. It’s been super super hot. It’s probably cooler where you are. I think you are in South Florida right?”

Victoria: “Yeah, I’m in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida and I assure you it is not cooler. [Laughing in the background] It is like living in a sauna. It is really hot!”

Dr. Dave: “We’re going to have to have a little face off here. I bet you that it’s hotter here. [Dave giggling] Anyway,so I want to talk to you about this book you wrote. I want to let you know and I don’t think I have ever told you this before but I am not really a serious reader. I read business books and self-help books and motivational but I’m an outdoors guy and I like running and stuff like that. Typically, I will buy a book on my Kindle and after a few chapters, I just kind of stop and I am on to the next thing. But I talked to you on, Facebook I think, for a short time about this book that you just came out with. And I think I said something like Victoria do you think this would be a good book for me? And right away you replied and said absolutely! So I downloaded it and once I downloaded it and started reading it, let me tell you something, from the very first page or two I was sucked into this thing. I could not put it down. I remember right from the first chapter, you were in your parents house and their was a knock on the door. You were in your pajamas and were like 8 or 9 months pregnant. And the knock on the door that you described went on to change your life forever.”

Victoria: “Yes, it did!”

Dr. Dave: “It did change your life forever. And I couldn’t put the book down. I think I messaged you somewhere along the road as I was reading it. I remember I was busy, I was in Colorado and had a full schedule and I said Victoria, it will probably take me a long time to read this book because I will probably read a little at a time. But I finished this book in world record David Madow time. This is really weird. I don’t know if anyone has told you yet but I was really hoping there was more. I read the epilogue and the note from the publisher. I just kept reading this thing and I kept hoping that it keep going on forever but it didn’t. I just want to let you know that this is really special because it kept my attention the entire time.”

Victoria: “Well thank you so much! I’m really really flattered to hear that.”

Dr. Dave: “And not only that, when I was probably half way through, I did a Periscope broadcast and insisted that my viewers buy this book and read it. I made it their homework. Seriously. And to make it easier for them I put an Amazon link on my website and told them to go there and read it. And many of them have bought it. No one has finished it yet because it was just last week that I told them about it. But somebody on Periscope today told me that he was on chapter 20 and was loving it. So again, I want to thank you so much. But I’ve got a bunch of things I’ve got to ask you about with this book.”

Victoria: “Ok perfect! Ask away.”

Dr. Dave: “Well I guess the first question is, you definitely did something magical here. I want to hear from you. Why did you write this book?”

Victoria: “I wrote the book because I knew I had a good story. On the day of the raid, I actually told my parents, one day I am going to write a memoir about this and it better be a best seller. And everybody laughed and me and was like haha, Ok Victoria Ok. But I knew from day one. I didn’t know what was going to happen but I knew that I was going to have a good story and one day I was going to write that memoir. But that doesn’t necessarily answer the question of why. Besides being a good story, I felt that I needed to get the story out of me. I felt that I had grown and changed so much as a person and that I had learned so many lessons that although it was an unusual situation the lessons I learned were universal. And I really felt like what my family and I had been through I needed to use that in some way to help other people out there.”

Dr. Dave: “Incredible! Now I have to be very careful, as I told you before we chatted a little bit before I pressed record and to be fair to our listeners I don’t want to give too many things away because I really want them to read this book from start to finish and I don’t want to tell them what it’s about or what happened. But it is totally a life changer. I am going to recommend it. You basically talked about a 4 year slice of your life and what happened. It’s not only about you but it changed my life. It got me to look at my life a different way and realize that everybody, and I mean everybody, has stuff going on in their lives. Maybe on different levels but everybody’s got something going on. When you were going through this 4-year ordeal, I noticed that you talked about yoga a lot maybe half way through the book. You started going to a yoga class and you hated it as first. You made it very clear that you were horrible at yoga and you were not like the other people in the class. But then as the book went on and progressed, you became a lot more comfortable about yoga and the poses and it started really changing your life. I would like to talk to you a little about yoga. I am in the same situation. I definitely practice yoga. I’ve been doing it for 6 or 7 years now and when I first started I was kinda like you were. I just felt really uncomfortable with it. But once you keep doing it, it really really is a life changer. So tell me why you think yoga was really a major player in getting you through this 4-year period of your life?”

Victoria: “I think what it was is that is really helped me to calm down. I also met a lot of other people that were really going through tough times too. Many of them far tougher than what I was going through. So I started to see that everybody was there for healing. Everybody was trying to get by. Everybody was trying to learn skills to cope with their life and it wasn’t just me. It’s hard to explain how just stretching for an hour and a half in a dark room, but it’s life changing. I’ve tried to put my finger on what exactly it is about it but I think a lot of it has to do with focus. It helped me to focus. It helped me learn to set intentions. Not just while I was in class but every day. Because at the beginning of every yoga class they say, Ok now set your intention. I never quite understood how to do that in class so I started making it up on my own. I would say Ok today I am going to stop fighting. Today I am going to love myself more. Today I am going to just try a little bit harder. Or today I am going to be more open minded. I’m still not entirely sure if that’s what the teachers want us to do but that’s what I do and that’s what works for me. So I started doing that off of my mat too. So every morning now when I wake up, I set an intention for the day. It’s not the same as a to do list where my intention is to go to the grocery store or go to the post office. It’s not that kind of intention. It’s an intention to be more mindful, be more compassionate, or to be more open-hearted.”

Dr. Dave: “Now you didn’t really make it clear in the book and when I was reading about the yoga part which I loved hearing about. You definitely talked about the hot room but you didn’t make it clear so is it truly like the hot yoga (Bikram yoga) that you were doing or just regular yoga and the room was warm?”

Victoria: “Not Bikram no. But I think they keep it between 95 and 97 degrees in there.”

Dr. Dave: “Ok that’s definitely hot. [Dave laughs]”

Victoria: “Well yeah. I live in Florida so I guess I am used to the heat. In the beginning I felt like it was hot but now when I go in and take a yoga class, I don’t really think about the temperature anymore. It doesn’t phase me too much.”

Dr. Dave: “Ah excellent. I remember something else that I’ll never forget and I believe it was when you were sending your daughter to a private school and you were noticing how the other mothers would being their kids in and they would be these perfect looking women, and everything was great, and it looked like they had all this money and their lives were just so simple. And then you started to get together with some of them and you started to go around the room and some of the women started to open up and it was like they all had pretty big problems. And they started talking about them. And oh my god it was unbelievable.”

Victoria: “Oh it was! That was a completely life changing moment for me. And I have to continually remind myself of that moment because thinking that other people have perfect lives. It’s actually something that I still struggle with. I call it my tragic downfall that I will always idolize other people without really getting to know them. So that’s something that I am still working on. But when that happened, I was in this room and they all had their hair perfectly highlighted, and drove really nice cars, and they all had their Starbuck’s cups, and their kids were always adorably dressed. I felt like I was a big mess. When they started talking about the truth of their lives, I saw that I was definitely not alone. I was in very good company. And some of those women are my very best friends to this day and I am so thankful for them.”

Dr. Dave: “Wow! I learned a lot from that. I am kinda the same as you are. You look around and you see some of these people that are just making so much money, and they live in these mansions, and they are driving the fanciest cars. But guess what their lives are probably just as screwed up as anybody else. They just don’t really show it or talk about it. So I thought that was an amazing part and I will never forget that part of your book. It was really really cool. So I was on Periscope this morning Victoria, and maybe I’m obsessed because I talk about your book a lot, I mentioned that I was going to be interviewing you today and one of my viewers typed in a question and said can you please ask Victoria this question? And I said type it in and let me see what it is. So if it’s Ok I want to ask this question? It’s actually from Steve, one of my viewers and listener of my podcast also. He said that it seemed like your husband was almost in the background when you were going through this crazy crazy 4-year ordeal and he wasn’t all that involved. He wanted to know did you look to your husband for support or did he not give you support? What was the story there? Did he maybe give you support that you didn’t write about. He wanted to know a little more about that.”

Victoria: “He did give me support that I didn’t write about. There was a large period of time there where he wasn’t physically around. I mention it very briefly a few times in the book that because of his job he was travelling a lot. So we spent several weeks apart. There were a few times when I went up to Delaware for a couple months at a time. So there were parts when we really were not together. But we did speak every day and we Facetimed every day. So he was there and he was giving me emotional support. But also I think that a struggle that we have had in our marriage is that he is more introverted than I am about making things like this public. And I think it can be hard for someone who is much more private and much more guarded to be married to a person like me who is not guarded at all and has zero secrets whatsoever. So I need to respect that boundary with him as much as possible all the time. So I try not to write about him too much.”

Dr. Dave: “Ok that totally makes sense then. And I understand. The reason I understand is as you know my life is really out there and it seems like if something happens crazy in my life, I share it. I think there’s always a learning experience. I feel that if something happens to me in my life I share it with my listeners, my followers, my viewers. If I can help one person in their lives then I feel good about that and I kinda suspect I help a lot more than one. So I totally understand. My life is really out there as well. You mentioned several times in the book about being from Delaware and there were at least one or two times that you went back there to visit some family. And it’s funny some of the things that you mention, being in Maryland and having lived in Maryland for most of my life, a lot of that sounded very familiar to me especially some of the things you talked about being at the beach. But I was curious. You talked about being at the beach but you never mentioned the beach by name. I’m guessing it might have been Rehoboth Beach but am I right or am I off?”

Victoria: “Yes, it was Rehoboth Beach.”

Dr. Dave: “Ok. I have so many childhood memories there so a lot of the things you were talking about that I could totally identify with. It was amazing.”

Victoria: “Oh I loved writing that section too because I have so many fond wonderful memories of Rehoboth. It’s easily one of my top five favorite places on Earth.”

Dr. Dave: “It’s a great place! And I loved when you wrote about being in Delaware one winter and I think you said basically the beach isn’t open and there was nothing going on. And you kind of painted it as though there was nothing going on very cold there when there’s not a lot of people going to the beach. So I could totally identify with that and really loved it. There were many times in the book where you questioned yourself whether you’re a good mother or a good wife. And we’re not going to give too many things away because I want everyone to read this book. So how are you doing with being a mom and being a wife now that this ordeal has passed and you are in another phase of your life? Are things going ok with that?”

Victoria: “Yeah they are. I think I’ve healed a lot. I still have a lot more healing to go of course. I think that’s a lifelong process for anybody. Anybody who’s self aware at least. So I’m always going to be working on myself and I’m always going through some sort of a healing process I think. I don’t really see myself and seeing enlightenment in this lifetime but you never know. [giggling] But I’m in a much better place. I have good days and bad days. Depression and anxiety is something that I still struggle with. In the book, I was actually medicated for part of the book. But I am no longer taking any kind of medication now. I try to control all of my depression and anxiety with yoga, meditation, exercise, and eating halfway decently most of the time.”

Dr. Dave: “I like that. I like that. Eating halfway decently most of the time. [Dr. Dave laughs] That gives you a lot of leeway there Victoria.”

Victoria: [giggling] “I’m just trying to be honest.”

Dr. Dave: “No, no. I like that. You’re totally honest. In this book you talked about some of the foods you ate and let’s face it a lot of them were not very healthy. And you talked about your depression and how your doctor finally put you on medication. You really were out there and talked about your life. I think that’s one of the reasons that I couldn’t put the book down. It was so real. It was not a made up story. It was a true story. And you pretty much didn’t hold anything back. It was really greatly appreciated. For someone that is reading this book, what is the take away? What would be the one thing that you want people to learn from this book?”

Victoria: “I have a lot of takeaways actually. One thing that I really want people to take away from it is that other people are not perfect. What we see on Facebook and social media, or what we see during brief interactions such as preschool drop off, that’s not real people’s lives. That’s just a very very tiny part of people’s lives. And we all have hard things happen to us and we can all get through them. It’s best not to hide what we’re going through. And it’s best to be open and honest and not be ashamed of your story.”

Dr. Dave: “You know it’s funny that you said that. I talk about this so often on my podcast and on Periscope as well. It’s so easy. On Facebook, no one’s going to put a bad picture of themselves, they’re going to put the absolute best pictures taken from the absolute best angles possible so they look great. And they’re not going to post that they’ve had a horrible depressing day. They’re going to post something from a beautiful restaurant or their vacation or a brand new car. Something like that. So what you said is so true. And you’re kind of preaching to the choir because it’s almost unfair to look at Facebook or some type of social media platform and see everybody out there because you’re not seeing the real thing. It’s probably something else that just attracted to your book and got me hooked. I think I’m probably going to read it again. Unless you’re going to write something really quickly. Because I’ve got to read something else from Victoria Fedden. I’m just curious. Talking about your writing a little bit. I don’t think this is your first book. You’ve had at least another book or so. But I’m guessing that based on what I’m seeing on Facebook and hearing, this book has exceeded your wildest expectation and dreams. If I’m right on that I would love to know a little more about that. What’s it like to be this author that’s now famous and getting this recognition? It must be incredible.”

Victoria: “It is incredible and a lot of times it doesn’t even feel real to me. I have a lot of people emailing me, texting me sending me Facebook messages, and many of them are total strangers. And they’re telling me that my book has helped them so much, and it’s changed their lives, and taught them lessons. That is what really blows my mind. It’s not so much seeing the book in all the airport bookstores or anything like that. I’ve got people that I really don’t know contacting me and saying, hey I’ve read your book and it really affected me. And I really needed this and needed to hear your words. That has just been mind blowing for me.”

Dr. Dave: “Isn’t that a great feeling? That must be amazing.”

Victoria: “It is! It is amazing. I had a few moments of insecurity where I felt like maybe I wasn’t worthy of that. Because I still feel like me who’s really bad at yoga and doesn’t always eat the best food. [Dave laughs] I’m still that person. Sometimes I feel like oh my gosh am I up for this? Am I worthy of this? But yes I feel like the universe chose me for this mission and I will do my best.”

Dr. Dave: “That’s amazing! Do you have time to answer everybody that messages you?”

Victoria: “Not always. A few times I’ve gotten very overwhelmed with it. But what I do when that happens is that I just set everything to the side. I’ll take a break. I’ll read. I’ll go for a walk. I’ll go to yoga. And then I’ll come back to it later. But I feel very very grateful for every person that buys my book and reads my book. And I feel like I need to acknowledge my readers. So yes I do message everybody back as best as I can but not always immediately.”

Dr. Dave: “No no. Good for you. You probably don’t even know how many people you are helping out there. That’s great! So Victoria the book is titled This Is Not My Beautiful Life. I actually put a couple links to the Kindle version and to the hard copy version on my website. So if my listeners want to go there, I just like to make it easy for people. It is one of the recommended products. Sometimes I speak to authors Victoria and they prefer that people go into a regular store and buy it and give the brick and mortar places business. Does it matter to you where people get it?”

Victoria: “It doesn’t necessarily matter to me. Wherever people get it. Whatever is most convenient for the reader, I think is best. But I do strongly support independent bookstores.”

Dr. Dave: “Sure. I know down in South Florida there are a bunch. So what’s you next project? Anything on the horizon at all?”

Victoria: “Oh yeah, I never stop writing. I write for hours at a time. I write every single day even on the weekends sometimes and I do a lot of freelance work. I write a lot of articles. I have my own website at www.victoriafedden.com. I write for www.babble.com. I’ve written a few pieces for www.scarymommy.com. On www.elephantjournal.com, I’m a regular contributor. I love that website. And I’m hoping to add a few more. In addition to that, I am working on another memoir. I have two self published books from a few years ago that I actually took off the market and I have a lot of ideas for what I want to do with those. I would like to re-edit those and make those a lot better and try to do something else with them. I think they were great books with a lot of good stories but I feel that now I am a better writer and I can actually improve those two books. So I am working on that too.”

Dr. Dave: “You are a really really busy person. So I recommend that everyone go to my website. As I said I want to make it really easy. Victoria’s book is there. Both versions whether you want it on Kindle or hard copy. But Victoria if someone wants to know more about you should they just go to your website? Can they connect with you there?”

Victoria: “They can connect with me there but I really feel that the best place to connect with me and see everything that I am doing is by going to my Facebook page.”

Dr. Dave: “Ok and share with us how they can find you on Facebook?”

Victoria: “It’s www.facebook.com/victoriacfedden. And on my Facebook page I put links to every single article I write from every site. I write several posts a day. I do a thing called Morning Pages which is really a journaling exercise that I do most days. I started making my morning pages public because I felt like a lot of really interesting things were coming through that could really be of service to others. So those have been really popular too. I get very raw with those. I definitely expose a lot of my personal truths in those. So that’s there. I write inspirational quotes. I also share others people’s articles and things. So I think that’s probably the best place. And readers comment and interact there a lot and I always try to comment back to everyone.”

Dr. Dave: “That’s fantastic! So as your homework, you’ve gotta read the book, This Is Not My Beautiful Life. I’ve shared with you where to get that. And make sure you connect with Victoria on her Facebook page. I have to admit I knew you had a page there but I probably haven’t spent as much time as I should. You made it really enticing for me to go check some stuff out there too. So I’m going to do that as well Victoria. Listen we went way over but I’m not complaining because this has been incredible. I really appreciate your time. I just want to ask you one final question. And I want to thank you so much for being here too. You can come back anytime Victoria. This has been awesome! And I know I am going to get a lot of listeners. But my last question for you is, is this your beautiful life?”

Victoria: “Yes definitely! This is definitely my beautiful life even the parts of it that are ugly.”

Dr. Dave: “I love it! I am glad to hear that! From what I’m seeing you are absolutely living a beautiful life. I congratulate you on all your success and your writing. I can’t wait until the next one comes out because I’m going to absolutely be the first in line to read your next book. I promise you! But until then I invite you to come back anytime Victoria. Thanks so much for your time and we will talk to you soon for sure.”

Victoria: “Oh I hope so. I absolutely loved this! And thank you so much for having me on. It was such a wonderful experience.”

Dr. Dave: “Your welcome anytime.”

Victoria: “Alright, thank you!”

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153 – I Recommend You Do This NOW

Hello there and welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show! This is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, happier, and a lot more. I am in my outdoor studio as you can probably tell. There’s like a low flying helicopter. You guys know that I attract noise. I just attract craziness.

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I came outside to record this and it’s really quiet in this setting. I live in a rural area. I’m gonna let this thing keep going because it is just par for the course. Basically nobody is around and of course, as soon as I press the record button, all of a sudden a low flying helicopter decides to come by.

For those of you who have been with me for a while, you know that wherever I go to record I can find the furthest area out in a parking lot and I start to record and a landscape crew shows up. It’s bizarre! I am kind of glad it happened today because it proves that I record in real time. I don’t know what’s gonna happen. I am not scripted. I’ve got a great show for you today by the way. But sometimes things happen on the show and we just let them go.

The helicopter is gone, who knows whether it will come back. If you’re a new listener, welcome to the craziness! If you’re an old listener or friend and I don’t mean by chronologic age, but if you’ve been with me for a while and you know me, it’s always good to have you back!

This is going to be a great episode. I want to also let you know that this show is not scripted. When I press record, I know basically what I am going to say but I don’t have a script. I can go off on any tangent that I want. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn’t. It’s really strange. Sometimes I will end a show and I will say to myself “Dave, it was alright. You can let it go. No need to re-record it. But it wasn’t really your best.

I really want every show to be my best. But that is impossible. I am not perfect. I think they are all really good, don’t get me wrong. A couple weeks ago you probably heard the show where I talked about running the Hunky Dory Marathon in Colorado. When I finished recording that, I kind of thought that it was alright. I might go back and re-record it. But I didn’t. I published it. And when I listened to it again after it was released a week or so ago, it was one of my favorite ones ever. And it got a ton of listens and a ton of shares so something must have been right with it. I had a lot of people tell me and I agree that it was one of the best ones I have recorded in a long time. Listen to Episode #151 now.

Before I get into the main topic I want to also share something with you. For those of you that know me, you know I am not a jewelry person. I don’t wear necklaces or rings or fancy things. But lately there are two things that I wear. On my left hand is a Fitbit. I love this Fitbit. I have had it for several months now. I love it. It tracks everything that I do including number of steps per day. Already today at mid-day I am up to 16,600 steps which is not bad. I did a 7 mile run this morning which definitely helps. It gets me to understand how I am moving my body and what my heart rate is. It does a lot of other things that I look at sometimes like sleep. It’s been an invaluable tool in keeping me in the best physical shape possible.

And on my right hand I wear beaded bracelets. If you’ve seen me on my videos on Periscope or Facebook you may have seen them.

The world is just not a peaceful place anymore. There’s always some kind of noise or interruption. That’s why I love meditation. I love running on a quiet country road. It goes to show that when you want peace and quiet, like when you’re recording a podcast, noise just shows up. I don’t know why. Those of you who have been to my house know it’s in the sticks in horse country. There’s nothing out here. And I don’t know why a helicopter would all of a sudden choose to circle around here. I hope there’s nothing bad going on.

I hope I haven’t lost you. But life is full of interruptions and craziness. When we do Yoga and meditate my good friend and Yoga instructor has always told me that no matter what you try to do life is always full of interruptions. What you have to do is to take those interruptions and deal with them. Nothing is perfect in life and things happen. Life is unpredictable as well.

Again, on my right hand I wear 3 beaded bracelets. I got these bracelets from a friend of mine who makes these by hand in New York. His name is Dezmond. I met Dezmond online. He does a lot of Periscope broadcasting and I have met him personally several times. I bought some bracelets from him and I have been wearing them ever since. The only time I ever take them off is when I run or exercise or bathe. But otherwise they are on my wrist all the time. I believe they give me a special type of energy. I am not sure. You know how some people wear crystals or beads. Ever since I have had these beads on, not only do they look really cool, but I just feel like they give me some type of real positive energy. I learned how to get rid of the negativity more. And when you get rid of the negativity, you free up room in your life for more positive people to come into your life. Do beaded bracelets do that? I’m not going to say. I don’t know. It’s coincidental that ever since I have been wearing these I feel a lot of positivity around me. I suggest you check these out. They are very inexpensive. Dez does a great job. He does them by hand. If you go to his website www.beadsbydez.com. Take a look around. There’s a lot of different types. I kind of wear pretty simple small beads that are dark colored. I wear them 3 at a time. I just feel that there is something magical about the number 3. If you like what you see, feel free to use an offer code DAVE. He is giving this to my listeners and he will give you totally free shipping. These are already very reasonably priced and when you include free shipping it was kind of like the icing on the cake. Let me know what you think. Feel free to send me pictures with your beaded bracelets. My photo is below!

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I have a friend named Mike. Mike is probably listening to this right now because he is a faithful listener to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. He’s an incredibly good friend of mine and we’ve been friends for many many years. And several times a year we try to get together whether it’s for a long weekend if we’re traveling or sometimes we’ll just make it a point to put something on the calendar.

So about a year ago we decided to hang out for a long weekend. So we went on Airbnb and this guy was renting out his home for the weekend and it was very reasonably priced. It was a beautiful weekend, it was really cool. But when the guy went to meet us to give us the keys. Somehow we got on a conversation and he asked me what I did. I told him about my podcast. He told me that he would not only check it out but he was also going to share it with his wife who happens to be an author. He shared it with her and she apparently like it and we started following each other on social media sites and she started following my podcast. She even wrote it up in a blog she has. A month or two ago I saw that she came out with a brand new book. Her name is Victoria Fedden. Her book is called This is Not My Beautiful Life. So I messaged Victoria and said, “Hey Victoria, his looks pretty cool but is this something that I would like.” She responded “Yeah absolutely!”

I bought the book and downloaded it on Kindle and I started reading it. It was incredible on 2 levels. Number one, when I first started reading it, from the first chapter, maybe even the first page or two, something happened. I’m not going to tell you too much about it but there was a knock on the door. She was at her parent’s house and she was 9 months pregnant. The doorbell rang and she answered the door at her parent’s house in her pajamas. I am not going to tell you who was at the door but the people who were at the door would go on to change her life and her family’s life forever. It was very strange. I got sucked into reading this thing. And I mean that in a good way. I could not put it down. I am not a real reader meaning that I typically download books on self-help, books on health, hiking, running, skiing, and all kinds of things like that. But I got into this thing and couldn’t put it down. I wanted there to be more. I was reading the back page and the message from the publisher. I kept thinking it can’t be over. I wanted more. It’s unbelievable. But on another level, a lot of the story that Victoria is talking about takes place in the house that I stayed in. The things going on in her house and in her neighborhood, I experienced these things. It was unreal or maybe surreal. I don’t really know the difference between the two. But it was weird having experienced part of this story and staying in this house. I give this book my highest recommendation. It doesn’t matter if you’re a reader, not a reader, a casual reader, a sometimes reader, I want you to get this book. Full disclosure I am an Amazon affiliate and do get a tiny amount if you purchase the book using the link on my website. I’m not saying this because I get some kind of commission. I am saying this because I promise you this book could be life-changing for you. There are times where you will be crying, there are times where you will be scared, but the overall message of the book is invaluable.

Before I leave you today, I’ve got a surprise for you. Since you’ve listened to the end and I appreciate that, I’ve got a guest that’s coming on my show next week. We’re going to spend the entire show talking about something incredible. The guest happens to be the author of the book This is Not My Beautiful Life. Victoria Fadden the author of the book will be on next week. And I am going to ask her some questions. That’s all I am going to tell you right now. This will be a must listen podcast. Especially if you have this book and you started it. I’m going to be very careful not to put any spoilers in. You can listen even if you have not finished the book yet or have not started it. But Victoria will be on from her home in South Florida. Don’t miss the next episode!

Until next week! I pray that there are no helicopters flying over wherever I am or no landscape crews 🙂

– Dr. Dave

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152 – The Multi Award Winning Vegan Chef Mark Reinfeld

Welcome back to the David Madow Lifestyle Show. This is the show were I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. And actually a lot more! Welcome to this episode, it’s going to be a great one. Get comfortable wherever you may be. If you are a first time listener, I welcome you! I have to admit you are probably going to become addicted. If you are a long time listener, welcome back it’s great to have you!

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The reason I think it’s going to be a fantastic show today is because I have kind of a superstar guest with me. This is amazing! Let me explain. For those of you that have been with me for a while, you know that I spent 5 days at Vegetarian SummerFest held at the University of Pittsburgh in Johnstown, PA. It was an awesome experience and I did some episodes from there. But I have got somebody here with me today that I actually met there. You are going to love this guy. I am going to bring him right in! His name is Mark Reinfeld. He is a multi-award winning author. He is also the executive chef at Vegetarian Summerfest. He cooks incredible vegan food for a 1000 or so people. He also travels internationally conducting workshops teaching people how to become vegan and how to cook and prepare food properly. He’s just an all around great guy.

Dr. Dave: “So Mark are you with me? How are you doing? Welcome!”

Mark: “Hey David! It’s great to be on your show. And it’s great to connect again. It was wonderful meeting you at SummerFest.”

Dr. Dave: “It was a blast Mark! You were like a true superstar there. I can’t believe they let you walk around without security.” [Mark laughs in the background] I mean it! When I saw you for the first time and you were walking around and you didn’t have escorts with you, I was thinking that people were going to be coming up to you and getting your autograph, and shaking your hand, getting pictures, and asking for recipes. This was a true event. First of all I want to congratulate you. How many years have you been doing this is a row being the executive chef at SummerFest?”

Mark: “This is my 5th year.”

Dr. Dave: “Wow! How did you score that gig? That’s an amazing gig!”

Mark: “It was a great opportunity and I definitely pushed myself beyond my comfort zone when I accepted. I tend to say yes to things and then figure it out once it happens. I had experience in a restaurant setting For a big event, we would do maybe 100-200 people. And this was a peak of about 750 people at SummerFest. So I just applied and sent them some recipes. I took the dive and it’s definitely gotten easier over the years.”

Dr. Dave: “I just want to say coming from me, I notice a lot of things. The food was delicious. There were 2 actual cafeterias where you could eat. I usually went to the quieter smaller one downstairs because I like to have a little more space. The one upstairs was just packed. The food was amazing. But I can’t even imagine what it takes to prepare breakfast, lunch, and dinner for 5 days for 700 plus people. It was an amazing thing. So I just wanted to congratulate you. the quality of food coming out of your kitchen was just amazing, Mark. It did not go unnoticed.”

Mark: “Thanks man! Thank you. Thank you. It’s definitely an honor to provide the food for such an incredible event. And I encourage people who are interested in looking into it a lot of the top vegan educators, chefs, and authors are there. So I encourage everyone to experience it. And you may catch a glimpse of the wonderful Dave Madow singing Vegan on A Jet Plane which is worth the price of admission alone.”

Dr. Dave: [Dave laughing] “Worth the price of admission, I love it! I totally love that. I tell you if I come back next year, which I hope I do, I’ve got a new song that I am working on. It’s going to be amazing. But Mark let’s go back to basics a little bit. You’re a chef, you’re an author, you travel all over the world, people know you and you do a lot of teaching. Tell us about your becoming vegan. How did it happen?”

Mark: “In 1990, I was on a kibbutz in Israel and I started seeing animals in their natural setting. I had never really seen a baby cow before. They also had baby chicks there. And several experiences on the kibbutz opened me up to connecting with animals in a way that I didn’t want to eat them anymore. So that was my journey. Then I learned more about the dairy and ag industries and the environmental impacts and then the health benefits of a plant based diet. It’s been a journey since then.”

Dr. Dave: “So on the kibbutz did you actually see the animals suffering or you just saw animals walking around and you didn’t want to see any harm done to them? What was the extent of that?”

Mark: “Have you eaten your lunch yet?”

Dr. Dave: “Well, I have not eaten my lunch yet.”

Mark: “One of the tasks was that we had to bring the chickens from where they were and put them in crates. It was a very horrendous experience. I had been eating chicken 5-7 days a week. I won’t go into the gory details but the chickens did not go willingly into the crate. So it was a pretty hardcore experience. I worked hard in the process of eliminating that from my life.”

Dr. Dave: “You get it. I get it. But I just don’t understand how anybody would want to take part in or be responsible for the killing and suffering of these animals. Same with me Mark. As soon as I learned what was going on out there through reading, and podcasts, and videos my wife and I just one day said that’s it we’re not going to be involved in this anymore. I’m not going to do a meatless Monday and ease into it. We just said we’re out of this. We are never consuming another animal product again as long as we live.”

Mark: “Wow that amazing! Yeah, for me it’s a complex issue. There’s a lot of layers to peel through to get to that decision. Family traditions and senses of comfort and home and security. So parts of our being may be aware of it and the impact of the cruelty but other parts override it. So I think you were the low hanging fruit at that time. And you were able to make the change right away. So I congratulate you on that!”

Dr. Dave: “Yeah I mean it is complex. Most of my friends are not vegan. And same thing with a lot of my family members. So it is very difficult during holidays or when you get together for social events but I don’t make any exceptions. If I go to someone’s house and they’re serving something that’s not vegan, I may bring something of my own or eat ahead of time. I make no exceptions. That’s how strongly I feel about it. Tell me about becoming a chef. When did you decide to do that? Were you already a chef when you were in Israel at the kibbutz? Did you do that afterwards?”

Mark: “I was on the kibbutz in between graduating college and going to law school. I went to law school for a semester at NYU and it was during the trip that year I traveled through Europe. I was in Berlin when the wall opened, on the kibbutz in Israel, did a trek to Mt. Everest, was in the Indian Himalayas. It was on that trip that I became vegetarian then vegan. After a semester at law school, I realized that wasn’t my path. So I moved out west with whatever fit in my car basically. I started working in a health food store out there and that’s how my culinary career got started.”

Dr. Dave: “From a health food store? Let’s take a step back and talk for a minute or two about that because I have been doing this podcast, The David Madow Lifestyle Show, for about 3 years now and I talk about healthy eating and moving your body. I talk about all the good stuff. But, what you just said struck a chord because one of the things I talk to my listeners about all the time is happiness. And doing what we want to do in our lives. And you went to law school for a semester and somehow during that semester you realized that was not for you. You couldn’t see yourself being a lawyer or doing that for the rest of your life. And you decided to take a step back and work in a health food store.”

Mark: “Yeah I didn’t know at the time what the plan B was, I just knew that year of traveling I spent really cultivating this sense of joy and freedom. I was feeling alive and the wonder of it all. So after a semester of law school I had a glimpse of what that path would have been and at that point I wasn’t happy. It’s cliche to say follow your dreams but it’s actually, I think, when you do tune into that and it’s guidance it takes you in the direction that you need to go. So I didn’t know what my plan B was but I just knew that when I got to California that I always loved cooking. So I just started out and after a few years I branched off and formed a consulting service. And then wound up opening a restaurant in Kuwai. And then my career as a cookbook author occurred then as well. So when I left law school I had no idea what the next phase was going to be at all.”

Dr. Dave: “So can you ever now look back and wonder what would have happened if you would have just stayed with the program? I don’t know maybe there was some family pressure. What do you think would have happened in your life and you had stayed with the program and became a lawyer? Wearing a suit everyday and going into courtrooms. What would your life be like?”

Mark: “I think that’s a great question. Challenging to project. I think there probably would have been that voice in my head that was saying you know this isn’t for you. There’s something else. So making that decision of just following my dreams in that way has been very fulfilling to know that I listened to that part of myself.”

Dr. Dave: “So I am going to take just a 15-20 seconds out and I am speaking right to my listeners. Listen if you’ve heard this before. You’ve heard me talk about it. You’re hearing Mark Reinfeld talk about it. You’ve got to follow your dreams. You’ve got to listen to the inner voice or listen to your heart if it’s telling you something. I used to practice dentistry for 13 years and the inner voice in my head told me that it’s a great profession and I had a great practice but that I was not going to be doing this at 55, 60, or 70 years old. I had another direction that I was going in. I listened to that voice just like your story. I love it! So congratulations!”

Mark: “Yeah for me at that time there was really no path to follow so I was like in the bush with my machete kind of forging a path. [both laughing] It’s been an amazing journey and one of the most deeply satisfying things. That decision and that intention to listen that part of myself.”

Dr. Dave: “Well if I can say this from just observing you, and we just met at Vegetarian SummerFest for the first time, you seem incredibly happy. There’s not a question in my mind. You just seem like you got it going on. You seem like a nice modest guy and that you have figured out how to live your absolute best life ever. So I applaud you. I really think you’re doing great work.”

Mark: “Aww thanks man!”

Dr. Dave: “Yeah you’re welcome! You’ve got this book that just came out, Healing the Vegan Way. Talk to me about that a little bit. What made you write that? What’s it about?”

Mark: “It really explores the healing qualities of plant based foods. I always like to say that plants have the capacity to heal and transform our lives. I’ve always been interested in the healing quality of foods and there’s over 200 recipes and I have really strong expert testimonials from the leading plant based medical doctors and dieticians many of whom you probably heard at Vegetarian SummerFest, Dr. Greger, Dr. Klaper, Brenda Davis. They gave really concise expert testimony and I included 200 recipes that show you how to work with the plants. There’s a nutrient chart showing what plants provide what nutrients and the parts of the body they are good for. So it’s pretty comprehensive. I feel really happy with how it turned out. And it goes over some of the major conditions people can prevent and reverse with a plant based diet such as heart disease, diabetes, certain forms of cancer, high cholesterol. You know the list.”

Dr. Dave: “Oh sure sure! I’ve got a lot of listeners, a lot of people that listen to this show in particular and a lot of them are plant based vegan already. But a lot of them aren’t Mark. Speak to the people that are kind of listening with a lot of curiosity. They are not sure. There’s a lot of social and family pressures out there. There’s a lot of reasons out there why people just don’t want to do this. Speak to those people for a few minutes. Why should they really consider leaving the standard american diet (SAD) and entering the world of this beautiful wonderful multi-colored plant based world?”

Mark: “Yeah technicolor living. [Dave laughs] I like to describe as there’s 3 different doors you can go through when you are interested in becoming plant based. One of the health and medical door, the one of the environmental or political door, and one is the ethical and rights doors. Usually it’s one of those main reasons that inspires people to eat more plants. All the doors lead to the same room and once you get into the room you can learn about the other reasons. So whatever your sensitivity is, so if you’re health isn’t what you like it to be there’s just an incredible amount of evidence showing that plant based foods are the way to create optimal health. I am a proponent of every little bit counts So if you have a meal a week or a day a week of plant based, you are going to start to see the benefits. If you tend to be environmentally inclined, if you do the research, you’ll see that a plant based diet is really the most sustainable way that we can feed ourselves and ensure a livable future for humanity. Those are the two main reasons. And then if you just start looking at animals differently. Like look at your cat or your dog and if you feel a connection to them you could allow that to extend to other animals as well.”

Dr. Dave: “Yeah when we visit these farm sanctuaries we see that all animals are just full of love. They are smart and they just want to live their lives like we want to live our lives. Mark, I know when I was at SummerFest there was sort of a buzz phrase going around a lot that I heard and I wanted to ask you a little bit about this. The phrase is food activism. People were talking about that. Describe what food activism is and if you want to go into a little bit of detail with it feel free to.”

Mark: “Sure, thanks! I love framing things in that way of referring to this as food activism. Some people would join the Peace Corps or Habitat for Humanity as a way to affect positive social change. For me, empowering people to prepare plant based cuisine that tastes amazing is another form of activism. All the information is out there as to why eating more plants is good for us. The key factor is having that taste good. Because if it doesn’t taste good, the information isn’t going to go very far. So that’s why I love teaching people and empowering them how to prepare plant based food that tastes incredible. You’ve probably heard the saying, if you give a person a piece of tofu you could feed them for a day but if you show them how to bake the tofu you can feed them for a lifetime. Or some variation of that expression. It really is empowering to see people take their health back into their own hands and the benefits to the environment and creating a peaceful world. So that’s why I like to use the phrase food activism.”

Dr. Dave: “And you know some of the things you can do with food. People think that eating plant based or eating vegan is very boring or dull and that there are a lot of things you can’t eat. But I’ve gotta tell you something and I haven’t told many people this because I am not a dessert person but your desserts that you prepared at Vegetarian SummerFest, they were addicting. My wife kept going back for more and more and of course I would eat off of her plate sometimes [Mark laughing] There was some chocolate cake that was plant based. I don’t know whether the desserts are the healthiest things in the world but I know there’s no animal products and they’re absolutely better than eating the typical pies and desserts that people eat after a meal. I love them! I had to kind of put the brakes on a little because I know you just can’t eat too much of that stuff. But some of the foods and even your main meals are so tasty. People look at me and say Dave, I know you can’t eat _______. It’s not that I can’t eat _______, it’s that I choose not to eat ________. I don’t want to eat bacon. I don’t want that stuff. It’s not that I can’t eat it.”

Mark: “Yeah that’s the big myth. It’s not that we can’t eat it, we choose not to. For me, just because you make the decision doesn’t mean you need to give up flavorful enjoyable meals. That’s why I do feel that it’s crucial to be able to say that we are not depriving ourselves of anything. We can create any flavor we want to. And now with the world of plant based cheeses and desserts that are on the cutting edge of the revolution. There are amazing flavors and a lot of people don’t know that they are plant based. I particularly enjoy that.”

Dr. Dave: “We certainly are not depriving ourselves of anything. I am not walking around hungry, trust me. The food we eat is absolutely delicious. And I can say that and you can say that Mark. I like to say to people that I have been on both sides. I was an omnivore for most of my life. I’ve done it both ways. So if anyone out there is listening and you haven’t tried this yet, you can’t really speak to it fairly unless you give it a try. There is no turning back for me. I feel better than I have ever felt in my life. And not only that I’m proud that I am saving some animals.”

Mark: “Yeah it’s fulfilling on so many levels. Once you try it your body tells you to keep going.”

Dr. Dave: “Yeah it certainly is. There’s no way to turn back. There’s really none. I know a lot of people might be listening to this and saying you know this sounds good and you’re a chef but I am not really sure what to cook at home. What am I going to do? So do you have any quick tips or simple you can give my listeners so that they can prepare some easy tasty meals at home?”

Mark: “Sure yeah. I work with people that have no experience in the kitchen all the way up to people who are certified cordon bleu chefs. I’ve worked with people of all skill levels. And it’s really a lot easier than people think. You just have to keep persisting and not being hard on yourself. There’s a psychological component of just being gentle with yourself as you experiment and know that you do have the capacity to create food that tastes really good. So the psychology I think is really important. The two things I encourage people to do when they want to get started is 1) be more creative with your salads. Find new veggies to put in your salad. And also try green smoothies where you’re mixing up different fruits and different greens. That’s a way to just get your palette used to these flavors. And then things like making spice blends. I encourage people to make a moroccan blend, an ethiopian blend, mexican, italian, indian, etc. And then you keep these spice blends on hand. Even sprinkling a spice blend on some rice or quinoa you’re going to take it to the next level. The books that I put out, The 30 Minute Vegan series are geared towards people that are just starting to work with vegan foods. The meals are done in 30 minutes or less for most of them.”

Dr. Dave: “Unbelievable! You asked me earlier in the show if I ate yet and no I didn’t eat yet. You are making me very very hungry. [Mark laughs] I just love this stuff. I can’t talk about it enough. Mark, you’ve got several books out there. If anybody wants to learn more about you or about your books, what’s the best way they can do that?”

Mark: “Through our website at www.veganfusion.com. You can sign up for our newsletter. We send out free recipes and news about events, and when I travel, and training. I also have vegan fusion certified trainers. I know you met Kelly and Madelyn. They call themselves the fusionettes. They have an event coming up in Maryland in September and so there’s constantly new events being put on the calendar.”

Dr. Dave: “That’s great. I want you, my listeners, to make sure you go to www.veganfusion.com to find out about what Mark is up to and find out more about his books. And I really invite you to come next year to Vegetarian SummerFest because I am sure Mark will be there and I will be there too. It’s basically a 5-day fun filled time where you see some of the best speakers, the best experts on the planet talking about being plant based. They’ve got vendors there. It’s like a summer camp almost. It’s amazing! And not only that you will get to experience and taste some of the most delicious vegan food on the planet. I guarantee that. Mark what’s next for you?What do you have coming up over the next few months or a year? What’s going on in your future?”

Mark: “Well I am doing more of these trainings. I have some training scheduled here in Denver. I am doing a new workshop based on the book Healing the Vegan Way. That will be offered in Portland. And we have an online culinary class for people who can’t make it to an event. It’s a 10 part program where you can learn the basics, download the training manual, and there’s videos up there. It’s all available on the website.”

Dr. Dave: “Well congratulations for everything you have done. You’ve accomplished quite an amount of stuff and you’ve got some great stuff coming in the future. Mark, I can’t wait to see you back at Vegetarian SummerFest, if not before.”

Mark: “Yeah let’s definitely meet up before. It was great meeting you. And I loved giving you that brief glimpse into the kitchen.”

Dr. Dave: “Oh yeah you remember that. That made my day. It was just incredible. [Mark chuckling] I asked Mark, I said how do you prepare food for all these people? And Mark was kind enough to say hey come on into the kitchen, let me show you what’s going on. It was amazing so thanks for taking time out of your busy life to spend time on The David Madow Lifestyle Show. I invite you back anytime.”

Mark: “I’ll take you up on that.”

Dr. Dave: “Believe me I would love to have you back. And I am not just saying that. We will absolutely have you back in the very near future. Thanks so much. I appreciate it!”

Mark: “Thank you David! And I wish you the best of luck in everything that you do.”

Dr. Dave: “To my listeners, see you next week on Monday. Until then, have a fantastic week!”

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151 – Hunky Dory Half Marathon

Highlights from today’s show…

  1. Yoko and I complete a very challenging race in some “not so ideal” conditions!
  2. Dr. Dave explains why it’s good to challenge yourself. 

Hey! It’s Dr. Dave. and welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. This is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. I’ve got a great one for you today! Just to kind of pre-empt it, I am in my car studio. I call it my car studio because I am driving. I’ve got my microphone, it’s quiet, and I’ve got a great story to tell you today!

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So, many many months ago, Yoko signed me up as well as herself for a half marathon. A half marathon doesn’t sound too bad. I could practically do a half marathon in my sleep these days. But a half marathon, in Breckenridge, Colorado which is to be run at an average of well over 10,000 feet in altitude. When you get up that high you start to wonder about how much oxygen there’s going to be and how you’re going to feel up in the mountains.

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But I was excited. We are signed up for this thing and we are going to do it! We’re in Breckenridge kind of acclimating for a good two weeks before the race. I’m excited. I know I am going to do this thing. And so a week before the race I come down with this crazy bug. It started off as kind of a cold or allergies. I really didn’t know what it was but it turned into something bacterial. When you see this dark colored stuff coming out of your nose and your coughing, it’s turning bacterial. So I put myself on Zithromax. Which I don’t really like to take antibiotics and it’s extremely rare that I would ever take an antibiotic. I’m vegan, I eat totally plant based, I eat healthy, I work out, and I just don’t think that antibiotics are good. But being at the altitude that I was and turning bacterial, I felt like my immune system needed a little bit of a boost.

So I put myself on z-pack. Which is 5 days worth of Zithromax. I’m thinking, am I going to run this race or not? It’s getting closer and closer. I am starting to feel a little bit better but 13.1 miles in the mountains, up and down hills. And by the way, it’s not a road race. It’s on trails in the woods on the mountains. I think it’s probably about as difficult as a full marathon on the road.

So it’s getting closer and I am starting to feel better. Then I started looking at the forecast. And they are predicting rain during this race. Imagine not feeling 100% combine that with a cold run and running on trails. No, I am not doing that. That’s ridiculous!

So they day before it looks like I am going to be safe until about 11am and the race starts at 8:30am. So I said to Yoko, here’s what I am going to do. Looking at the course map, it looked like it would be fairly easy to run the first half of the race, about 6 miles, and then duck out of the race. That was my plan.

The skies were overcast when we get there the day of the race. There are only about 100 people running this race. It’s a small race. Since I wasn’t feeling 100% my goal was to start wit walking. When a race is 13 miles, even if I am only running half of it, it is still difficult running in the mountains at 10,000 feet elevation. Try it some time! It’s not easy.

I started off in the back of the pack with just a couple people behind me. We start on the road but after about a mile to mile and a half we take a right onto on a really beautiful trail which starts going through the woods mostly up but not real steep up yet. So I am doing my thing walking and adding a little bit of running when I can. And I gotta tell you I am feeling pretty good. There’s some zig zags back and forth and ups and downs. A lot of the race is on a single track trail. Single track is just a thin trail through the woods that is not even wide enough for 2 people to run side by side.

By mile 3 or 4, I started to feel pretty good and get into the groove of this thing. I go by the first aid station and got a little water. Plus I am carrying water in my backpack. I have a CamelBak and I carry some food and water and even a dry shirt and dry socks if I need them. It started to rain a little bit around mile 2 or 3 but then it stopped.

As I am getting further into the race, I am really getting into the groove of this thing and I am combining running with walking. And I am thinking to myself you know the sky might hold off a little bit. It just might hold off. I am looking at my watch and I am not doing too bad and I am feeling good. As I approach the halfway point, it’s the time I have to make a decision. I have to make my decision really quickly. Am I going to duck out of this race now and walk back to the start?

When I get to the halfway point I start thinking, you know I am feeling too good now and I’ve got too much invested into this and I am not quitting. I ain’t going nowhere! 😉 I am going to continue this run.

So I ran past the second aid station and I didn’t even ask them how to get back to the start. I said I am just going to keep this thing going. As I passed the second aid station, the guy motioned to me and I think he was saying something. I had earbuds in at the time and I couldn’t really understand. So I pulled my earbuds out and what he was saying was to be careful because as you passed the station the lead runners would be coming right at you. And what he really meant was that I really better be careful because it’s a single track trail and as I passed the aid station there were 2 runners that were finishing the race up even though I was only at the halfway mark. They were coming at me hard so I had to move off the trail and let the lead runners go.

There was a guy in first place and the second place person was a woman and she was less than a minute behind this guy. You know that I am not sexist. Everyone is equal in my book. But let’s face it, when it comes to running marathons and half marathons, men statistically have faster times. Men historically run faster than men (present company excluded 🙂 ). That’s just the way our bodies our built.

After I let them pass, there were several more people that were doing really well and I pretty much had the courtesy to get off the trail and let them pass. They were all very polite and said thank you.

It got to a point where the trails diverged and I wasn’t worried about people coming at me anymore since it was sort of a loop. So I am running and doing some walking and I get to a point where there is another aid station. By the way, the terrain is going down, down, down and I figure at some point what goes down must also come up. So yeah at about the 8.5 to 9 mile point, let me tell you something! The course started going uphill and there was an uphill climb for about 2 miles straight. Now imagine running in a 13 mile race and you’re at mile 9 and it just starts going steeply uphill. And I mean steep. For 2 miles straight! I could feel my heart beating and I was breathing heavy. I had to take a few deep breaths just to grab some air. It was really tough.

I started thinking should I have continued? Am I ok? I was ok I just knew I had to take it very very slow. So I get to the last aid station at about mile 11 and they said to me you have completed the hill, the rest of the course is either flat or downhill. And I said are you sure? You’re not lying to me right? It’s going to be flat, promise me! They said we promise it will be flat for maybe a 1/4 of a mile and then you will start going downhill and then you will hit the finish line.

I am thinking to myself wow! There must be a God! So the last 2 miles I felt great. I was running and I completed the race. Hallelujah! I completed the Hunky Dory Half Marathon in Breckenridge, Colorado.

I will tell you this. For the last 2 miles, I started getting text messages from my lovely wife Yoko was texting me “where are you?” I replied back and said hey didn’t you get my message earlier I continued this thing. She said she did not get it but that she was freezing. The sky did open up at about mile 11 for me. Even though it was level and downhill, it started to rain and it rained pretty hard. I didn’t feel bad because I knew I only had about 2 miles to go so it didn’t really bother me. But Yoko who had already finished the race and was done couldn’t get into a warm place because I had the car key and the room key. She was soaking wet and her fingers were freezing up. But there was nothing I could do. I was still 2 miles away. Here I am trying to finish the race, texting her while I am running and it’s raining.Luckily I have a waterproof case for my phone. I asked her to please find some kind of shelter and I will be there.

So the last 2 miles I am feeling bad for my wife. She finished and she’s cold and shivering and there’s nothing I can do. But I finished the race. I crossed the finish line and there were still people behind me but only 3. After having a bout with a bug, threatening skies, and craziness.

The reason I am telling you this story is simply because sometimes you have to get out of your comfort zone. It’s easy to be in an air conditioned car driving somewhere or sitting inside your home drinking coffee or sitting on the sofa watching T.V. Those are easy things to do but you are not going to challenge yourself when you are doing those kind of things. When you are out there and set a date to run a 5K race, half marathon, marathon, or ultramarathon; whatever it may be, when you put that on the calendar you are committing to something. You are committing to training. You are committing to showing up to that event. You are committing as best as you can to finish.

I told you in the beginning that I planned not to finish this race. And it was only because I just finished being sick. I’m high up in the mountains ill and just getting over being on medication. I was feeling better but not feeling that well. It was threatening to rain. I paid $60 to be in this race but it wasn’t that important for me to finish. I knew there were other races that were going to come up if I didn’t finish this one and my body was more important to me. That’s why I said I would probably be dropping out after the halfway point. I thought that was the right thing but during this race I changed my mind. It’s ok to change your mind. There’s nothing wrong with stopping because there are going to be more races. There’s going to be other opportunities.

I was the opposite. I was ready to drop out until mile 6 and I said to myself I am flipping going for this. I am going to finish this thing. I am going to get the t-shirt!

I’m going to wear the medal at the end but I am not going to eat the food. They had food at the end by the way. They had sub sandwiches and pizza. Nothing vegan. What I did was to munch on a half of a peanut butter sandwich in the car after i finished running. 13 miles in the mountains, in the rain, up and down, single track trails and I munched on a peanut butter sandwich. Yeah it’s vegan. It’s plant based! I don’t make exceptions. I don’t say oh I just finished a marathon I can have a piece of cheese pizza. I don’t do that. My health and the animals are way too important. I just don’t do it. I don’t make exceptions. I could have gone to get something to eat somewhere had I not been prepared. I am always prepared for a race and I always have food in my backpack. I have energy gels, half a sandwich, whatever it takes. I come prepared. I do that when I travel too so that I don’t have to make any exceptions. Being plant based is too important for me and not only me but for the animals too. It’s too important to make any exceptions at all.

I felt great after the race. Yoko was a little upset with me and understandably so. She had nowhere to go and basically had to stand out in the rain. She was cold, she was chilled, and I felt horrible. But when I had to make that decision, am I going to go for this or not? I figured I had the chance to go for it and do it.

There’s no feeling like the sense of accomplishment when you finish a race. It’s emotional. Sometimes you cry. I realized that I could do it at the 6 mile point. Granted, the second 6.5 miles were much more difficult. Had I know that there would be a 2 mile run uphill between miles 9 and 11…I think I would still do it. It was worth every penny. It was worth every misery that I had. It was totally worth it to cross the finish line. It feels so good. And then we celebrated that evening with a really cool-Chinese meal from our favorite Chinese restaurant. We know the owners Ken and Ping and they make us great vegan food. We don’t even have to look at the menu. 

What an experience! Finishing the Hunky Dory Half Marathon in Breckenridge, Colorado. If you have a chance, try it. Or there’s another one called the Breck Crest Half Marathon. It’s a tough one. It’s only a half marathon but you will feel like you ran an ultramarathon.

Whatever you do, challenge yourself a little bit. And if you’re feeling good, go for it! I hope you’re feeling fantastic today! Because I am! Talk to you next time!

– Dr. Dave

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150 – Climbing Mountains and No Regrets

Highlights from today’s show…

  1. She’s back! Yoko is live on today’s show.
  2. Dave & Yoko talk about what is was like to summit two 14ers!!
  3. Dave gives you some homework that will change your life! Can you do it?

It’s Dr. Dave here and welcome back to another episode of The David Madow Lifestyle Show. This is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. I am in my outdoor studio today as usual but today my outdoor studio is in Breckenridge, Colorado.

If you are a long time follower, listener or friend, you know how much I love Breckenridge. Not only how much I love it here in Colorado but my guest today loves it as well. It’s been a long time since I have had this person on my show. She used to be kind of a co-host but I don’t know, it sort of faded away a little bit. It’s my wife, Yoko. We’ve had a lot of requests for Yoko to come back on the show. So I am glad she is on the show right now and there’s a reason she’s here. I am not bring her on just to have her. There’s a reason. And the reason is because today outside of Breckenridge, we summited 2 “14ers”. If you are not sure what a 14er is a mountain that has an altitude or a summit that is over fourteen thousand feet. Colorado has a lot of them. I think at least 30-40. I am not sure of the exact number.Today we did two of them, Mt. Cameron and Mt. Lincoln.

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There is a technicality here, I will tell ya. Technically, mountaineers do not consider Mt. Cameron a 14er. It has to do with the amount of distance between the saddle of the two mountains and the altitude of the summit but we’re not going to get into that. Let me tell you, when you summit both Mt. Cameron and Mt. Lincoln in one day, we consider that you did two 14ers.

So I want to bring her on. First of all I want to congratulate you. It’s an incredibly invigorating day when you wake up at 3am to get out of bed, have breakfast, and pack up your stuff. To get to the trailhead by about 6am because storms in Colorado in the summer roll in and you want to be off the peaks before any kind of electrical storms come in or you could be in big trouble. So when you are climbing mountains in Colorado in the summer, you have to be very careful. You have to watch the weather and the time of the day.

Dr. Dave: “Yoko, I want to congratulate you for helping me. We did two of them today. It’s evening now. We got back, took a little nap, and got something to eat. We are in our outdoor studio right now. So how do you feel?”

Yoko: “I feel wonderful. Very very good. I mean, the first time we did 14ers was Quandary Mountain 3 or 4 years ago. It was a little difficult for me because of the altitude. My body had never ever been at 14,000 feet so towards the end I was out of breath. Just maybe ten steps and then I have to rest, and then ten steps, and I have to rest. But this time I wasn’t like that. I kind of kept going. It feels good.”

Dr. Dave: “You were like a machine. It’s hard to explain what you feel if you’ve never hiked a 14er. By the way, here is something I recommend on my show. Pick an extreme activity whether it’s a marathon, a half marathon, or maybe your first 5K. Pick something with a goal in mind. Train for it and do it. It does not have to be a 14er. Just something that you’ve got on the calendar that you know you’re gonna do. What it does is force you to train for this.

Now, as Yoko said, several years ago we did our very first 14er and it was very very difficult. Number 1, it’s difficult to hike up a steep mountain. But when you are hiking up a mountain at 14,000 feet, there’s not a lot of air up there. Sometimes if you’re not acclimated you are just gasping for air. Your heart and your muscles need oxygen so it’s difficult. It was very challenging. Yoko, as you said a few years ago when we did Quandary, it was difficult and we had to stop every ten steps maybe and take a breath. Today, now that you feel you’re more trained and acclimated to the area, it’s just a totally different feeling?”

Yoko: “Yeah, totally different feeling because last year we did Mt. Democrat and them Mt. Cameron. So we couldn’t do Mt. Lincoln. So this year I really wanted to summit Mt. Lincoln which we have to pass Mt. Cameron on. We have been here a little over one week but since Dave had to work I just tried to walk, hike, and tried to go up the mountain. I trained for it. I prepared. Once it’s in my mind, I’m going to do it. Like Dave said, I know I want to do it. So then I want to do it comfortably. So that means if today I feel lazy, but I can’t be because I have a goal ahead. I know I should do something. That was my motivation for a while.”

Dr. Dave: “And we did it! We had a goal, we had it on the calendar, we knew we were going to do this, and guess what? We summited two mountains today! So again, you might be sitting on the sofa right now or you might be in your car driving right now and you’re thinking; you know, I need to get out there and do something kind of cool and should really challenge myself so what should some of the things be? I know a lot of people that do these multi-day bike rides. Most of them are for charity. A lot of people sign up for marathons or half-marathons. And of course triathlons, but that’s pretty extreme. You don’t have to do something that extreme. But the most important thing is to just come up with something as a goal, get it on the calendar, and train for it.”

Yoko: “And also I was just thinking. Why am I doing this? Why? Because I love it! I just want to do what I love. Of course, sometimes we have to do things we don’t want to but life is only one time. For me, I don’t want to regret anything in my life. So that’s my motivation too! In my head, I’m thinking oh I want to do this. I do it.”

Dr. Dave: “Yeah, so that’s a really good point. If you do something and you’re not loving it, you’re not going to continue it. One of the things we love is hiking and climbing mountains. And I just want to describe a little bit about what the day was like. My alarm went off around 3am. So I got up and made some breakfast. Hung around and packed up our stuff. By 5am, we are out the door in the car driving to the trailhead of the mountain which took about 50 minutes. We got to the trailhead and it was just getting light. We started to hike up the mountain. It took us about an hour and fifteen minutes to reach the saddle, which is a concave area in between two mountains. When you reach the saddle, there’s some pretty serious hiking and then you have one final big climb up to the summit. So it started to rain a little and the rocks were getting a tiny bit wet and we saw the clouds rolling in. But we wanted to do this so we summited Mt. Cameron. It got to the point where I just decided I was going to get there. I put one foot in front of the other even if I am tired or if it’s hard to breathe. There were time when I took maybe five to ten steps and then I stopped and just rested for a few seconds. And then took five or ten more steps because you just have to keep doing it. Keep plugging away. We got to the top of Mt. Cameron and then Mt. Lincoln. We hung out there for a few minutes. We ate some. We didn’t really spend a lot of time eating lunch. Yoko was freezing! So we did a Periscope broadcast from the top of Mt. Cameron.

As we started coming down, the rain started rolling in. And we’re hiking down a 14er. Picture this. It’s very very rocky and there’s a lot of scree (a mass of small loose stones). As it’s raining, and the rain is coming down harder and harder, it’s getting more dangerous and more slippery. We have hiking poles but you have to watch every step. One slip on a rock could mean a very serious injury. You have to be very careful. Our last 15 minutes down the mountain, it’s raining really hard. I didn’t have true rain gear on. We both had rain jackets but by the time we got down to the car we were pretty darn wet. Not only that but you have to be very careful because of hypothermia. If we were in the middle of nowhere and we weren’t prepared, hypothermia can set in and we could get really chilled. It could be a very dangerous situation.

All in all it turned out to be an incredible day. At the end of the day I looked at Yoko and said, Yoko I had a great day today. It was just so much fun. And she looked at me and said the same thing. It was a blast. I encourage you to get out there. Do something cool!

We happen to love Colorado. One of the reasons we love it is because we walk almost everywhere. I wear a Fitbit and on an average day I take at least 15,000 steps. We walk to the grocery store if we want to get something to eat. We walk everywhere. We walk on trails. It’s just a really really healthy lifestyle here. And Yoko loves it too. It doesn’t have to be Colorado. It doesn’t have to be a particular area. Wherever you are you can do something. You can move your body.

You can also eat well. Yoko and I both eat a vegan diet. We’re totally plant based. We don’t eat any meat, any fish, anything that comes from an animal. I think that’s really helped out lifestyle over the past several years and we just feel great. The first time we summited Mt.Quandary I don’t think we were vegan at that point. I don’t remember but I don’t think we were vegan at that point and I noticed a difference. We’re getting older. We’re all getting older. But as the years go on, I am finding it easier to summit these 14,000 foot mountains and I think that a lot of it has to do with being plant based and not having these toxins in my body. Maybe it’s just my imagination, I feel so much better. But I don’t think it’s my imagination because whenever I go in for a physical I get great reports. And a lot of it has to do with being vegan.

So Yoko as we are walking here and looking around we see the mountains in the background. Why is it that you love Colorado so much?”

Yoko: “Why?”

Dr. Dave: “Why do you love Colorado? What is it about Colorado that you love so much that it’s like a lifechanger?”

Yoko: “Hmmmmm. I don’t know. I love everything.”

[both laughing]

“Well first of all summer is not humid. It is so comfortable. Of course sometimes it get a little hot. But since it’s dry, it’s good for exercise. I feel that with this weather I have to move my body. Sometimes I am very weak with humidity and hot temperature. So once it gets hot in Maryland I feel like I can’t move my body. But here I want to move my body. And also of course in winter I just love skiing. I love skiing on the mountains. I just want to be there. Also this sounds a little weird but I feel a connection here. It could be my previous life. I don’t know. Deep deep inside my body and my heart something is telling me this is my place. That’s what I feel here. I love it here!”

Dr. Dave: “So I am going to give you some homework. AS Yoko said she feels a real connection here. I do too! We love the mountains. I am looking up at them now. It’s evening and we’ve had clouds coming in. Your homework is to close your eyes. And you can do this right now. You can do this while you are listening to Yoko and I. Imagine yourself being somewhere. It doesn’t have to be on a mountain. Maybe you love the water. Maybe you love the ocean or maybe you love to be on a river or on a lake. Maybe you love the desert. Wherever it is. Just close your eyes and think about where you want to be.

Because let me tell you something. Life goes quickly. It goes really quickly. I cannot remember the number of times I have had people come up to me and say Dave you are so lucky. You get to do all these cool things. You get to go to Colorado. You get to do this, you get to do that. And I respond the same way every time. No, I’m not lucky. I plan my life out. There are things that I want to do that are very important to me and there are things that are important to Yoko and we plan our lives. We make it a point to put things on the calendar. We do things. Maybe you don’t have enough money to go to the mountains right now. Maybe you don’t have enough money to go to the ocean right now. But if you put it on the calendar and you make it a point to save up some money maybe it’s next year. But let me tell you something, life goes too fast and you have got to act on it. Too many people I know sit back and say I wish I would have done _______ or I never got to do ________. And then one day you are going to be too old. You are going to look back and say you know something Dr. Dave was right. I should have done that. I should have tried it. So I am urging you to please do it.

Mountains are our thing. We love coming here. As Yoko said we love skiing and winter sports here. We love hiking in the summer and stand up paddle boarding. Believe it or not they have a large lake around here where you can do it. At Lake Dillon you can do kayaking, canoeing, stand up paddle boarding, and boating. It’s incredible! So we love it here. But again maybe you love something even more. So just imagine what that is. I urge you to do it. And please put something on the calendar. Whether it’s a trip like this or it’s hiking. Maybe you want to hike a 14er? Maybe you want to try that. With some training, you’ll be able to do it. Trust me it will be something you will never ever forget in your life. Yoko what do you think?”

Yoko: “I just want to say whatever you love and whatever you do, just don’t regret you life. Never ever. So just think about what your life is. 10 years later, if I don’t do this right now am I going to regret it? That’s my thinking always. So of course if I want to do something, it costs money. But if I have a goal in my mind, I will always save money like not going out with friends, not buying clothes. My thinking is please don’t regret anything in your life and be happy. I feel very lucky and I think Dave too. We are fortunate. If we think we are lucky and we appreciate our lives, more good things will come to you. It’s good to feel like you are lucky and appreciate everything I have right now.”

Dr. Dave: “So again your homework is two things. Get something on the calendar, not an extreme event, but something that’s going to cause you to train for something. Whether it’s your first 5K run or whether it’s a marathon or whether it’s hiking a 14er, anything like that. The second thing I want you to do is to close your eyes and imagine yourself somewhere, whether it’s in the mountains, whether it’s at the ocean, whether it’s something you’ve dreamed of being, or whether it’s just something you feel very connected to. I want you to go there. Maybe it won’t be for 2 years. Maybe you’ve got to cut down on some things. Like Yoko said she cuts down on buying clothes and things like that because we live a pretty minimalistic lifestyle so that we can travel all over the place and do some of the things that we do. So we don’t buy a lot of clothes. We don’t have a lot of things in our lives. We don’t need things. We don’t need clutter. This is what life is all about. So I am going to leave you with that. Thank you so much for listening. It’s Dr. Dave.”

Yoko: “And Yoko!”

Dr. Dave: “And I will see you next time. If you want to hear Yoko more on the show, send me an email to my new email address at dave@davidmadow.com or message me on Facebook and let me know. She’s with me a lot and we can certainly do more shows together if you want. Until next time, see you later!”

Yoko: “Bye bye”

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149 – Crazy Road Story

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  1. Dr. Dave shares his weird experience on a road trip from NY. 
  2. Dr. Dave talks about his VIP list and why you need to sign up now! 
  3. Did you know that approximately 80 BILLION of these are consumed every year?…

Hey, it’s Dr. Dave! They also call me Mr. Vaygan”. Welcome back to the David Madow Lifestyle Show. This is the show where we help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. And sometimes even a lot more than that. I press record and I just go. I know what I am going to talk about today but you’re in for a really cool ride. It’s going to be awesome!

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I want to share something with you. This is really really weird. This past weekend, I spent a lovely weekend with my two brothers. For those of you who don’t know me really well, there are three boys in my family and I am the oldest, the middle brother is Marshall, and the youngest is Richard. I am actually in business with my brother Rich. We call ourselves The Madow Brothers. We do a lot of motivational speaking and we have a few products that help dentists in their practice. That’s what we do.

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So each year we try to have a brother’s weekend. Lately it’s been in NY. We just take a quick drive up to NY. It’s about a 3 to 3 1/2 hour drive from where we live. And we spend Friday, Saturday, and Sunday generally in Manhattan doing some cool things and then we head back. So me being the only vegan, my brothers are not vegan, they try to get little jabs at you every once in awhile. For example, we were walking through Manhattan, and Marshall will generally make little comments like if we are passing a store or restaurant that is clearly serving meat he will say something like, “Dave you want to go in there and get something to eat?” I’m used to it and I don’t really care. I usually brush it off or make some type of comment. As a vegan we take some abuse. And I think I am going to stop taking the abuse because first of all I don’t think it’s funny. If it were my choice to not eat certain foods for no reason, maybe I would understand it but I am doing this because I love animals so much that I do not want to see them harmed in anyway. And if I can just do my part and not eat any animal products then I feel that I am not responsible for the suffering, the slaughter, and the horrific things that can on in that industry. To me it just doesn’t really sit well. What I get out of that is that they really don’t care about the animals.

So anyway, I was putting up with these kind of comments all weekend. And I don’t really say anything. I just kind of go with it. He’s my brother and I love him to death. I am actually really blessed to have two wonderful brothers. We get along so well. And we are all different in certain ways but we are all the same in certain ways as well. So it’s just really cool to spend time with your siblings.

But here’s what happened. After a weekend of hearing these little crazy comments, like “hey want to get a cheeseburger Dave? We are driving home and I am driving. We are driving from NY into NJ. Marshall is sitting in the front seat with me and all of a sudden he puts his hands over his eyes and starts saying “I can’t see. I don’t want to look at that.” So I go “Marshall what’s wrong?” And he says “I can’t look. I can’t look. Oh my god! It’s horrible!” Finally he told me what he was talking about. He was referring to a dead animal on the side of the road. There was an animal that was killed. I looked over and looked like maybe a large raccoon or something like that. It was a dead animal just kind of lying which of course no one wants to see. But I felt it really strange that my brother Marshall got so disturbed looking at road kill. But the same person is eating meat practically any day and has no problem eating animal products. I found that a little bit puzzling.

When I first went vegan, I tried to convert the world. I thought that everyone needs to be vegan – right now. But I learned that doesn’t really work. When you start talking to people that aren’t ready, they don’t get the message and they don’t understand the message. So I backed off and I don’t do that anymore. I lead by example as you know. And I am very strict about my eating. I do not make exceptions knowingly.

I feel really good about what I am doing. But here is my brother who is not vegan and has no problem eating meat. I have talked to him in the past about animal suffering and he does not want really want to hear it or doesn’t want to change. But when he sees an animal on the side of the road he is freaking out. I wonder if he even knows or understands that when he is eating a hamburger or a steak, the horror and suffering those animals had to go through to get to his plate.

I get it. When you are not involved with factory farms, and raising them, you are not seeing it. Or maybe you are seeing the final product on your plate or wrapped up in cellophane at the grocery store. I wonder, after seeing him flip out at a dead animal on the side of the road, does he know when eating hamburger that the cow going on the truck to the slaughterhouse often times hundreds of miles in horrible conditions whether it’s really hot or really cold. I have actually seen this from the people that have done transporting, many of the animals are frozen the the metal frame work of the truck. It’s common to see this happen to these live animals that are literally frozen to the metal frame of the truck. And in the heat, animals faint and they get heat stroke. 10% of them cannot even walk off the truck because they are so weak or dead. So often times they are beaten or chained up to get off the truck. It’s really horrible.

Then they get into the slaughterhouse and the first thing they do is to get stunned. It’s like a big bolt to the head to stun them to render them unconscious before their throats are slit. Sometimes it doesn’t work so they are cut live. This stuff is true people! You can check. Do your research. Talk with people that actually used to work at slaughterhouses. It’s absolutely horrific. It’s horrible.

I don’t even like talking about this on my show because I like to talk about peaceful things and things that improve your life. Not stuff that gives you nightmares. But it’s true. This stuff is happening every single day. By the way, to the tune of 80 billion land animals per year. Now that’s not even taking into consideration the marine animals. Just land animals alone – cows, pigs, chickens, lambs, goats, whatever it may be. 80 BILLION per year! Write that number out on a piece of paper. You probably can’t even write the number. That is 80 thousand million. So that’s 80,000,000,000 every single year. And my brother is sick to his stomach about one dead animal on the side of the road that was killed by a car. One. But he is eating cheeseburgers and bacon and steak and chicken and milk and eggs. You name it. It’s just really strange to me.

So if you are thinking about the suffering. I’d like you to think about it more. I am not telling you what you have to do and I lead by example. But I was a little thrown aback by someone who was taking these jabs at me all weekend long. From jabs to seeing a dead animal and almost throwing up. I would like to take him to a slaughterhouse or to a farm where these animals are actually raised. I bet he would stop eating animals. Or else he would say, “it’s horrible but I can’t control it. People are eating animals every single day.” I think this is what the average person thinks. I don’t know.

When I found out the truth, Yoko and I said to ourselves that we are done. We are not eating this stuff anymore. We are not going to contribute to this incredibly horrible animal agriculture. It’s going on but we are no longer going to contribute. Not only that but we are going to start teaching other people. We are not going to change the world by tomorrow but once we reach this critical mass which might be 10%. I think right now about 3% of the U.S. population is vegan or vegetarian. I don’t think it’s that far off to be honest with you. I have seen so many changes in the past several years. So when we hit that critical mass of 10%, I believe others will really start to notice in a big way. It’s like the domino effect. Things will really start changing quickly.

It’s very easy for me to say that there’s nothing I can do and that this is the way it’s always been. This is what my Dad says. I’m not like that. Call me weird. Call me different. Call me whatever you want. I may be. But all I know is that I love animals too much to be involved. If I had an animal on my plate, I could not eat it. I could not stand to look at it. I would be looking at the suffering going into my body and going into my cells. Knowing the truth, I just can’t do it. I can’t do it anymore.

So that was my weird story from the weekend and from traveling home. Is it going to change anyone? I don’t know. It’s one of Dave’s stories on The David Madow Lifestyle Show.

I have a lot of things happen to me every day and some of them turn into stories and some of them we can learn from but the others we can’t. I try my best to help people and I think I am doing a pretty darn good job of it. My podcast The David Madow Lifestyle Show is getting more downloads than ever.  We have people all over the world listening to us. We’re making a difference! There’s no question about it.

We are pretty much out of time. One more thing real quick. I am working on a date for the retreat in the Spring of 2017. We are going to spend a weekend together. It’s going to be awesome! We are going to be spending a weekend in my home and Yoko and I will be teaching you how to live the lifestyle. How to be happy, stronger, feel better about yourself, more confident. We are human beings and we are not always happy every second. Fundamentally I am really happy. Do I have crazy days? Yeah! But I am happy and I want to teach you how to live this lifestyle. Looking and feeling so good about yourself. It’s more unbelievable than anything you have ever experienced. I promise. So sign up for the VIP list and you will find out more about that.

Having said that, I think that’s it. Thank you so much for being with me today. I will see you next time for sure!

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148 – Happiness and Forgivess Featuring Laura and Mark Tong

Highlights from today’s show…

  1. Dr. Dave has two special guests on today’s show! Have you ever heard of a “happiness freak”?
  2. Laura and Mark share how to be happy. 
  3. Dr. Dave, Laura, and Mark discuss forgiveness and how it can be affecting your happiness. 

Hey! Welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. This is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, happier, and a lot more. As a matter of fact I want to share this with you. We’ve been doing this for about 3 years now. We talk about everything from eating, exercise, happiness, forgiveness, meditation, and yoga. We talk about so many things. But it seems to me that whenever I do a show that has the word happiness in the title, for some reason the number of listens and the number of downloads goes crazy. It goes to show you that we as human beings want to be happy. So I’m thinking, is happiness the most important thing in our lives? I have been talking about this for quite some time and I believe that it is. No matter what we eat or how many yoga poses we do, it seems to me that we just want to be happy.

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I did some research and I found the two greatest happiness experts on the planet. They are guests on my show today. Their names are Laura and Mark Tong. And they are actually “happiness freaks”. That’s what they call themselves! In fact, their website is postivelyhappy.me .

Dr. Dave: “Welcome Laura and Mark! How are you doing?”

Laura: “Thank you so much David. We are doing fine. And thank you for having us here.”

Mark: “Absolutely fabulous tonight!”

Laura: “You’ve really racked up the pressure now haven’t you calling us experts? C’mon!”

Dr. Dave: “Well, then you’ve got to live up to that. (chuckling). Share with my listeners just a little bit about you. Including that you don’t sound like you’re in America. It seems to me that you are across some big body of water. So tell us where you are and what you do.”

Laura: “Yes, it’s a giveaway isn’t it? We are in England just a little north of London. In this beautiful green pocket of woods, trees, and wildlife which makes us very very happy. As you said our site is postivelyhappy.me because that’s what we are all about. We are about all positivity and happiness.”

Dr. Dave: Mark, did you have anything to add or was that a good enough intro for the purpose of this show?”

Mark: “That was definitely a good intro. I think so, yes!”

Dr. Dave: “I think she actually did a fantastic intro. So let’s talk about happiness. You heard my intro and it really is true that whenever I do a show that has the word happiness in the title I get a ton of listens and a ton of downloads. Which leads me to believe that people are more interested in how to be happier than their weight or the way they look or the way they feel. So, do you think that most people are happy? And how can we even tell if we’re happy? Is there some sort of measurement? How do I know if I am happy right now? I’m smiling…”

Mark: “I think there’s a bit of confusion. The thing about the word happiness is that everyone has a different interpretation about what happiness means. For us happiness, I suppose in some ways, almost always translates into contentment. Unlike day to day happiness which always goes up and down. The ancient Greeks saw happiness as a completely different thing. They saw happiness as the sum of your life. In fact, a lot of great philosophers have said that you couldn’t tell if you had been happy in life until the day that you died. That was their view. So really I think it’s a much bigger thing than I think that people look at it now. People think am I happy? Am I smiling? Am I happy in the present moment? That’s not really what we’re about at all. Happiness is a much larger deeper thing than you just had a nice beer and you’re feeling quite relaxed. That’s not where we’re at.”

Dr. Dave: “Laura do you have anything to add to that or did Mark pretty much sum that up?”

Laura: “Well I’ve gotta say he did sum that up but I do have something to add actually. The thing about happiness is that people do confuse it with contentment very much. And I think there’s also a huge pressure on happiness. I think people worry about the fact that they’re not happy and I think they get confused about what happiness actually is. Whereas what I would say is that Mark and I, we’ve set our lives up to be happy. So if we look at something and it isn’t going to make us happy, we don’t do it. For a lot of people, and this is in no way judgemental, but a lot of people will say that the important thing is money and having a proper house and a proper car. We’ve tried that and it didn’t make us happy. We gave it all up. So people might look at us now and think that we’re not doing so well with cars and houses. But to us, it’s very much a conscious thing. It doesn’t make us happy. We’ve tried all that. We didn’t enjoy it in any way. We live a very simple life and we are extraordinarily happy. It’s a choice. That’s what happiness is. It’s choices. You need to decide what makes you happy. Or you need to go and explore and have fun and decide what makes you happy. And then when you find it you need to go with it to be happy.”

Mark: “I think one of the really big problems is that you’re taught from school age on and it’s thrust down your throat what is going to make you happy. Then by the time you are an adult, you have very little idea for yourself what is going to make you happy. So you go and do what is supposed to make you happy and for some people it works. But for other people it doesn’t work. Which kinda comes back to your question David, are people happy? I think people could be happy or a lot happier if they stopped trying to fit themselves into this sort of one happiness fits all model. I don’t think one happiness fits all. Happiness is different for everybody.”

Laura: “Let me ask you a question David, if I may. As you said, how would you know if you’re happy right now? Do you think you’re happy right now?”

Dr. Dave: “Laura that’s a great question. And I am totally going to answer it but before I answer the question I want to share something with you. A few years ago I ran into an old friend of mine that made some life changes. He moved to another city and I think his job was a little bit different. And I said to him John, you’ve made all these changes but are you happy now? And he looked at me in the eye and I’ll never forget these words, he said to me I think I’m happy. Just like that. That to me said he’s not happy. So I’ll answer your question Laura, yes! If you had to ask me right now on a scale from 1-10 how happy I am, I’m going to emphatically give you a 10. I am really really happy! And I’ll tell you why. I’ve got a lot to compare it to. I’ve been through some fairly tough times in my life. I was in a marriage for 23 years that did not end very well. I was lonely and depressed after I got divorced. I couldn’t find myself. I was trying to fit into a mold that I thought society wanted me to fit into. At one point I said this is ridiculous. I’m gonna live the life that I want to live. I don’t care what people think I should be doing. I want to be the real me. I want to be the true David Madow. In the past I think I was trying to be somebody that I was not. But ever since I realized that, I am going to be me. If people like it they like it if they don’t like it they don’t like it. As soon as I figured out that I am going to be me and I don’t care, guess what? This whole new feeling came over me. I’m with a wonderful woman now and we’ve been together for the last 12 years. When I am with her, I feel that I am happy every day. Even when I travel a lot and we are not together. I feel at peace doing what I want to in life. People think I am crazy and totally immature but it’s the real me. So yes to answer your question in a very long winded way, I am really really happy.”

Laura: “That’s fantastic!”

Mark: “I think David you absolutely nailed it. That’s what I was trying to say about happiness. Happiness isn’t how you feel at this present moment depending on circumstances. That’s not happiness. I’ll give you an example. At 4:00 this morning I woke up with really bad pains in my leg which I get sometimes. And I couldn’t go back to sleep. I was hobbling around and it lasted most of the day. But that didn’t stop me from being happy. Because on the base level just like you, I am really happy. You have these circumstances on top of that base level happiness. You asked how you can tell when you’re really happy? That’s when you can tell that you’re really happy. Because when you have these things happen, you’re still happy. It hurts or occasionally things go wrong but at the base level it doesn’t disrupt your happiness. That’s when you really know you’re happy. When small things that happen on a daily basis don’t knock you off. If it keeps knocking you off you’re happiness pedestal, then you’re not really happy. You haven’t really got it nailed.”

Dr. Dave: That’s really well said and I will add to that Mark. I mean look, I am a human being. Do I ever wake up in the morning not feeling fantastic or do things in my business not go well or do I ever get sad? Absolutely! Of course, I am a human being with emotions. But whenever that happens to me I take a step back and take a look at my life. I say to myself that this will pass. I am loving my life and I am doing great and I know that this is just a temporary condition. I want to just take a step back though. I believe it was Mark that talked about living a life with fancy cars and material possessions. Speak a little bit to that. I talk about this all the time. I am right now at the point where my wife and I are trying our best to downsize our lives. We found that things do not make us happy! We don’t need a lot of things. I don’t need a large house. I don’t need fancy cars. I wear no jewelry except for a Fitbit and a few beaded bracelets that give me energy. And same thing with my wife. We just don’t need these expensive things to make us happy. We are inherently happy. Tell me about you guys. What happened with the cars and possessions and things like that?”

Mark: “Well I’ve gotta say first that happiness is a choice and it also is individual. If nice things make you happy, go for it! You know? My family is half French and they believe in l’art de vivre and joie de vivre and fancy things. And they like fancy food and nice restaurants and all this kind of stuff. So if that’s your bag that’s absolutely fine. It just happens to be for us it isn’t. We tried all of that with three houses and four cars. We tried the materialistic life style. But for us it didn’t work. We are basically minimalists through and through. And I think Laura would back me up on that.”

Laura: “Absolutely! But I think it goes back to what you said David and that is that you have to be you. What we had to do was that we had to find who the real us was. So we got to a point in life fairly early on were we thought we could do better in life. We went down the normal route. We went down the fancy career path and had money. So we spent more money and bought more things. As Mark said we had houses in three different countries. We had four different cars. And life was an absolute nightmare. We had so much stuff we couldn’t keep up. We were so busy keeping up with stuff that we stopped keeping up with friends. And life got really small. And then one day we just looked at other and said this is really dreadful. We sold everything. And everything we couldn’t sell, we put in the car park outside of our house and we burnt it because we wanted it gone. We now live with the bits that we have left and we have never been so happy.”

Dr. Dave: “I love that story. I would like to even know more about that at some point. That is a great story, seriously! Ok so let’s shift gears a little bit now to forgiveness and letting go. I know it’s connected to happiness and it’s another big topic with my listeners. I am one that has found out over many years that holding a grudge or holding bad feelings or hatred or anything like that. I have people in my life who have done bad things to me but when you hold it in it’s only hurting you. I’ve learned to let go and forgive. I’ve been teaching this to my listeners for quite some time now. Occasionally, I do get somebody that says that this person wronged me in such a bad way that I will hate them for the rest of my life. What do you think about that?”

Mark: “Well, first of all let’s be realistic about this. It’s really hard to forgive someone if you think that they intended to do some harm. It’s great talking about these things but in real life situations it’s really hard. If someone is struggling to forgive somebody you have to give them a lot of credit. It’s just not as easy as it sounds. Having said that, if you want to be happy, you’ve got to forgive people. Look at it this way, take the example of the chap you are talking about. The reason you don’t want to forgive them is that you think that they’ve done you a lot of harm. So you’re going I can’t forgive them because they have done me a lot of harm. If I forgive them it’s kinda like they’ve gotten away with it. Right? But if you carry on with this rage and anger inside of you about what they have done, then they are winning aren’t they. All you’re doing is just giving them the power to carry on harming you.”

Dr. Dave: “Exactly!”

Mark: “The minute you say I don’t care about you, I don’t care what you’ve done, I don’t care what you do in the future, then all that power they’ve got to harm you disappears. So you’re winning then. You’re the boss at the point! That’s the way to look at it, I think.”

Laura: “I think the other way that I would say is that the reason we find it so hard to forgive people is that we have a different idea about what forgiveness is. To me, I am very happy to forgive somebody just by letting it go. If I said David you wronged me but I forgive you, people think that it means that I think that what you did was ok. No it doesn’t necessarily. I might not think that what you did wasn’t great, but it doesn’t bother me anymore.You’re you, I’m me and we have different point of views. It really doesn’t matter. I can move on in my life if I let it go. A lot of the time when I say forgiveness, that is what I mean. I don’t hate you for it. But I don’t have to like you for it either. We’re neutral. It doesn’t matter. I think that is the thing that is so important for happiness. If you don’t manage to forgive or let go, you are keeping yourself in that painful space. And you are never going to be happy in a painful space.”

Dr. Dave: “Perfect! I love that. If you could give my listeners some tips so that my friends here can start moving forward. How do you forgive? How do you do it?”

Mark: “If you see someone in public, that really is very hard to cope with. But if you think about it, all the time that you are seething inside you are giving them that power to carry on doing what you are saying is so bad. So if you can just think about that and think no I am not going to let them have all this power over me anymore. The way to do that is to take all the emotion out and say no you are not going to affect me anymore. Then you’re winning. You’ve reversed the situation. That’s the way to go isn’t it?”

Dr. Dave: “Right, so here’s the scenario. You’re in a public place, let’s say a restaurant, and you run into this person or group of people who have harmed you in the past. It’s always difficult to see these people. But now you’re confident and you’re ready to let go. Do you acknowledge them? Do you say hello to them? Or do you look the other way? How do you handle them in public?”

Mark: “Here’s where you’ve got to be honest about these things. I would say what you could do is just smile, shake their hand, and forget it ever happened. You probably won’t get that far down the line. I’ll give you an example. Somebody did do something to me that was perhaps incorrect. It cost me an awful lot of money and it meant that I had to leave the country I was living in and go to another country. In the end I had to take him to court and it was proven that I was correct because they were informed to pay me a lot of money. I didn’t want to do any of this. I tried for months to handle it without going through the court but they wouldn’t respond. In between, that person had been slandering me on the internet trying to ruin my reputation. To which I hadn’t responded to at all because I never respond to anything like that. I then ran into the chap purely by accident about three months later. He tried to talk to me but I simply acted as though he wasn’t there. That’s probably as far as a human being can get for being put on a mountain. Because to me, I don’t wish that guy harm at all. I just needed to get my money back because I had done a lot of work for him and he hadn’t paid me. I’ve got no problems with the guy at all. But when I saw him and tried to talk to him, I might very well have gotten angry. So instead I just ignored him completely. You have to give yourself a huge amount of credit for however they handle the situation because in real life it’s really difficult to do these things. But if you can get to a point where they don’t have any power over your emotions then you can do stuff like that. And really you’re the one that’s happy and they’re not.”

Laura: “Another way to look at it, and we found two other ways to look at it, is that everybody has different roles. There will come a point where we will have different ways of looking at something. And if somebody is acting in a way that is really detrimental to anybody’s life, I actually feel really sorry for them.To me I look at those people and think that I actually feel really sorry for them. I think it’s a bit of a tragedy that is how you get kicks in life. And I think that is says to me that you are not happy. I think at that point I actually feel sorry for them rather than angry.”

Dr. Dave: “A lot of great great information here about happiness, forgiveness, and letting go. Guys, we are just about out of time. So to wrap up is there anything you want to leave my listeners with as far as happiness, forgiveness, and letting go.”

Mark: “Yeah, I’d say don’t look at anybody else and wonder if they’re happy. That’s the biggest mistake a human makes. If you look at anybody and you think they’re happy, you’re wrong. You have no idea. Everybody in life is struggling with something. And some people are much happier than they look and some people are much less happy than they look. You want to find your own way to be happy. And when you find it, you want to just stick with that and not compare it to anything else. And that is really hard to do. That’s the thing. It’s no good looking at anybody else who looks happy because they may not be. Happiness is a unique thing and you want to find your own version of it. And if you want to be truly happy, you have to take that as your basic core decision and then you have to go from there to make all your other decisions. If you want to be happy, you have got to forgive people because if you don’t forgive people you can’t be happy. That’s the baseline.”

Laura: “I think the only thing I would add to that as I said in the very beginning everything we do has to do with happiness. all our choices, all our opinions, where we live, what we do, how we earn our money, everything single thing we do, we do it to be happy. To measure we’ve got one rule. Will it make us happy? If not, we don’t even entertain it. That might be a little extreme. And maybe you will have to work up to it, I don’t know.”

Dr. Dave: “This has been a wonderful show. And I am going to invite both of you to come back any time you like because I think we can speak about happiness. I think maybe we touched the tip of the iceberg today but we’re gonna expand on that in the future. Share with my listeners how they can reach you.”

Mark: “The best thing to do is to come along to positivelyhappy.me, that’s our website. On there we’ve got a lot of resources about happiness. If you come to the site there are a lot of things on there for you to spider out from and see how you can be happy. What really important is that you can come and find your own way through to be happy.”

Dr. Dave: “The website is positivelyhappy.me. We’ve just had Laura and Mark Tong on the show. I want to thank both of you again. It was wonderful. Anytime I can get people on that can help my listeners that’s what this show is all about. Thank you both so much. I appreciate it. Sorry for any technical problems.”

Laura:“Thank you David! That was really fun!”

Mark: “Thank you! That was fabulous!”

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147 – Hurting Others and Hating Your Job

Highlights from today’s show…

  1. Dr. Dave answers your questions and talks about hurting others and hating your job! 

Hi guys! Welcome to the show. It’s episode #147. This is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. If you are a regular listener, you know the drill. You know I say that at the beginning of every show.  Because that’s what I do. I help you live a much better life. I have learned this over many many years. It’s called the David Madow Lifestyle and welcome you and I am so glad you are with me. If you are a new listener, we appreciate you life you wouldn’t believe. Become a regular and make sure you subscribe on iTunes. I am happy to serve. If I can help you in any way, just let me know. If you know my name, you know how to find me online (see below for links)

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I have been very blessed to have such a wonderful following of people that listen to me podcast, The David Madow Lifestyle Show. They view my Periscope broadcasts every day and that hang with me on Facebook. Whatever it may be. I have so many friends and followers these days that I get messages by email or or Facebook messenger. And I think (and hope) that you appreciate the fact that I can’t always drop what I am doing to answer. It becomes a full time job and as you know I don’t charge anything for this. I do have a couple businesses. But it would be impossible for me to just sit at my computer and answer emails. Don’t get me wrong. I would love to do it. I love to help you but it’s just an impossibility. Occasionally, when I get questions and they start piling up, I tell people “hey, I can’t answer it by email right now but how about if I answer it on my podcast?” And pretty much 99% of the time they say that is fine. I do keep your privacy and don’t use real names. I don’t want to embarrass anyone or put someone’s problems out there. I wouldn’t do that. I always guarantee that I will keep it private and confidential. So I have some questions in front of me and I want to answer a few. I hope that I help not only the person who wrote in to ask the question but maybe if the situation applies to your life, it can help you too. 

So let’s get started!

Hurting Others

Question: “I am wondering if you have thoughts on how to be mindful of inner strength. And to remember when one makes a choice that is best for them, people may and unintentionally be hurt. How do you cope with the intentional pain that may be caused when they make a life changing decision that is best for them?” – Melissa

Answer: “Melissa, great question! So basically it sounds like Melissa is in the process of making or thinking about making some life changing decisions but she is concerned that her actions are going to hurt others. So my answer to Melissa is that. You have got to do what is best for Melissa. And if anybody is upset with your decision to change your life in some way than too bad. That’s the way it goes. I don’t know what you could be doing that other people would be so upset about your life. Why are other people so concerned about you? Sure they love you and care about you. But they have to respect the fact that you are doing this for you. Because you have thought about it and you have determined that it’s best for your life. If other people are upset with you or are complaining to you or whatever it may by, that is just the way it is. You have to go with what’s best for you in your heart. That’s not to say that you should make a decision that’s going to be bad for your kids or your spouse. You don’t want to make a change that’s actually going to hurt will hurt somebody in my family. But if it’s just someone who is saying Melissa, I don’t want you to do this. That’s crazy! Do what is best for you. Make sure it is well thought out. Are they paying your bills? Are they creating true happiness in your life? You’ve gotta do what’s best for you. I think one of the reasons that we don’t make changes in our lives is that they worry what their friends are going to think. What are my friends going to think of me? What are my neighbors going to think? I personally don’t care what other people think. I do what is best for me as long as I am not damaging other lives. If someone doesn’t like it. Too flipping bad!

Hating Your Job

Question: [Paraphrased] My husband and I are debt free with the exception of our home. My husband was recently laid off from his job of 25 years. With this job he was getting a lot of benefits including health insurance and other things like that. Now he is at another job and he is not getting any benefits. So to get benefits, I have to go back to work. I was working as a wellness coach and loved it! But I was not making any benefits there as well. So when my husband lost his job I went back to work as a nurse at the local hospital but I have lousy hours. I do not like my work and I do not get to see my husband since I work evenings and he works during the day. We only get to see each other two days a week. I cry everyday because I don’t know what to do and I hate what I do. My husband also wants to go back to school to finish his MBA so that he can get a better job in the marketplace. We are both 51 years old. What should I do?

Answer: “First of all I want to start off by saying I’m sorry that you are in this situation. But I think I can answer this for you. And congratulations on being almost debt free. The first thing I will tell you is that I recommend downsizing. I did this years ago and it has helped my life so much. You don’t need fancy cars, jewelry, and designer clothes, fancy vacations, country clubs, and things like that. Do only what you need to do. You can be happy without spending a lot of money. Downsize your life so that money is not a factor. Your husband going back for a MBA at 51, even though I know he is almost there, but I am not so sure that an MBA is going to make him more desirable in the workplace. If I were him I would look for something out in the marketplace that he loves. I’m not saying it’s simple but he could possibly find something good with benefits. For you Karen, I would not stay at the hospital with those hours. If you hate it, and your 51, and you have no debt except for your house, but you are only doing it to have health insurance there are other ways to get health insurance. You can find a PPO or something like that would be very affordable. I have found that it’s less expensive to pay out of my pocket so I don’t have a plan. I am not saying it’s cheap but there are inexpensive policies. Find other work and maybe go to being a wellness coach and spend good times with your husband every evening after work. I think with you being a nurse, you would easily be able to find work in a medical office or a dental office. You can certainly earn a nice income without having to work the night shift at a hospital. Let’s talk about money for a second because it seems like the main reason you are working a job that you can’t stand is because you need money. So you are going back to a job you hate just to get a benefit. I think you would be happier making a modest salary at say $35,000 a year. And with no debt except your home, I think you could do it. So I would start looking at leaving the job that is The David Madow Lifestyle. I just wouldn’t do it.

I hope these questions not only helped Melissa & Karen, but you too. A good broadcaster doesn’t only answer questions for the person asking but for the entire audience. And I hope my answers to Melissa and Karen helped some of you. That’s my goal.

If you have questions send them to me on Facebook or by email at dave@davidmadow.com. I am live on Periscope every morning around 8:20 am EST (depending on my travel schedule). You can interact with me and ask me questions right there as I am talking.

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146 – Happiness – Hanging with a Friend

Highlights from today’s show…

  1. Dr. Dave is LIVE from Vegetarian Summerfest in Johnstown, PA! 
  2. Dr. Dave has a special guest today talking about all things vegan.

Hi! It’s Dr. Dave, “Mr. Vaygan”. It’s episode #146 of The David Madow Lifestyle Show. This is the show where we help you become stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier. I have a great one for you today. I am still hanging out at Vegetarian Summerfest. I have done a couple recordings here, so if you are listening to this I am not actually still here.

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So I am roaming around the University of Pittsburgh campus in Johnstown, PA. There are a lot of people here. There are a lot of people here and most people are looking happy and having fun. So I came across this young guy who coincidentally has a black shirt on. The front of the shirt says Speaking of Vegan and the back of the shirt says The Vegan Airwaves and then speakingofvegan.com. So I stopped to ask him what is speaking of vegan? He said that it was a podcast that he did. I thought to myself, “Wow! I just met another guy here who’s vegan and who does a podcast but not only that I felt a true connection to this person even though we hadn’t met before. Just they way he answered the question, I liked the guy within the first within the first 5-10 seconds of meeting him. So we started talking and I asked him to be a guest on my podcast. He agreed and I am going to bring on him in just a few minutes. His name is Anuj Shah.

Dr. Dave: “So the first thing I am going to ask him, before we get into anything else. Anuj, tell me, Am I correct? I connected with you right away and I feel like you are a happy guy. Did I hit the nail on the head?”

Anuj: “Hey Dr. Dave first and foremost I want to thank you for having me on your show. This is awesome. It is so much fun to be on your show. And I really want to echo your thoughts. You meet all kinds of people and its like you said. People are great and it’s a lot of fun but there are certain people that you meet that you just form a connection with. There’s an instant chemistry and I feel that with you too. I’m really happy that we met.

And that answers part of your question, am I a happy guy? The first thing I’ll say is a resounding yes. And you know happiness is an interesting word. What I will say is that there is happiness, there’s joy, there’s fulfilment, there’s a lot of different ways to look at this but I will tell you that I feel so incredibly blessed.

The last few years I have really been living in a state of gratitude for even the simplest things. Even the fact that I have eyes that can see and ears that can hear, and I can eat, and function, and run and walk, and jump, and work out. So that’s certainly one level of it. I know that everybody is doing the best that they can. And a lot of times what happens with us in these sort of Western industrial societies is that we’re all in this rat race just trying to survive. It’s hard for people to connect with their deeper selves in all the business of life and I certainly understand that. I think I was able to find a why and a purpose. When you find a deeper purpose or deeper fulfillment within yourself you really connect with a deeper level with yourself. And that really is something that can produce joy and happiness. And I feel so blessed to have done that and so lucky to have done that.

Way back when I was a teenager, back in 1989, I came across some literature that had me start looking at what I was eating and the choices that I was making around food. And overnight one particular day I decided that I would be plant based diet. I didn’t know what the word vegan was at the time. There was no such word. The book that I was reading at the time was Fit for Life II : Living Health. There was a big chapter on animal products. I still remember it was February 28th, 1989 at 2:35am and I am reading this chapter and I finished the animal products chapter and I said oh my gosh, I can’t put this stuff into my body. And I said I am never eating animal products again. I thought to myself, you mean to tell me that the chicken sandwich I had this afternoon with my friends at at XYZ restaurant is the last meat I’ll ever eat? And I thought for about two seconds and I said yeah I guess that’s it. At that time, that wasn’t my “aha” moment as in this was the purpose to my life. But something clicked within me at that time.

A couple of months later, I read a book called Diet for A New America. That book is so beautiful. It basically transformed my life. The book has four parts to it. Basically there are four reasons why people would want to be on a vegan diet. There’s the health aspect of it. That’s something that there is tremendous research in favor of so we don’t need to talk about it. There’s the environmental destruction that happens from animal agriculture and that’s been coming up more and more. There’s a wonderful documentary called Cowspiracy that has come out within the last 12 to 15 months. It’s gone viral on
Netflix and that kind of thing. There’s also a world hunger connection and of course there’s the animal connection. It’s how these animals are treated, how they’re bred, how they’re being caged and mutilated and dismembered and finally slaughtered in these farms and slaughterhouses.

That connected so deeply with me. I had never thought of that before. I think I always chose not to look at that. But I started connecting with a much deeper part of my heart and myself. And I remember crying through different parts of the book. Right then and there something hit me and I thought you know what? This is going to be the purpose. I think we are all better than this. All of us have a deep level of love and compassion within us. For some of us it might be buried deeper than others. We all have different life experiences. But right then and there that summer of 1989 is when I found my why. And ever since that time it has transformed my life.

I am actually a lawyer right now and I find a lot of joy in my practice and I love it. And you’ll never hear a lawyer say that. I am probably one in a thousand. But I really loved law school and I love practicing law. I love the fact that I am vegan and that it has really transformed my life and how I look at the world. It’s just a different paradigm, a different way of living. I’m so blessed with the career that I have, a wonderful family, and I have all my health. What is there not to be happy and joyful about? So it was a little bit of a longer answer that you might have anticipated Dr. Dave but I am just so deeply humbled when I think about how blessed I am. Yes, indeed not only am I happy but I am deeply fulfilled and I’m deeply joyful. And I am thrilled and honored to be able to share that with you.”

Dr. Dave: “I think I was actually correct when I came across this guy Anuj. I hit the nail on the head. He is just the kind of guy that you want to hang out with. And I know you gave a long answer but that’s ok. I said before we started for you to talk as long as you want because I think it would really help my listeners a lot. I have all types of listeners. A lot of them are vegan but a lot of them aren’t. A lot of them are listening to the message and I know what they’re thinking. They’re thinking it works for Dr. Dave, it’s working for Anuj, and Dave tells me all these great stories but I need my yogurt in the morning, I love my cheese, I can’t give that stuff up, it will be tough in social circles. How will I explain to people that I am vegan? I know it works for some people but I just don’t think I can do it. I’m not convinced it’s really the type of thing that I want to do. But I am a plant based vegan and it’s changed my life like it has changed yours. So talk to the person who has been listening to the message and maybe are considering it. What’s going to get them over the edge? Can you help me with that? Again, I don’t push people at all, I lead by example. I’ve told my listeners many times Anuj that I still love them. Whatever they are doing in their lives. I don’t look down on anybody that is still eating meat and using animals. A lot of my friends and family still do. I was doing it myself several years ago. Speak to the person that’s listening to the message but is not really sure what they want to do.”

Anuj: “Dr. Dave you raise a few really great points and I absolutely agree with you. It’s not even an issue or a question of looking down. We are all people. We are all brothers and sisters on this journey of life together. And as you said we all have different timetables, different life experiences, and different backgrounds. Until I was 18, I was actually anti-vegetarian. It’s really funny. In high school when I was doing debates, I would be on the anti-vegetarian team. And somehow something opened up in me when it did. And I came across the literature I explained a few moments ago. Something shifted in me. All I know is that have lived an incredibly blessed and incredibly vital life. I have so much energy. I am so healthy. I am just grateful! You know what? I am in my 40’s now and I appreciate the fact that you referred to me as young.”

Dr. Dave: ” I never would have thought that. I would honestly guess much younger. Seriously! How old are you 41?”

Anuj: “ok, I am 45.”

Dr. Dave: “Wow! I know my listeners can’t see you but I would have guessed about 35. Honestly. I am not kidding.”

Anuj: “I think the only reason you would have guessed that Dr. Dave is that I have a lot of silver in my hair now. I think if I dyed my hair (which I don’t want to do) I would look much younger than that. I feel vibrant. At my age, most American men are on some kind of medication. They are taking blood thinners, cholesterol lowering medication, people are having their hearts stop, or they are having diabetes pop up. And I have nothing. In a quarter of a century, I have never taken a pill for anything. I live an incredibly vibrant life. I exercise regularly, have good relationships, and love my career. And I eat a wonderful plant based diet. All of that combines to create so much health and vigor and vitality that it really is a way to live by example.”

Dr. Dave: “I want to share something with you Anuj. I think I told you how old I was earlier. I am 61 and guess what? I take zero medications. I believe the statistic is that average people in North America over 45 are on at least 3 types of medication or something like that. I am on zero and you are on zero. I think that is kind of like big to me. It’s not a scientific study but it does say something.”

Anuj: “Dr. Dave huge. I mean and 3 sounds really low. When you start to think of all the health issues that people start having in the United States on the Standard American Diet (S.A.D.). When you start hitting 40 and above, people have cholesterol, they have diabetes, they have heart disease, they have different organs that aren’t functioning properly. So I mean 3 sounds kind of low. So I want to echo your sentiments about living by example. We are not judging anyone. I lovingly offer information. I am passionate about my podcast because what I do is I talk to different kinds of people. I have interviewed bodybuilders, scientists, nutritionists, and doctors. I have interviewed people from an ethical point of view about animals. I have interviews on my schedule for the environment and the ecological connection with animal agriculture. I am offering information because we want to educate and inspire people. Because this information is not that readily available. Whether it was divine intervention or destiny or whatever you want to call it, those books landed in my hands for a reason. There is no reason that those books should have necessarily landed in my hands but they did. I am so blessed to have the opportunity to create these podcasts and interview incredible people that have done wonderful research and are making a real difference in the world in their fields. We have huge multi billion dollar industries that are interested in keeping people taking drugs and prescriptions and eat meat foods. And so this information is usually hidden and is not really available. So it’s great to be able to share this information to allow people to listen to things they haven’t heard in other arenas. Hopefully you’ll feel inspired and educated to open their hearts and minds and say hey I want to live this way.”

Dr. Dave: “You just shared something with me a few minutes ago when we were chatting before we began recording. You said that you were doing something later this month and where will you be in California?”

Anuj: “Sure, so I am on the board of a number of organizations. I have been vegan for almost 3 decades now and have traveled the world and been a part of several vegan rights organizations. Currently I am on the board for Go Vegan Radio that stems out of California and they have the World Vegan Summit. It is coming up on July 29th, 30th, and 31st. It’s a Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. It’s going to be an incredible event. The World Vegan Summit last year was in Los Angeles in March. It’s a 3 day event where people come together to discuss these issues. What’s happening in the world around vegan food, plant based agriculture, animal ethics, and all kinds of wonderful things. When you are in a place like Vegetarian Summerfest, like we are now, and you have like minded people who share a common passion and a common goal, it just fills your cup in a whole new way. You leave feeling so inspired, so invigorated, and so rejuvenated. You feel like you are not alone. And you’re not! In 2016, this is an exploding phenomenon. When I was vegan in 1989, I was kind of alone. But this is a whole different thing. And it’s wonderful to go to these events, make connections with people, and feel like you are not alone. I know the Western culture tends to talk about individualism and we think it’s great to be an individualist and there’s nothing wrong with being an individualist in a lot of ways but we’re also people who crave social connection, love, joy, and companionship. So it’s great to be in environments like this where we can share that with each other. All these things combine for a wonderful way for us to get together and inspire people.”

Dr. Dave: “I call it a giant vegan mastermind group. I don’t know how many people are here – hundreds or maybe even a thousand. By the time this podcast is released I think your event may be close to over, I’m not sure. So if you can’t make it this year, make plans for next year for sure. Anuj let my listeners know exactly how to get in touch with you. I have a feeling you connected with many of them today. ”

Anuj: “Well, again thank you so much for having me on the show. It’s been such an honor and I feel so humbled to be able to do this. It’s wonderful. I hope I connected with people because I know that it’s all on everyone’s time. For whatever reason, like I said moments ago, those books came into my life and I connected with those authors and their message. And so if there is anyway that I connected with people here and they are inspired, I am just overjoyed. My website is www.speakingofvegan.com. The podcast is available right there and you can listen live. If you have an iPhone you can listen on iTunes and subscribe. It’s all free and it will automatically download to your phone when a new episode is released. We release one episode every couple weeks.  Please invite people to listen. Like us on Facebook. Send comments and suggestions. If anyone out there is inspired and wants to be on the show if you’re vegan or you have ideas, I would be thrilled. This is a community. It’s not a one man show. This is a village!”

Dr. Dave: “Thank you so much Anuj for taking time out of your busy schedule to be on the show. I am honored that you could be on my podcast. Let’s do something in the future again. Episode #146 is almost in the books. I will give Anuj the last word. See you guys next week! Here’s Anuj for the last word”

Anuj: “Hey guys! It has really been an honor to connect with you here. I am interviewing Dr. Dave for my podcast as well. so tune in to Speaking of Vegan. We have a bunch of interviews we are doing here. So stay tuned and as soon as we are up and running I will send the info to Dr. Dave and he will let you know. Be well. Be safe. Open your hearts and I hope you go vegan.”

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145 – Live Your Life Not Theirs

Highlights from today’s show…

  1. Dr. Dave is LIVE from Vegetarian Summerfest in Johnstown, PA! 
  2. Dr. Dave talks about happiness and living your own life. 
  3. Dr. Dave tells us what the “Magic 4” is…

Hey there! It’s Dr. Dave. Welcome back to The David Madow Lifestyle Show. This is episode #145. And as you know, this is the show where I help you live stronger, thinner, healthier, and happier.

You can take those four word however you want. Stronger does not necessarily mean physically strong. It could, but you can be stronger in many ways. I am so glad to have you back. If you are a new listener, welcome! I am so glad you are here.

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I take 20 minutes of your time only once a week. I give you things that I’ve got from my heart, my soul, my mouth to help you live your best life ever. It’s normally me and I talk for 20 minutes straight. I hope you like it! I try to keep you entertained and have some fun here while I teach you The David Madow Lifestyle. Once in awhile, I will have a guest on.

It’s a beautiful today. Today, I am at the University of Pittsburgh attending the Vegetarian Summerfest . This is my first year being here. It has been going on for many years and let me just say it’s an awesome group of people. There are hundreds of people that attend from all over North America. Luckily, it’s only a three hour drive from where I live. There are classes, incredible vegan meals, and wonderful people that I am networking with. This is incredible. If you are vegan, vegetarian, or just thinking about it, be sure to check it out next year. I hope to be back!

This morning, I led a class titled “10 Ways to Supercharge Your Life” and it was really well attended. I performed two vegan parody songs here Thursday night. I think it went really really well. I am hoping that they invite me back as a speaker/performer next year. Even if they don’t I am sure I will be back as an attendee and network and meet new friends. I look at it as like a summer camp or vacation. Come join me next year!

For those of you that are brand new, if you know my name (David Madow) you can pretty much find me anywhere. Just hang with me. The more we hang together, the more we will help each other. I will help you in any way I can. I just love living this lifestyle, The David Madow lifestyle. The only reason I call it that is because I have learned things over many many years and have made tons of mistakes. I do not have all the answers and I am not perfect. But I can tell you that in my 61 years of being on this planet, I can pretty much from experience tell you that I can teach you (and myself) how to live the best life. One of the ways that I talk about is taking animals out of our diet. Not using animals for clothing or for entertainment with the exception of pets. As long as you are not using them to do crazy things because “we are human beings and we are better than them.” No, no that stuff’s not good. There may be vegans that disagree with me on that, I don’t know. But I have three cats and I love dogs. I love all animals. I try to respect them all.

But that’s not actually the topic of today’s show. Today’s topic is “Live Your Life Not Theirs”.  What I mean by that is, and I am not saying you, but a lot of people are living a life that is not really yours. What I mean by that is that you’re concerned with what your next door neighbor may be driving, the new kitchen they just put in their house, or the country club they just joined. You maybe even begin to compete with them and you don’t know you’re doing it. It becomes a subconscious thing. When we are not happy with ourselves from within; we are constantly trying to look at others, compete with others, we become jealous of others. We start to gossip with others because we are not happy with ourselves. We don’t love our self. And I am not talking about narcissistic personality disorder. I am talking about being so happy with who you are and so happy from within that it doesn’t matter what other people around you are doing or thinking about you. A lot of us know one of those people. I probably used to be one of those people.

I am going to take a quick diversion for a second. Animals don’t really have any true possessions. Sometimes humans evaluate our lives and others’ lives based on the possessions that they have. Some people think that the more money they have and the more possessions that they have, then the better they are and the happier they are. But think about this. Animals don’t have anything. The only thing they have is their lives.

We all need to live our very own life. What about what we do on a daily basis? What about what we do for a living? Are we truly doing it for ourselves? Or are we doing it to look better than someone else?

Let me tell you something. Other people aren’t looking at you as much as you think they are. You’re trying to impress other people with you fancy car and what you have and other people are not at you as much as you think they are so do things that you want to do.

I know I have talked about this before but this is my 145th episode. There’s nothing that’s like brand new out there that’s going to be earth shattering. A lot of times I may talk about the same topic but with a different twist on it. And I have definitely talked about what type of relationship are you in. Are you trying to impress others with your relationship but you’re miserable? Are you trying to impress others with the job that you hold or the profession that you are in but you truly know that you want to be doing something else? Are you afraid to do it because of what others might think? I hope that’s not the case. And this is crazy but I have seen people groom their kids to do something they love and they think is so cool and that they think is going to impress a lot of people. But maybe they don’t really want to do that. Let’s live our lives the way we want to live it. Let’s give our kids choices. Who cares what others think?! Live your life and not theirs. \

Have I always dones this? Admittedly, no. But for quite some time not I have. And I’ve never been happier. I have several businesses that I love. I am living the life I want to live.

When I was practicing dentistry friends and family members told that I couldn’t get out of practicing dentistry to do something crazy like teaching other dentists and helping other dentists. What are people going to think of you? I personally don’t care what other people think of me. I hope many people think that I am doing a great thing for other people. I am also helping animals all over the planet. I am teaching other human beings to live their best life ever and to be compassionate and care about other beings. And I am proud of it! And I love it! And I am thankful every single day that I am doing what I love.

I do a lot of running and walking outdoors on the streets and sometimes on trails. I remember when I was younger I used to do a decent amount of walking on the track. I haven’t done workouts on the track in a long time. So I am thinking to myself that I am 61 and I am still able to run really well, I walk, and I backpack, and I ski. But I think it would be a really good idea for me to get back to the track. As a matter of fact, we just moved our Madow Brothers office to a smaller space. So many of our staff work virtually these days. So we just moved and it’s adjacent to a high school with a beautiful track. So I think I am going to go over to the track and do some workouts. I think it will be good to actually time myself for a mile or half mile and then start to compete with myself a bit and try to get a little bit better over time.

On Thursday morning I led a really nice walk/run with about 20-25 people. I was the leader and it was 6:30 a.m. And I led the group for all fitness levels. I am leading another run tomorrow morning. It will probably be more people tomorrow since most people show up for the weekend. So I will probably have about 20-30 people. I am going to start off with a nice walk like we did on Thursday. I plan to share with people that you don’t have to be a runner to be in great shape. I think that walking is the best exercise known to man. I do a lot of different things but when it comes down to it, I am not saying that you should only walk but it is such a powerful exercise. I really believe in the power of the “Magic 4”.  The “Magic 4” refers to getting out and trying to walk 4 miles every single day. And it is best to do it in one clip or 4 miles straight without stopping. You’ll notice tremendous changes in your body and in your psyche. It’s life changing!

We need to live our lives like they are ours and not theirs. Do not live your life based on what other people want you to do. did you write that down? 😉 Say that phrase every day.

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